NEW BEGINNINGS
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So the Forum Family awakens to a new day, a New Year, and a new beginning
New Hope?
Hope is ephemeral I know. Here one minute, gone the next. But we, as a whole, have something far more solid to cling to. We have each other
The power of support from those who truly understand, who have experienced that which we go through and struggle to control, is beyond price.
How can this be? I was thinking about that, about you all, today. How can complete strangers be our lifeline, our support when loved ones, unwittingly, unintentionally, fail us?
Yes, we might hide from loved ones much of our true suffering for fear of becoming tiresome. But the answer, I believe, is we are not strangers in the true sense
We might not know names, faces, but you are me and I am you.
Each of us shares the experience of AD/PD, ergo each of us truly understands the other. And because of this we lay bare our true feelings
We might not agree on the self-help methods. What works for one might fail another. But the important thing is everyone reaches out to help and support each other
Fear and loneliness, feelings of shame and helplessness, the inability to cope all alone, are the foundations which cement AD/PD firmly in place
So the reaching out of others makes this Forum a special place. It is our place, our refuge, our support line.
So when I was thinking about you all this morning I was not hoping, that being hard to sustain, but willing you one and all, to make a fresh start with renewed energy and belief
Let's all let go of last year with all it's ups and downs and heartaches. Lets all move forward and make this a great year, a healing year.
Together we can do this. Strength in numbers
We have each other to make this possible!
Day one, Forum Family!
Onwards and upwards
Love to all
Helen
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Needhelp_asap helen20833
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Hot speak some true words Helen! Thinking that we have each other makes us feel better,seeing people get better on here, gives us hope. We are a family, a nice bonded family even if we've never seen each other! Best of luck! Happy new year to all!
bryan84478 helen20833
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I also feel scared and alone, I get this feeling of dying soon and dying from the inside out and it is getting worse by the days and weeks. I have days where I just feel like crying and I feel like there is nothing no one can do! I have a lot of people around me but I have not told no one till now on this forum I'm scared!!! Can anyone give me some advice on what to do please. I'm scared to tell anyone around me because they might find it stupid and tell me to get over it? I'm 28.
helen20833 bryan84478
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Hi there Bryan
Firstly, you are not stupid.
It appears you are depressed and have added anxiety disorder.
Trying to hold it all together, trying to cope all alone, will not work honey. You have to take matters into your own hands
You must make an appointment with your GP. And you must be totally honest so that the doctor can make an infomed diagnosis and decide upon the best treatment tailored to your needs
There is nothing to ne ashamed of in being ill no matter what shape or form the illness takes. I would advise you to confide in a loved/trusted one. because trying to hold it all together in front of others for fear of being judged/humiliated, is piling stress upon stress
If you feel like crying, then cry. It releases tension
Learn all you can about Anxiety/Panic Disorder and the self-help methods availabe. The Forum Family will all help
Never google symptoms! Not unless you want to worsen your symptoms and frighten yourself to death
And speaking of which
You are not dying!
Okay?
Please don't be frightened. Take positive steps to get all the help you can. That's what the majority of the Forum Family do. That's where the road to recovery begins
We are all here for you
Hugs Helen
bryan84478 helen20833
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Thank you so much for such a heart warming response it actually means a lot to me, I'm guessing all I can do is try but some days are so difficult, it really is nerve racking for me to have a actually one to one with a doctor about what is going on with me. I just don't like the overwhelming pressure I get in my body it feels like I'm being crushed it is so scary. Thank you Helen
bryan84478 helen20833
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eileen31681 bryan84478
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I would advise taking on board the comments on here but still discuss with your dr.
Sharing your fears with the Samaritns can be therapeutic as well. Their freephone number is 0116 1234. It is entirely confidential, non judgmental and they will listen toyou.
helen20833 bryan84478
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Hi there Bryan
In the side panel of this page is a list of related info
If you are just starting on this jorney of recovery then don't get sidetracked by letting your imagination run away with you. Fearing fatal diseases, fearing impending doom and sudden death are the bane of those with AD/PD
It's all nonsense. Dreadful as the symptoms are they will not harm you. And here I go again, lol, like a parrot
But
It's not the symptoms that we must fear
We must lose fear of the symptoms
It's not easy, no, but it can be done. Arm yourself with every self help tool available. Be positive. Let the Forum Family support you. Let yor GP know what's going on with you.
Please don't be afraid/. Take this opportunity to grab your AD by the scruff of the neck and shake it loose
It's Day One of this New Year
Make it Day One of you taking control of your problem
The first wobbly step on the road to your recovery
Hugs Helen
bryan84478 eileen31681
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bryan84478 helen20833
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Ok then I'm not being entirely honest with you and myself and this group I feel as though this will be my first step to recovery. I have another problem and I use sex and self please as a comping mechanism and as soon as I have reached self pleasure I feel nothing and slowly go back to that dark place of Anxiety and Depression. I hope that this was not inappropriate to the chat but I felt as though I have to be honest on here.
lisalisa67 bryan84478
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bryan84478 lisalisa67
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arlene09047 helen20833
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gill21655 helen20833
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Very Inspiring xx
All the best to you
julie08522 helen20833
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Well said. I have made some decisions about my life i am anxious about but i am still doing it. This is going to be a better year. We can't let this take over. Thank you xxx
helen20833 julie08522
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Hi Julie,
well making decisions is a form of taking control and can be beneficial.
It's when we dither, when we are suspended in a state of uncertainty that the stress weighs us down
It's not easy making decisions, harder still to follow through. But when we do, we do regain that control, so missing in everyday AD/PD life.
Whatever/however you choose to move forward, I applaud your courage and I wish you, from my heart, all the best!
Keep going forward!
I for one am cheering you on
Hugs Helen