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valerie21605
valerie21605

Hi!  I have just recently found this forum, and not sure if i should be posting on it!  I lost my beloved pet and guide dog Harley 3 years ago come 25th June, and its as though it was only yesterday!  I just can't seem to get over his loss!  People keep saying (he was only a dog) but he wasn't that to me!  is there anyone out there prepared to listen? its as if part of my life has gone!  Val.

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  • tiswas24537
    tiswas24537 valerie21605

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    oh sweet heart i understand totaly just thinking about loosing my dog makes me cryand there only pets ,but harley was your support as well hun . 

    dogs get in to your heart and become part of us .so when we loose them its like loosing a child .

    a lot of people think that dogs dont have souls, but i truely believe that they do and i am sure at troubled times you will sense him near . 

    i am sure its going to be a painful time for you ,will you be getting another dog i know it will never be the same , but it will help you to heal . 

    you can talk to me hear as much as you like hun . 

    • valerie21605
      valerie21605 tiswas24537

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      Oh Sweetheart!  I just can't bring myself to get another dog!  Sitting here crying for my beloved Harley!  Found one of his toys today, and have been crying over him since!  Although its been nearly 3 years, there's not a day goes by, but i don't cry for him!  he used to sing me a song if i'd left him for any time when i came home again!  He was such a gentle and such a mum's dog!  I'm so glad that i can talk about him to someone, and hope you will keep in touch with me.  Thank you so much for being there for me.  Val.
    • tiswas24537
      tiswas24537 valerie21605

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      no problem hun . 

      put your self down for another dog ,harvey still loves you hun even in spirit  and he will send the right dog to look after you trust me .

      spirit is strong between man and dog theres a bond that can t be broke even after death. he will always be near you . hold him in your heart and when your quite you will proberly sense him near you .

      ,i am such a numbty hun i love dogs so much iv got tears in my eyes as i write this and i didnt even no harvey . but i know the bond you have lost and i really feel for you .

    • valerie21605
      valerie21605 tiswas24537

      Posted

      Hi Tiswas!  That was such a comforting reply. Sometimes i think i can feel Harley beside me.  My best friend sent me through the post a toy dog which just feels like Harley.  Infact, that's what i've decided to name him.  She knew it was near to harley's anniversary and thought it would be a comfort.  It was so good of her, and I cried when i received it about half an hour ago.  he's on my lap at the moment.  Thanks again.  Val.
    • tiswas24537
      tiswas24537 valerie21605

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      are what a lovely thought . you will feel him hun dogs go to spirit to and will stay around you until they know your safe and cared for . thats why i am pretty sure you should put your self down for another. harvey would have wanted you to .he wouldnt want you to be alone.

      i have two terriers what a handful ,not by choice we had our layla a patterdale cross such a lovely house dog no yapping no destruction ever we got her from rescue kennals in 2006 . i like to get rescue dogs because they need love more because they have all ready rejected .

      we had a boxer from rescue to she was a big old softie .

      then we get landed with nutty loopey  dog , my daughter split from her partner and couldnt take dog to hostel , so we said we would look after him till she got a flat ,

      and we still have him a year on .

      his a holey little sh*t but he makes you laugh , his a border terrier who my daughter rescued from face book someone brought him couldnt cope with him and put him on face book for sale [some people]

      his cost us a fortune getting thru fences , we have had to redo the whole back garden , he even squeesed thru plastic chain linked fence  .but he sits there with one ear flipped back with who me!  look on his face , and you just got to laugh .

    • tiswas24537
      tiswas24537 valerie21605

      Posted

      god i only mentioned a certain media social site as it was to do with the story i was telling you about how we came to have my daughters dog .

      i write it again if the moderator dosent pass it . 

      i am to shattered to write it again at the moment

    • valerie21605
      valerie21605 tiswas24537

      Posted

      Oh Sweetheart!  I  know exactly what you mean!  when you feel ready, write it.  Val.
    • tiswas24537
      tiswas24537 valerie21605

      Posted

      i did rewrite it and even without mentioning the web site it still went  to moderator.
    • valerie21605
      valerie21605 tiswas24537

      Posted

      Don't know if you've read that book "Marley and me"  i've just read it, and your little dog sounds a rogue like Marley!  Loved that book, and even though Marley was a rogue he was a lovable one!  Howled my eyes out when it came to the part when he had to be put to sleep.  Val.
    • tiswas24537
      tiswas24537 valerie21605

