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Menopause causing confusion and upset

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arlene27752
arlene27752

I've just found this Forum but have noticed the last post was 2 mnths ago so dont want to go on if everyone has left would really apreciate any advice from any women aged 50+ or just even an ear to listen as feel very alone X

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  • kristin38307
    kristin38307 arlene27752

    Posted

    Arlene I two just recently found this and although I am only 47 would be more than happy to be an ear👂🏼. All of my friends are younger than me and I'm sure sick and tired of listening to me talk about my weight gain, hot flashes, night sweats, insomnia etc... So I too feel very alone. I may not have a whole lot of advice but I am a great listener.
  • Marley1
    Marley1 arlene27752

    Posted

    Hey Arlene I'm here to listen and going through Peri.

    Can I help in anyway?

    Marley X

  • TeresaJS
    TeresaJS arlene27752

    Posted

     Hi Arlene.

    I am sorry you're  a bit low...

    In here the posts are active and running. Many people post and don't go through  other people’s posts but I guess that’s the way it is.  What are your issues? Are you on HRT? Don’t feel supported by your doctors?

  • michelle50768
    michelle50768 arlene27752

    Posted

    Hi

    Im 48 been in perimenopause for 8 years. Like the other ladies happy to talk.

    Believe me I know how hard it can be x

    • kristin38307
      kristin38307 michelle50768

      Posted

      Peri for 8 years😒 say it isn't so!! I have been peri for about 3 years now and am already feeling at the end of my rope😣 how long must one suffer with this affliction ARG!!! When I was younger I thought cramps were the worst thing ever!! Now I would give anything for that to be my only problem.
  • ruth23103
    ruth23103 arlene27752

    Posted

    Hi arlene,

    Snap, I feel I dont know my self anymore, and the worst thing is that all around me have no idea what going on with me. My husband is oblivious to what the menapause is all about. All I see when I look in the mirror or photographs is a woman I don't recognise. I'm fifty two and can't bare to think this could last for years to come.

    • kristin38307
      kristin38307 ruth23103

      Posted

      Ruth the struggle is real !!! Ugh!! I do have to say tho hearing others say the same types of things I'm saying is in a small way helpful it does make me feel not so alone.
    • Marley1
      Marley1 ruth23103

      Posted

      Hi Ruth

      I can completely relate to the looking in the mirror and seeing a completely different person in the reflection!

      I have good and bad days and can't wait to be a newer version of me to appear like the Phoenix from the fire!!!

      It does really help to read the posts on here, although sometimes it does feel as if you are the only person feeling this way!

      I've booked an appointment to have accupunture, so hopefully that might help!!

      Stay strong ladies 💕

    • ruth23103
      ruth23103 Marley1

      Posted

      Thanks for that Marley, because I don't talk to many ladies I feel so alone. I never thought turning fifty would bring this! I don;t want to take HRT as I have a friend who is a Mac Millan nurse and has advised me to avoid it. My sister is fifty eight and still going through it thats why i'm feeling so down, Not sure what to do next and why when I read Arlene's post it touched me.
  • margaret04348
    margaret04348 arlene27752

    Posted

    Arlene you are not alone.  I have beenin this group for about 6 months and found it really helpful.  I understand your feelings because I am experiencing them too.  I feel like a different entity...not like a woman and have had many many symptoms.  I have resorted to HRT and things have improved.  Joints much better and anger subsided and hot flushes gone. Bladder also better but I am having a flare up just now because I had a few glasses of wine....never again!!!  HRT and alcohol do not mix especially with my baldder issues.  I still get night sweats and anxiety but not willing to put up dose of HRT.  I will listen to you any time as I do read other peopel's posts!!  Feel free to just say how you feel because I have and generally got support.  Welcome to our little clan.XX
    • Sandy07
      Sandy07 margaret04348

      Posted

      Hi Margaret, I see you say you have started HRT. This is me also. How long did it take for the HRT to settle things down. I've only been on it just over a week and it's a bit of a roller coaster at the moment. 
    • margaret04348
      margaret04348 Sandy07

      Posted

      Hi there I have been on it about 6 weeks and began to see a difference after a month.  My joints improved as did my bladder and internal rages.It is still a bit difficult as bleeding and still quite anxious!  I have to go for an internal exam of my womb due to bleeding issues so a bit uptight about that.  I think it can take up to 3 months for everything to settle so hang in there.  I do feel much better and once these health issues are sorted I hope things will improve further.XXX
    • Sandy07
      Sandy07 margaret04348

      Posted

      Thanks Margaret. It's the muscle and joint pain that is the main issue for me. I'll hang on I. There and hope for some improvement then. It all feels a bit bit worse at the moment. 
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