My daughter diagnosed with Herpes
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Hello all, I'm mum to an 18 year old gorgeous girl who was diagnosed with Genital Herpes yesterday. I am feeling very shocked, upset and angry that this has happened to her. (Not angry with her)
She's only ever been in one long term relationship but did have a semi casual relationship fairly
recently. As a parent I want to support her through this difficult diagnosis and help her deal with the
changes this may bring to her life. I'm sure I'm like most parents, in that we want our children's lives
to be as perfect and trouble free as possible, but life can deal a few crappy blows and this really feels like one right now. I wonder if there are any other parents on here that can help me deal with this in a positive way? Or anyone who is of a similar age who can let me know how they really feel; my daughter is very withdrawn at the moment. She knows that I love her so very much and I am always here for her. Please share your experiences with me so that I may help her. Xx
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Moveebuff1953 Mummapippop
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First ...she should not be telling anyone about her condition. I know that the first thing you want to do if find others that have gone through the experience or know someone who has it. It is fno one else's business & it should be confidential. As the months roll by and pain subsides, calmer heads will prevail. The fewer ppl. that know the better. It's been 5 months now since my daughter was diagnosed & she doesn't even think about it now. Believe me ...it was horrible at first...we were all in shock. I was furious at the man thinking that he should have known....but he didn't.
Life will go one. Smarter decisions will be made in a few months.
Moveebuff1953 Mummapippop
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I can't tell anyone what to say or do however...I suggest you give it a lot of thought before you do tell anyone. The statistics show that so many have the herpes virus but don't know it. Cold sores are actually a herpes virus & having oral sex with a cold sore would most likely infect the partner. It is not against the law to withhold the information that you have herpes....it's your call.
Demeyer1999 Mummapippop
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How are things going now? My son turned 18 a month ago, and today he found out he has herpes. He has mouth sores and basic flunlike symptoms. They took blood for a test, and the results will go to his regular gp this week. For today I feel like I've provided the support he needed from me. Any advice would be appreciated. This is unchartered territory for all of us.
Moveebuff1953 Demeyer1999
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Support is the best thing right now....mouth herpes are different from genital herpes as far as I know. He will have to be careful when he has a breakout as it is contiguous. the first breakout is always the worst. Most ppl. think that it's just a "cold sore" and don't realize until it's too late that that it can be transmitted by mouth to genital herpes. With caution he should just continue to have a happy life....