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      oh god val !  i read the book war horse yes i love horses to inteligent horses and dogs.

      thats why i love them certain people can conect with them and i feel a real conection with horses and dogs . 

      war horse broke my heart i sobbed myheart out . 

      i love the film turner  and hooch but honestly nearly chocked on my tears .i have trouble with concentrating now and holding the weight of the book is agoney another pleasure that this condition has robbed me of .

      i started watching marley and me on tv a few months back but i knew i would get to upset .so i turned it of .

      theres two songs i just cant bare to listen to ones old shep by elvis, and old tige jim reeves i think .god just sob my heart out .i am totaly a emotionaly mess .  when it comes to my animals .  to much cruelty in this world i wish i could protect them all 

    • Saunter
      Saunter tiswas24537

      Posted

      It helps me to believe ill see them in the hereafter. Altho I really feel sad.  
    • Saunter
      Saunter tiswas24537

      Posted

      This helps me . Many religious leaders including Billy Graham and the Pope believe pets go to heaven, comforts me . I mean these guys have to do research before they say a thing like that. I like it. 
  • frustrated61
    frustrated61 valerie21605

    Posted

    Hello Valerie ~

    I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your family member, Harley.  We lost ours around the same time as you.  We had her for many years and even though I know it was time, we still feel the loss.  No one can put a time on how people react and come back from a loss so close to you.  

    However, I will agree with Tis that perhaps if you're on the list for another dog, it may help you through your rough times.  And also I agree that they are sensitive and know when we are hurting and they "tend" to us like we do them.  Odd thing happened a while back, my daughter's dog is a mans dog, don't get me wrong, she's sweet to everyone but she usually hangs around the guys.  One day we were over her home for dinner and all the sudden I was feeling strange.  Joy (the dogs name) would NOT move from my feet.  Everyone noticed and when I told them I wasn't feeling well, they were in awe...me too!

    So my dear, they are the unconditional loves that our good Lord put in this world to help us!

    I hope you feel better soon.  And, while I come on as much as I can, I do get notification if you've written me.  I will definitely answer.  

    Feel better,

    Frustrated

    • valerie21605
      valerie21605 frustrated61

      Posted

      Hi Frustrated!  Thanks so much for replying and sharing that lovely story about your daughter's dog!  I have just replied to Tiswas telling her that i can't bring myself to get another dog!  I sometimes feel that my beloved Harley is still with me!  (I wish) Its so good to know that there are people out there who understand and don't say (he was only a dog!)  Thanks again.  Val.
  • georgeGG
    georgeGG valerie21605

    Posted

    Hello Val,

    you are not only right but welcome to come on this forum. All of us on this forum are hurting. Not all are bereaved but some most definately are. Some feel the loss of a loved one, others a limb, many a way of life it may be from a disease like Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, or ME, or MS, Arthritis, Cancer and many other conditions that utterly change the direction of their lives. You too are bereaved, you have lost your sight and now a dear companion who became your lost vision. Of course you feel your bereavement and are as welcome here as any of us.

    I do hope that you will find solace from sharing experiences and gaining advice from others who have suffered in similar ways to you. I remember what bitter tears I shed when our young pug died of a heart attack. He was but two years old. We were just setting out in the harsh school of suffering. My mother had died of MS a few years earlier. Two years earlier we had lost  our first and only daughter. We were rejoicing and totally exhausted with our infant twin boys. Then our pug died. I did not count my bitter tears wasted nor my anguished cries inappropriate. We have had other dogs and I have wept at their departure too. So come among us. I pray that you will find comfort. Also, look around, for it may well be that you will comfort and guide us in your turn.

    Frustrated calls me Doc, it is an old joke for I am no medic. Please do so too if that pleases you,

    Doc

    • valerie21605
      valerie21605 georgeGG

      Posted

      Hi Doc!  Thanks so much.  My grief is nothing compared to what you have been through!  I hope god gives you the strength as i'm sure he is doing so that you can cope as well as you seem to be doing!  Thank you for your prayers keep them up as i need as many as i can get to help me cope with the loss of my beloved Harley!  People say i should be over him after nearly 3 years, but i can't seem to shake off my grief!  Thanks again for replying, and God bless.  Val.
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