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Hi there, I'm in my mid-40s, 4 kids all aged under 12. My relationship with alcohol developed in my late 20s and then settled into drinking a lot of wine mostly to ward off the boredom of being a stay at home mum. I was worried about my drinking so when I fell pregnant with my 4th child I stopped and didn't drink anything for three years. I didn't really miss it and thought I would never drink again.
That went out the window when my sister committed suicide. I slowly started drinking again to dull the pain a bit. Then my dad died of a broken heart and my mum went into a full physical and mental decline and now lives in our house with moderate to severe dementia.
So I had a fair amount of stress and was drinking 2 bottles of wine most days, sometimes a bit more, sometimes less with the occasional alcohol free day.
I had a plan to quit drinking which I was working on very slowly - starting to do volunteer work to get me out of the house and not feel so trapped. I was working towards giving up when we move my mum into a nursing home as that was one of my major stressors.
Sorry this is so long!
So anyway today I found out my husband has taken all the kids and moved out, enrolled them in new schools because I am an alcoholic. He has been planning this for months, not said anything to me at all.
So, obviously I have stopped drinking. I can confirm that having my kids taken from me is worse than finding out my sister hanged herself.
I realise I must have been really awful for him to take this step but he never once in those months said "hey, you need to stop drinking or I'm going to leave you and take the kids" because that would certainly have been enough for me.
I'm just...feeling very lost. Any advice would be appreciated.
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