Meds or no meds? Need advice, please!

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After 3 months in therapy, I'm finally seeing a psychiatrist. First of all, anxiety is a b****. General physicians don't make it any easier. I feel like they're always trying to pump you with pills to get you out as quickly as possible. And therapists don't know as much as doctors do about medicine and physical reactions so I've been reluctant to take their suggestion about taking medication. I'm not sure a psychiatrist would be particularly better, but they seem to fit the bill. 

I've been dealing with anxiety for 6 months now, and frankly, I've been missing out on so much because of it that now my depression is getting worse. I can't drive anywhere, I can't be left alone, I can't do a lot of things I used to enjoy so much. 

I DESPERATELY WANT MY LIFE BACK, but I'm seriously terrified of the side effects. I'm also super sensitive to meds, which makes me believe I'll feel ALL those side effects.

I just need some genuine advice, tough love, real stories, tips, questions I should ask my psychiatrist, ANYTHING! 

Should I go on meds? Which worked for you? What side effects did you feel? How long did they last?

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    Hi Mitch, I understand the feeling. I don't have much advice for you, just know you're not alone. I really hope you the answers you're looking g for
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    everyone is different and will respond differently to meds or treatments both doctors and pyschiatrists are both qualified in their own feilds and will work hand in hand with your gp. I understand your concern with medication Ive been on and off them for years this time I was adament that i wouldnt go back on tablets as I believe in holistic and natural remedies but after four months I realised that I also needed perscribed medication for a while. All meds will have side effects some worse than others Im on anti depressents and beta blockers not a high dose compered to some as every ones symptons are different as are their needs. No one can force you to take medication so it would be your choice and how strong mentally you feel, I had side effects for three weeks on my I was aware of this they wernt nice but i rode through it and they have definately helped. anxiety unfortunately does take over your life to the point where you cant lead a "normal" life but with my self i cant talk for anyone else Im begining to get my life back on track, I know I will get through this and i know in time i will go through it again but I change my life style with using oils, breathing techniques, and  cbt this helps me get through it better. I hope you find the right help to support you let people in to help you dont suffer alone
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      Ready your reply to this message has made me feel a bit better, my husband is suffering terrible at the moment and I'm having trouble keeping it together, your post sounds positive, thanks
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      Thank you, it's just been so hard as of lately. I had never dealt with anxiety THIS BAD. I lived with depression for such a long time, but I learned to manage it with time. I was still fully functional. Anxiety is the total opposite. I literally cannot be by myself without being consumed by the fear that I will have a heart attack and no one will be around to help. It's definitely something I'm SLOWLY learning to live with. But it's definitely been the hardest year of my life thus far. 

      I'm glad to hear that you're getting your life back. I love hearing inspiring and positive stories about recovery. Keep fighting smile

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      Hi narberth im pleased if i can help in some way I believe unless you have gone through it or living with someone who goes through it its very hard to understand its a horrible illness and it is an illness but the thing about it is you feel trapped in your own body. any way i can help please just post  I know even talking to someone in the same boat can have a positive affect keep going my love 
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    First of all you have the right to refuse any medication they are not magic pills they sometimes help to take the edge off. Medication is a personal thing and it reacts differently with each individual what works for one may not for another.

    GP are not experts in anything they just know a little about most illnesses

    You wouldnt go to a gynacologist if there was something wrong with your eye you would go to a ophthalmolisist.!!!!!!

    So go to the expert a psychiatrist they specialise in mental illnesses.

    Anxiety is nasty I am not disputing that but you gonna have to try and help yourself.

    If the therapy that you have had did not work try a more robust form

    Stay Strongcool

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    Hi my husband has had deppression and anxiety for 3 months now, out of the blue.  The Diazapam he take do calm him, stop him moving around and crying.(of course the more he takes the less they work) He started taking citalopram and got worse. now I know patients get worse before they get better but that was 12 weeks ago and he is now worse than every, every little thing worries him. He has lost weight, he cant go out, does not want to go out, even stopped watching Tv and smoking ( and he has smoked for years). We have managed to get an emergecy appointment on Monday with a consultant, we will certainly be questioning his medication and if it needs changing.  So I not saying I would not take any meds, but would question what, aske if you can be closely monitored, and if they are not working for you say so.  Think thearpy is definitly needed and talking about it even on a site like this helps.  I could not keep looking after ny husband if I could not talk to someone else.  Hope you find an answer soon

     

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      It's those extreme side effects you mention that i absolutely FEAR! 12 weeks is a little too much not to see any real positive change. I think it's definitely not the right medication for him. Hopefully your doctor finds the right fit for your husband. 

      But if I have a little suggestion for you, it would be to find support. Get some counseling for yourself. I think it could make it easier for you to be there for your husband. You can also find support groups outside of therapy/counseling. But please be strong & take care of YOUR needs also. Depression is a bitch and it can become extremely daunting to care for someone with it. You can eventually burn out and become depressed too. But when he gets out of that dark place he will thank you for the rest of his life. 

      Thanks for you reply! All my best wishes to you and your husband.

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      Hi Mitch  thanks for the your needs bit, We saw phsyciatrist for first time yesterday and they have changed his meditaction. They are also sending the crisis home support group to our home every day now to help us both. I am being careful as I can feel myself slipping, ( I didn't want to get out of bed this morning) but I did.  Looked up  your reply again and it helped.  Cheers for being someone who I dont know that I can let of steam to.

