My partner left me for another woman and the depression is killing me

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I have posted on this site when he left me but things are getting worse. My partner of 23 years left me recently for a woman 20 years younger. An immigrant in the country looking for a better life and boy has she got it. The problem is he keeps contacting me and coming to see me. He is to going me emotionally knowing I'm suffering with depression. He tells me that he misses me and says he has to do this for himself. I pace for hours after he's left struggling to come down off it. Yesterday I found out that a mutual friend had taken his own life after his wife thew him out, not a close friend but enough to send me into orbit thinking awful thoughts about how will I cope, is there no hope and I struggle to keep myself sane. What do I do next? How do I stop him coming over ? Why would he do this to me. He is abusing me mentally and it's impossible for me to think straight.

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    Hi,

    If you seriously want to get rid of him coming over, get a restraining order.  He is dragging you down.  Don't ever let someone else define YOUR identity!  Life is short!  Life can be beautiful.  Time to get rid of him and get some therapy.  And walk.  Walking can help depression immensely.  

    Take care,

    Leah

    • Posted

      Mutley..  Im on Leah's side here..  Restraining order will stop the harassment.   You sure do have a lot of people on your side & for a damn good reason hun..   HUGS xx

    • Posted

      Thank you Leah and Deb. Everything has gone quiet today. No texts, no calls just peace. I am so frightened of being on my own now but I have to start getting out more. Scary.
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    Sorry Mutley, I didn't manage to get back to go surgery on Fri, I will def go Tuesday and get that poster/ info for you, hope you are ok.

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      Christ Nick I'm on the floor right now, I just don't know who to call. I'm really frightened. Wow this is dreadful. Thanks for offer of help.

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