My mum is having her hip done

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my mum who is 92 this month, has dementia etc etc., had a fall on friday, not a big one but couldnt walk anyway was admitted to hospital yeasterday after 4 hours in a& e she has broken her hip. She is just having the ball replaced. ย I am worried sick, she could be in hospital 6-8 weeks. In same hospial and the ward next door to where i had mine.

suexx

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    Oh bless you both, what a horrible thing to happen. I am presuming you didn't have a good experience or bad memoires of yours.

    I would imagine that because your mum has attained a great age they will keep her in a little longer than the standard three days but if all went well then she may possibly be home earlier than that.

    I hope that authority has some community support for you both and certainly Age Concern should be able to help. I am so sorry I can't take away your worry but there are loads of really kind people here who will have answers to your questions x

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      Kate, thank you for your concer, my experience was brilliant absolutely brilliant, so no bad memories i was more worried about her dementia. Her op is now over and all went well thank god.

      we have a wonderful carer for mum, who has been looking. After me to.

      thank you once again for your support,

      suexx

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    Sue so sorry to hear about your mum, will you be able to easily get to see her in hospital? My mum lived in sheltered accomodation and had dementia as she got older. She also had home care as her health declined and I was also a part-time carer.ย 

    Try not to worry, your mum will be safe whilst she is cared for in hospital.

    Let us know how she (and you) are getting on.

    Linnet xx

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      Linnet, all went well and she is comfortable and asleep.

      mum has a wonderful carer who is living in at the moment looking after us all, she is amazing with mum and has really brought her out of herself. Both me and my sister are her main carers have been for 7 years.

      thank you for your concern. We are all ok, thank you.

      suexx

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    Oh Golly!! Only thing on a plus for her, bless her, is my Father in law had dementia and had to have an aneurysm repair at 90 years old. He had no idea what was going to happen, had no recall of the op/ intensive care etc. Surgeon said he'd never seen anyone recover like him ..... Why??.... Because he didn't have the memory to worry about what was going to happen as he didn't remember the whole thing!!! Silver lining!

    Also, she has You keeping a beady eye on her.

    Hope all will be ok for her & you. Try and stay calm. Xxx

    • Posted

      Oh Gaby !!! ย I like your post ... didn;t do a LOL because that might be considered insensitive ...I am definitely not insenstive, but your little story puts things in some kind of perspective ...

      neutral(tiny little smile)

      thanks sweetheart ---- how are you getting on recently?

      warm hug

      renee

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      You have to lol otherwise u go nuts๐Ÿ˜ฌ You know what's harder is You become the parent and they become the child! It's tough!

      Me...... Hmmmm well I am finally recovering at a snails pace with my knee!! My other knee on hip leg has come out a little in sympathy so I'm being really careful. Trying to rehab my hip now too which is going ok, but can only do a few exercises so I don't do damage to the knee.

      BUT I haven't stopped crying or snarling for weeks. Can't be bothered to get dressed/ make up etc. 12 weeks inside our house has done my head in!!

      I saw my Dr yesterday and he says I'm suffering depression which he knows isn't my character at all!!! He's given me Happy Pills but I'm NOT going down that route no way!!!

      I'm having my cortisone jab finally tomorrow which should help my knee, and all other pain in my other knee , back , & neck etc & then I'll be able to sleep and then I'll feel BETTER!!!

      Omg all this just because I had my hip done!!

      Which is fine!!!

      Been trying to walk for a while which is tiring, after I feel like I've been horse riding!!

      So...... That's me!!

      Keep smiling

      Love Gaby.xx

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      You're great Gaby - laughing in the face of adversity. ย  Good for you.

      At least I didn't have that role reversal with my parents - father died at 64 just before his retirement (far too young), and mother just kept on going, and had all her marbles right to the end.

      I feel rather like a young pony today - very frisky arounf the physio's gym this morning - actually trotting between the equipment !

      Yesterday I needed a crutch around the house, then someone pulled a lever or pushed a button overnight, and now my hip now works fine, hardly any trace of a limp. ย Unbelievable.

      ๐ŸŽˆ๐Ÿธ โค ๐Ÿ’‹ย 

      ๐Ÿ˜Žย Graham - ๐Ÿš€๐Ÿ’ƒ

    • Posted

      Knowing my luck, I'll get a letter tomorrow "You are booked in for another revision on ......."
    • Posted

      I could write a book on parents!

