Losing my self belief about going out.

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Lately i have been panicking when i go out, even with my husband who is my safe person.

I have tried to stick at it despite the panic but this morning it beat me, I was so panicky i couldn't get dressed or go out at all.

I curled up on the sofa shaking and having bad panic symptoms for 3 hours.

Tomorrow I need to try again, somehow through the awful panic i always feel i need to get dressed, get in that car and go out but i don't believe i can do it, my husband is supportive and says i can but i don't see how.

This is killing me sad

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    This was me 4 years ago. Try not to let it ruin you. Go out anyway. The biggest issue with me was hyper awareness. I would leaev the house and suddenly be overly-aware of everything around me, which make my anxiety so much work. It fades with time, but only if you pust yourself out of your comfort zone. Force yourself to get out of the house ASAP, not tomorrow.
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      Thank you, I totally know what you mean about hyper awareness, I am the same, I would go out now but it's late here where I live and we have small kids in bed so I can't sadly.

      I will force it tomorrow though, I will tell myself i can do it and that it is happening no matter how i feel and I will push through that awful panic somehow, if I don't I will never get my life back at all.

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      hi Bella, try not to force it. accept the symptoms to the best of your ability. your panic is merely your stressed mind playing tricks with you. you wont die you wont collapse. just keep repeating in your mind that you can do this. fear thrives on fear, it keeps the cycle of panic healthy. 2 weeks ago my anxiety returned after a very stressful period. i had been good for 9years up to this. but i was determined to face up to it,i continued to shop, continued to visit family and friends though i didnt feel i could. im feeling a lot stronger now because standing up to panic brings a certain confidence and satisfaction. remember youare not alone, there are millions of anxiety sufferers outthere. it can be beaten. goodluck tomorrow, you can do it, and if you cant do it tomorrow then you can do it the next day. you WILL DO IT. 

       

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      Thank you, I am so glad you stood up to it and carried on, that is what i am trying to do but it's knocked me for six, it doesn't help that i panic virtually non stop wherever i am and it wakes me up all night too.

      I need to get some fight back and feel that fear but keep going, clothes on, hair brushed and in the car repeating to myself that i can and i will, my husband will be driving, he will talk to me and help me too, fingers crossed i can do this.

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      Bella, i find walking absolutely great in curtailing anxiety.if you can find an area you are comfortable then walk 30-40 minutes each day. panic is adreniline, and our brain since humans came on earth possess a fight of flight mechanism. when we become over stressed our brain becomes confused and percieves falselythat our body is under attack, hence the release of more adreniline and more panic. walking burns up this adreniline and releases serotonin (the happy mood) into our brain. walking hasproved to be a great tool in counter acting anxiety. obviously there are underlying reasons for your panic Bella and this needs to be addressed by a professional. but in the meantime you can relieve your panic by exercise. im coming out of my16 day depression right now but still have a little way to go. thank God my anxiety has subsided. ive had bouts of depression and anxiety all my life and the experience i have gained has been invaluable. i know i beat it before and this gives me confidence i can beat it again. talking about it is the first step to recovery, and well done to you Bella and everyone on this forum for taking that positive step and talked.we are brave people, and our illness is nothing tobe ashamedof, its just our mind has had to endure too much stress. things will get better.smile
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    Don't push it all at once, just get up and take a little stroll, 5-10 minutes, then go home. Keep doing this and gradually make the strolls longer.
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      Thank you, I am trying to take it slow, it will be in the car tomorrow, it's not a long journey but not one i can walk and i need to do it, it's a journey i have to do on a regular basis so i can't ignore it or step back from it if you see what i mean.

      It's a huge battle just getting dressed and opening the door though so i need to make that step, one more step than i managed today would be amazing.

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    I'm the same way. I've been forced out of the house, which makes it 1000x worse. Y'know? I feel this panic inside & it feels like I'm going mad, especially when I'm in public with a lot of people I don't know. I get shaky, have trouble breathing, & I get this pressure in my head half the time.
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      It's horrible but please keep doing it because it's the only way forward and believe me I am struggling to do it more than ever at the moment, today i forced myself and yes it felt horrible but i cried with relief when it was done.

      Tell your mind you can do it, tell those feelings they are not important and take small steps if you can, feel the fear, it cannot harm you and we cannot let it win.

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      I've been TRYING. Trust me. Lately, my sleeping patterns have been awful. Last night, I fell asleep by 8pm, woke up at 10-10:30ish P.M. & I when I fell asleep, I woke up close to 2am. I haven't slept since then. I'm trying to go to sleep no earlier than 9pm, like a NORMAL person. I just have so much trouble sleeping, because I have this pressure-feeling in my head & I start having trouble catching a breath. It's awful.
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      I am the same with sleep except i have to cave in and take an hour in the day,for 8 weeks i have not slept properly, i jolt awake after an hour and sleep very fitfully, my symptoms and fear keep waking me up all night, it really doesn't help at all sad
    • Posted

      I have the fitfullness & fear, as well. I only get 1 to 2 hour's of sleep sometimes. I can never get a full 8-10 hour's of sleep now.
    • Posted

      I feel for you and completely understand, i'm the same and it just makes life even harder, it's bad enough being anxious without being constantly sleep deprived too.
    • Posted

      I could handle the anxiety much better, when I'm not tired. I just feel delirious when I haven't gotten much sleep, along with the anxiety. sad
    • Posted

      I know what you mean, being tired makes the symptoms so much worse, I feel like I am 90% anxious and 10% exhausted in a way I have never been exhausted before sad
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      The lack of sleep will do that, I feel like I can never see clearly anymore and I have had a full eye check which was all fine, it's a horrible thing, we really do need some rest, i just wish i knew how to get it sad
    • Posted

      It probably is the exhaustion yes, thank you, I hope you get some sleep soon too.

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