Menopause Took Away My Wife
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I'm normally active in the "Ankle Problems" forum, but thought I'd give this one a try. I hope someone here can give me some good advice. You see, my wife who was formerly quiet, sweet, and charming has turned into major bitch since menopause. She now tries to micromanage me and other family members, she demeans me and others, she yells at counter attendants when we go shopping, she reaches over and blasts the horn at other drivers when I'm driving. I could tolerate most of all that if it weren't for the fact that she has shut me out sexually for a year now. I've tried to discuss it with her, but she just shrugs me off. She further refuses to discuss it with her gynocologist. I'm at wits end and ready to give her an ultimatim. Please help.
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becky221 Pinoyboy
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Rhino2015 Pinoyboy
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It is an awful place to be in as you and family are suffering alongside also - take things slowly - but do encourage her to seek help there are some amazing treatments out there.
Good luck Pinoyboy
margaret21458 Pinoyboy
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You came to the right place for advice!
My life is also a mirrored picture of your wife. Yes, she is in a really bad place, but not forever. Hang in.
I needed to do something, so I got on HRT. It has helped immensely but I'm still not right. I also got on a mild antidepressant.
Everyday is different, I started to isolate myself from going places too. I use to do things even when I didn't want to just to please people...now I'm the total opposite! I JUST DONT CARE (which is very liberating). But no like me at all!!the thought of sex just turns me. So your wife is not alone. I feel for you but just think of what she is facing everyday!!!
You giving her an ultimatim, I don't think is wise. She cannot help what her hormones are doing to her. The best thing (I think) is to try to find some humor somewhere. Try to counteract what she is facing everyday.
I am being blatantly honest....I have a great husband, but I'm at a place where all I think is that men only want us for sex!
I want no part of it at all!
You giving her an ultimatum is not a good idea. Unless you can find someone 10-15 years younger than your wife....and even then, you run the risk of being faced with the same craziness you have right now, down the road.
If you truly love her, you need to be super patient.
I'm sorry you are going through this but it is what it is! I am so tired of feeling this way. But I continue to hang on by a thread. My kids keep me going and my meds.
Take Care,
I hope this nightmare ends soon for me and your wife!
Maggie
debbie75601 Pinoyboy
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margaret21458 Pinoyboy
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But, Debbie is absolutely right!
No ultimatims!
sherry83148 Pinoyboy
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carole44875 sherry83148
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christine70191 Pinoyboy
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looloo43 Pinoyboy
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bobbysgirl Pinoyboy
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I have changed my diet (cut out sugar and processed foods and eating more veg, nuts and seeds) and now take Vit D, (that wouldn't hurt you either!) Magnesium, Vit B6 and Omega 3. It seems to be working.
My GP is usless and my Gynae is not much better. His attitude is well you are past child bearing age, therefore you are of no further use - go away. I have to see him this week and am hoping one of his juniors sees me - I can talk to them.
A Gynae might not be the answer. Could you find out if there are menopause clinics in your area?
Zigangie Pinoyboy
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This was us a few years ago. I am Bipolar so it was all blamed on that, although I've always been gentle and shy I turned into an evil nasty bitch.
The doctor told me it was not menopause related and not to expect any symptoms from that until I was 51.
Post meno I just felt so hot all the time I needed HRT for that. I read a lot about it chose to have a bioidentical one which they were happy for me to try at that point. My doctor would not prescribe testosterone but you can buy it yourself so November last year I started. I'm not 100% but getting there now and sex life is back to how it was in our early 40s.
So many things that had been blamed on my Bipolar disorder dissapearered within the first 10 weeks on it.
Depression anxiety heart palpitations to name but a few.
If someone had told me HRT could make that much difference I wouldn't have believed it and I didn't think I'd ever find sex comfortable again let alone enjoy it.
Your wife is in a horrible place and probably thinks it will be like that for ever, I don't know what stage she is at in it but everything else was normal for me, no hot flushes, my periods slightly lighter but always on time, I had symptoms for 10 years in total and I only realised it was meno related from reading on this and other sites after my periods had stopped and I was feeling so hot.