      1) Mum paralysed from the neck down due to polio.gained 20% mobility. I was her Carer mostly. Died after 2 stokes and heart attack 70 lived life to the full!!

      2) Dad bi polar say no more! Died 54 massive heart attack!

      3) Husbands Mum killed by a van aged 39. Caused my husbands Crohns and my brother in laws Suicide!

      3) Husbands step mother had a fit, caused brain damage, 2 strokes eventually died 73

      4) Father in law died 93 old age dementia.

      Oh the Joy of being an only child๐Ÿ™ˆ๐Ÿ™ˆ๐Ÿ™ˆ๐Ÿ™ˆ

      On a Happy note so glad you're Frisky( lucky Mrs R๐Ÿ˜œ๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€โค๏ธ

      My knee is improving! Slowly! Finally insisted on jab tomorrow , styled for it in my bum๐Ÿ˜ฑAs to dodgy in knee๐Ÿ’‰๐Ÿ’‰๐Ÿ’‰

      Dr says I'm suffering with depression now gave me Happy Pills ๐Ÿ’Š๐Ÿ’ŠBut I'm NOT taking them๐Ÿ™ŠNot going down that route! No way!! I'll get back to myself eventually( even tho I'm hell on earth to live with! )๐Ÿ™„๐Ÿ™„

    • Posted

      Goodness, you have been through it ... we're also only children, so know what that can be like with no family support. ย Most of Rocketwoman's family were killed in WW2.

      Not sure if you got her book - I've not had any feedback from those who did buy it.

      Mrs R will have to wait for week 6 for that ... Mr Frisky is still being careful, don't want to cause a dislocation do we.

      I would also keep off the happy pills ๐Ÿ’Šย - I wouldn't want them either.

      I just don't like taking pills of any sort, even ibuprofen or paracetamol for a headache.

      Graham - ๐Ÿš€๐Ÿ’ƒ

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      Gaby, thank you for your positive comments, my mum is out of the operation, back in her ward and sleeping, we are going to gomin tomorrow?

      because of the dementia she could tell us she was in so much pain, in fact she was diagnoised on saturday with a urine infection. ย No better which is why yesterday we called again. We are hoping she will be able to forget she couldnt walk, and just do it. Watch this space.

      suexx

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      Let's have another go ...............

      You have had a bit of a time of it haven't you.

      We are both only children, and Rocketwoman's family mostly didn't survive WW2.ย 

      ย 

    • Posted

      Mr Frisky is not allowed to move onto his side until 6 weeks, I can lay on my sie for a minute or so, but that's not really long enough is it, so Rocketwoman will have to waitย twisted
    • Posted

      I wouldn't take 'happy pills' either - I don't even like taking ibuprofen or paracetamol for headaches.

      What on earth did I say that first time to get referred to the moderator?

      a spelling mistook perhaps?

    • Posted

      This๐Ÿ’‰Was a mistake๐Ÿ™ˆ๐Ÿ™Š๐Ÿ™‰this was meant lol
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      Dunno. My Hubbie went mad when I came back with the ๐Ÿ’Š My Son has just shouted at me๐Ÿ˜ฉ๐Ÿ™‰re ๐Ÿ’Š. Telling me how others are so much worse off than me blah blah. They don't understand I don't choose to feel I'm in a black hole. They know this is so not my nature! The more they bully me the worse I feel. I'll get over all of it and recover EVENTUALLY
    • Posted

      Gaby, this kind of treatment by your husband and son has got to stop. They need to respect you, how you are feeling, and what you are capable of doing. Shouting at you only makes you feel worse. Is there any way of expressing this to them? Perhaps you can have another family member help you to stand up to them. Really, they are hindering your recovery, which is what is most important. Feeling really badly for you!
    • Posted

      Thank you. Don't worry I'm no shrinking violet!! There's still fight in me lol! I let rip and told them just that!!

      I'll pull myself together slowly and be back to normal without happy pills ! Although they are downstairs! I don't want to take them so I won't.

      Thanks for caring. Xx

    • Posted

      Glad to hear it, Gaby! You have had enough problems for half a dozen people, you don't need any more.
    • Posted

      Gaby - it was Mr Frisky that did it - I had it with a full stop between, and the system thinks it's a website link !

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