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My husband is a different person

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MsM81
MsM81

I'm really desperate for some advice. My husband on Friday out of the blue said he was unhappy and he wanted time on his own to figure out what he wants. This has come out of nowhere. My gut feeling is that he's depressed, mainly due to the death of his mum which he hasn't really dealt with. His close family can't understand it and they think that the issues aren't with me and are more deep rooted than that. He has said himself that it's not something that I have done. 

He's since said that he is going to see the doctor tomorrow to figure out what he wants. He's staying in touch with his Dad and his sister but he seems to be pushing me away, I've moved out to my mums to give him the space he has asked for. I've never dealt with depression before, so any advice is welcome.

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  • DawnDedee
    DawnDedee MsM81

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    You have a very sweet spirit.  How wonderful that you love your husband so much that you will give him what he needs even though you do not know where this will end up.  It sounds like he is really in touch with himself and has noticed something amis and is loving enough towards you to not want you to go through what he is initially going through.  

    I wish you both well.  If it is Depression, it is a beast, but it can be managed.  It is a very dark place and finding the way through it to get on top of it is a tough journey.  

    Take care

    Dawn, USA

  • rw79630
    rw79630 MsM81

    Posted

    I think just give him time, let him know you will be there whenever he needs you but don't smother him.

    My partner went through a stage like this which lasted a month. He didn't want to see me & moved back to his dads, it is so so hard but he came round eventually. He told me he didn't want me to see him like that & didn't know what he was doing at the time. 

    I hope things start getting better for you x

    • MsM81
      MsM81 rw79630

      Posted

      Thank you!

      Just out of interest, did your partner say things like he loves you but, he didn't know if he was IN love with you? My husband said this on Friday and it was very hurtful but at the same time I don't think he means it. I'm just so confused.

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