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Loneliness or depression ?

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george50487
george50487

since I lost my partner, last year, I have been battling with a range of symptoms/feelings that are quite out of context for me.

I tried some anti-depressants from my GP, but they did nothing apart from make my symptoms worse.

I've always been a gregarious sort of chap, but this feelintg of uselessness and isolation is getting me a bit down.  any help most welcome,

George.

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  • hypercat
    hypercat george50487

    Posted

    Thank you George.  The one who posted on here whom you said was a very old friend of yours and was in a bad way.  Bev x
    • george50487
      george50487 hypercat

      Posted

      tHANK YOU, bEV, iF i DIDN'T KNOW BETTER, i WOULD SAY THAT hOWARD IS DYING OF A BROKEN HEART< and i seem to impotent to change things for the better. saw him the other day in hospital, very thin and frail. not eating at all.he still clings to the past and cannot relate to the modern world,

      i will do my best for him, and never give up, but how can you replace his lifelong "loved one",

      it makes me sad to see an old chum "off colour",

      speak soon,

      george. xxx and="" i="" seem="" to="" impotent="" to="" change="" things="" for="" the="" better.="" saw="" him="" the="" other="" day="" in="" hospital,="" very="" thin="" and="" frail.="" not="" eating="" at="" all.he="" still="" clings="" to="" the="" past="" and="" cannot="" relate="" to="" the="" modern="" world,="" i="" will="" do="" my="" best="" for="" him,="" and="" never="" give="" up,="" but="" how="" can="" you="" replace="" his="" lifelong="" "loved="" one",="" it="" makes="" me="" sad="" to="" see="" an="" old="" chum="" "off="" colour",="" speak="" soon,="" george.="">

      i will do my best for him, and never give up, but how can you replace his lifelong "loved one",

      it makes me sad to see an old chum "off colour",

      speak soon,

      george. xxx>

  • em18236
    em18236 george50487

    Posted

    Sorry for your loss George.

    Any sort of trauma is bound to have an ongoing negative effect, especially something this significant! 

    If you haven't struggled with depression prior to this it's possible that your 'depression' is a result of the lonliness and that it is completely situational, just like how people who go through divorces/loss/job loss etc can have depression for various but short amounts of time. what i mean is that this will pass- this is as positive a thing you can hear right now! 

    I would recommend lots of love from family and friends, as being mentioned already i'd recommend lots of socialisation! If the symptoms persist for more than a year or so and are permanent and don't let up then maybe there is a more persistent underlying issue. 

    I hope things pick up for you soon

    • george50487
      george50487 em18236

      Posted

      Thank you, EM, I appreciate your comment. I'm sure I will get there, hopefully sooner than later.regards, George.
  • ema65741
    ema65741 george50487

    Posted

    i think that you are lonely a bit and that you need to take time to relax and think about yourself.
  • ema65741
    ema65741 george50487

    Posted

    i also think that you don't need anti-depressants because it is normal that you feel lost and lonely after losing your partner.
    • george50487
      george50487 ema65741

      Posted

      tHANK YOU ema, I agree. Antidepressants are only a temporary buffer, so i'm not being "macho", or anything, I prefer to resolve things without the hinderance of medication. Keep well, yours, George.xx
  • tracy73193
    tracy73193 george50487

    Posted

    Hi george so sorry for your loss, you sound lovely.  I actually clicked on this site by mistake but had to say please stay strong your partner would want you to be happy in time and it will take time x 
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