My husband is a different person

Let him see the doctor, a specialist will be able to help him. All I can say is to support him during this difficult time. Depression is no laughing matter. And the people who suffer from it need support from their loved ones. I wish I had someone like you right now. 

Just be there for him and support him, any way you can. Hope that helps. 

When someone is grieving they do go through the anger stage . Sounds like he's doing the rite thing by seeking help. Takes time and help to go through the different stages of grieving. You are being very understanding and he'll thank you for it . I've seen all this with my husband when he lost his sister very suddenly. You do come through it though because in a way you have to. It's so easy to curl up and not want to even so much as speak to anyone. He's on the rite track though I think for seeking help . Wish you well ) x

Give him time, space-to-grieve, and unconditional feelings of love (if they're still there). Losing a mum can be the worst thing to happen in a person's life, depending on how close they are.  In my case didn't have a normal day for three years (in spite of medical interventions); I would awake and near tears and mainly cried every morning.  This acute pain faded slowly over time. A very helpful author on this is Elizabeth Kubler-Ross.  Her books are accepted as most expert and nearly every post-grad psychology or other helping professionals' training require learning her five stage theory of grieving Denial, Anger, Depression, Bargaining, and finally acceptance.  They don't run in order but you see hints of these feelings that come and go. If your love is strong he will make his way back to you!  No point trying to force the issue.  Give loving support and acceptance of his moods.  Try to get out with him so he doesn't dwell but is distracted from doing grieving. Getting out and doing stuff and leaning toward a normal life is the best you can do, since you can't bring his mum back.  If your love is strong he will return to you OK.  Also suggest he see a professional for talking therapies.  It is best to manage without medication. They block "comming to terms" and also can get him addicted.  Often antidepressants are prescribed. It is often best to refuse these meds. I have many patients suffering to get off of Pregabalin and SSRI or SNRIs.  Drugs just don't help and can make VERY worse.

The best therapy is saying to him that you love him much, and listen to him when he want's to talk. Regardless what he says he needs to off-load his pain and if you can patiently listen and not dwell on "his condition" the faster he will overcome.  This is never easy and if you question why you are suffering remember your marriage vows.  When you face the same agony he will be there for you.

If you are patient he will recover, although with some sadness. It IS a test for you two. If he is worth it, and you had a strong marriage things will resolve.  Finally, just a suggestion, when he pushes you away he may be testing YOUR love.  Be patient- it isn't you, it is his loss.

I am so sorry your pain and wish you-all well in the future.

No just remember you're rite you haven't done anything wrong. Make sure he gets the help he needs and then if you do all you can for him and things still don't improve at least you can say that you were there for him. Not everyone is as understanding as you are. X

I don't want to alarm you and probably you've already thought of this but since his Mom has been gone for two years, is there any chance he's got another woman he's seeing?  I know that's the last thing we think of or want to think of but I was like you and experienced the "pushing away" and the distancing, etc. and that's what it was.  The reason I say this is because usually with depression, they push everyone away, not just one person.  Maybe you should confront him since he's made YOU leave and you are the one who is in the uncomfortable situation right now.  I know you might not want to face that but it could be what is happening.  The death of a loved one brings us closer to our own mortality and can cause not only depression but a reassessment of our own lives.  This could be what he is going through and during that time, he may be expressing his grief to someone other than you, an outsider or old friend or ex.  Sorry to bring this harsh reality up but if I were you, I'd have a chat with him.  And it's been two years and everyone grieves differently but I think this is a subject you can broach with him now.