menopause the silent hell!!

Ive not had a period in 2 yrs now but my symptoms are just like yours Traci, I'm so glad I've joined this group though as I now know that I'm not alone in this hell!! 

So most of your doctors don't even acknowledge symptoms that might be perimenopause ??? My GP does thankfully.... she tries to help anyway ... she did initially refer me to my obgyn I had been seeing who said immediately I was too young to be perimenopausal!! 😡 She pretty much stopped me mid sentence to tell me. She was my doc for my last pregnancy and the one that literally called me "elderly pregnant" as I was three months post 35 when pregnant with my second . Needless to say I never went back to her ! I think my GP is great because she specializes in women's health and a more whole body treatment , not one to just treat symptoms with a pill. She addresses my mental as well as physical complaints so I am grateful for that

However... this ride is still pure hell!! Not enough research done or something , but you would think that with SO MANY of us dealing with the same issues , the area of treatment would be more advanced! Very frustrating and I hold on to all hope that there will be some kind of light at the end !!

This might be off-topic so just a random thought in case it helps anyone. When I get depressed and it goes on for a while, I feel like the chaos my daily life becomes during my very low energy spell makes it so much harder to start climbing out. Super messy house, way behind on all sorts of things, fallen out of my habits... All that would be hard to get up and face even on my best day.

So now I'm thinking of a neighbor of mine when we were young stay home wives. This depressed neighbor informally hired someone  (first another neighbor, another time a college kid), to come help her three mornings per week, about twelve hours per week total. 

I admit at first I thought my neighbor was kinda spoiled because none of us had much money then. But I came around to thinking it was actually very smart use of those limited funds and may have even helped her recover sooner.

The helper first helped her come up a logical order to do the work in (when I've been really down I probably wouldn't have a clue where to start). My neighbor assisted with the work when she felt able to. First, they'd get her and her kids fed and dressed for the day. Then a quick clean up of the house, laundry done, dinner ready to go, plus run any pressing errands.

Strangely, I seem to have grown out of my periodic depressions (knock on wood). But if it ever comes back, on top of getting medical treatment, I would definitely make it a priority to get practical help and keep my ship from sinking in the meantime. Wondering if anyone thinks this is relevant or just beside the point at the time.