       

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    I would see a therapist and psychiatrist and see if they can work together for your needs. Some meds will work and some won't, it's a matter of finding the right one although in this day and age, I doubt you have the luxury nor are willing enough to basically make yourself a guinea pig. I once was prescribed an anti-depressant that made me feel worse, it took my ability to feel any type of pain and that sent my anxiety flying through the roof so I stopped because I'd rather feel than not and I just dealt with it by seeing my therapist and a nutritionist who gave me supplements to regulate my body because it was in overdrive and causing my to lose major weight. A couple years later, I was going through it again and was prescribed mirtazapine which didn't have negative side effects for me, it makes you sleepy but that's what I wanted because I wouldn't sleep at that time. I eventually stopped once I was able to manage my anxiety and depression through counseling and practicing what I'd learn in everyday life.

    If you're uncomfortable with medication, counseling and your willingness to deal with it is really all you can do.

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      Thank you! That's my situation at the moment. I'm seeing my therapist and if I start on meds, she'll be working alongside the psychiatrist smile

      I definitely don't wanna go from medication to medication. 6 months of depression and anxiety is already long enough, if I start on a med that increases my anxiety, I feel like that would be going back to square one. Then again, my progress as of 6 months has not been much so that's why I'm seriously considering medication. On the one hand, it could increase my anxiety, but it could also lower it just enough to practice my therapy tehcniques. 

      Thank you for you reply!

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      Yeah definitely. Ever since my first experience with taking meds for my depression and anxiety, I was like NOPE to all medication but when I took Mirtazapine, I was desperate at that time that I just needed a "running start" because I felt it was too difficult to cope mentally at the time that I couldn't practice CBT. I don't think there's anything wrong with meds if you just need it for the really low moments and don't depend on it in the long run.
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    You might find it interesting to know a out cyp450. Its how you body metabolizes meds. Its real and you can test for it. Thats why yiur "sensitive" to meds. They are made universally in a scale of the average. Drs fail to care ir achkniwledge that i have no clue why. I have this and have had what aooeared as an iverdose effects with taking the average amt. thats why. My doctor always gave me lowest doses and ince in a while that didnt work because if the body doesnt metabolize it it build up and well gets bad, so nit that your sensitive in a bad way its how you metabolize the medicines. But not qll go on the same receptors so there is a medicine out there but youd need to know the receptors it uses. I hope you understand what im explaining. It was explained to me very carefully by a wonderful doctor and i will be forever grateful to her. when explained to any doctor they all understand. It should be taught to every single doctor now be ause they can test for it and its scientifically evident based and tangible explanation. Which is how they think. Saying that there are alternatives, there is an entore field of complimentary medicine out there. Huge. Seek it out. L theanine is useful to calm. There is something called calm thats good. Theres cbt, eft, act, and other methods to learn to self calm.  You have to lave your frozen state of anxiety to begin all this, thre is no cure to return you fight or flight to its natural state. The scientist are having a very hard time with figuring it out because it connects to too many other areas of the brain and body. So start with yiur mind. Your rationale mind. Which is the key here. Fod made a back  up in us all. Your ratiinale mind can manage panic attacks, anxiety..etc. but it isnt instant or quick. Its basically retrqining you and how you think and feel. Tou will have to grow to change. You cant go back to your normql self it doesnt exist. Its what brought you to now. You have to now take the bull by the horns and rgroup yourself. Accept you have a disorder. Acklowdge it is what it is and to learn all ou can. Learn cbt without a doubt and be very proactive. Its a slow process with many setbacks and thats okay. Mindfullness worked on me. Its  not  a cure, theres no cure, it is to manqge it. Theres no magic pill, no magic wand, no instant gratification here. Its hard work and tons of it. It will redfine who you are and how you think. If yiu need meds, know they are short term and u ill have to withdraw at some point. So what if that is whats needed to help you thats okay too. As long as whilst in meds you still learn and obtain self calming skills. This mess is an internal battle. Thats the reality of it. 
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      Yes yes yes! I perfectly understand this! Every single body is different, for sure. Tell that to my doctors, though. They look at me like I'm crazy when I say I'm "sensitive" to meds. I've suggested going on antidepressants at a lower than therapeutic dose, but they assure me that they won't have any effect. I'm going to discuss this with my psychiatrist. Hopefully he can provide some support. 

      Accepting my disorder will definitely be a big, challenging step for me. I say I've accepted it, but I've merely acknowlegded it because I still avoid situations that make me panic. I've read cbt books that say I won't get rid of my panic attacks until I stop fearing them. It's so hard to simply accept it as harmless when I thought I would die the first time I had a panic attack. I'm still learning and informing myself so that's a step forward, right?

      Thanks for your reply, I really appreciate it!

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      The P450 enzyme with the most variation in different people is the CYP2D6, which processes many antidepressants and antipsychotic medications. By checking your DNA for certain gene variations, CYP450 tests can offer clues about how your body may respond to a particular antidepressant. Other CYP450 tests are available for other enzymes. tell your doctor to learn about the test. Thats just a fact. I want to restste it with no typos so anyone on here understands this is real. Learning to not fear them comes with time, knowledge and patience. Sometimes you cant help it as the symptoms change too. As odd as this sounds as time goes on you will get the idea that its easier to accept it all and function then it is to be thrown into constant panic and feel like poop. Meds dont cure it either, if they do work it makes it easier to deal with. The irony of all this is the fight or flight response is a mechanism to protect you. 
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