my wife refuses to be intimate with me.
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My wife and I have been together 8 years, living together for the last 6years and married for the last 18months. At the beginning of our relationship our sex life was fantastic having sex 3-4 tines a week, but over the last couple of years she has lost all of her sex drive. My wife was taking the pill but it made her depressed so we decided I would have the snip a few years ago, neither of us have ever wanted children so it seemed reasonable.
Over the last few years our sex life has gone from 2-3times a week to 5-6 times a year. She never initiates sex with me and when I try to initiate something between us has no interest in being intimate or having sex with me.
I love my wife more than anything and have tried to talk with her about this but she doesn't seem to think there is anything wrong. Desperately in need of some help and advice.
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Sorry about what your going through sweetie.
I can say that you guys have been together for quite sometime ..
You never ever wanted kids ?
Do you guys still go out on dates or anything ?
Do you have any idea of what you wanna do ? Like ...
Are you thinking about divorce or ?
Me and my boyfriend had this little issue , were 20 years old and he just got tired of having sex with me .. But it's like once we broke up he couldn't get enough and I on the other hand refuse to degrade myself to him in that matter seeing how as were not together ...
Give it time maybe ?
When you try to have sex with her or initiate it how does it go ? Does she push you away ?
dta44381 cartercali
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Each time I try to initiate intimacy with her I get either of the following responses:
I've got a bad head (standard)
My tummy feels bloated and uncomfortable.
Let's just cuddle.
I constantly feel pushed away, I've mentioned how I feel and she just says 'I'm sorry you feel like that' but does nothing to make me feel wanted. I know being tired and run down and everyday work tends to take its toll on people but surely making time for you husband and your relationship should take a priority.
Another reply on here was 'is she cheating on you?' I hope not as she means the world to me.
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Maybe that is the reaction that's needed ..
Not a divorce but maybe just a spilt ...
Do you think she is cheating on you?
Does she show any signs of it ?
You guys should be intimate in some type of way.
At least ..
Do you try to please her sexually and then go from there ?
Like ..
How old are you guys ?
Maybe it's just because I'm young .
But once my boyfriend starts pleasing me I go with the flow , foreplay and everything works wonders .
dta44381 cartercali
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She is in her early 30's I'm a few years older, when I try to please her or try and initiate something between us she seems to shut down on me using any of the excuses I mentioned before. When I mention having some quality time together she laughs it off saying how tired she is!
I know we should be intimate and it's a foundation of a lasting relationship but however I try I just feel alone and rejected.
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I'm not even considering someone else, we both work full time. I'm beginning to think she's lost all interest in me and won't admit it.
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