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Maybe you had something else and that's why the clinic never called, although they should either way, imo. Did he show you his results, test type, numbers, etc.?

No. Apparently they called him. This is too stressful. He didn't say it in a mean way..just letting me know what they said.

Depending on your own results, it would be good to have him pick up his lab report and show you, so you can see for yourself and also check the test type and numbers.

My guy friend claims he did a blood test, but that the clinic said they "couldn't get a result from his sample". Sounds bogus to me! Says he's doing another blood test, but it can't really be anyone else. Well, possibly, but most unlikely! Even my own doc suspects him, lol.

That's how I feel. Even if it's negative must be a false negative because I was fine before this. My doctor also said when he saw my outbreak that I got this recently. So idk I guess we'll see. Ugh. The suspense! It's giving me anxiety. I left a message with the doctor to call me back ASAP.

Coincidentally, this morning I finally heard from my guy friend. He tested positive for both types via IgG antibody testing, just as I suspected. I think he's in shock. Not sure if he'll share his lab report with me, but at least now I know for sure and don't need to worry about informing any other partners before him! Luckily, he was the last one...and probably will be for some time!! Sigh

Omg so finally after a million freakin days I got my results. I had to actually go in person. Anyway I have HSV-1. I'm kind of relieved. So the guy that said he was negative for anything I asked to see his results on paper. I know I got it from him. My doctor believes so too. When I called him to tell him about my results and ask for him to have his doctor fax over his results he was angry and yelling. He was having a bad day already but that's not my problem. And yelling at me when I'm not yelling at you just p*sses me off. But whatever. So yeah that's that!

Finally!! And lucky you! Wish I had Type 1.

Your clinic isn't very good, though. That was a ridiculously long wait, and they didn't even bother to follow up your calls, etc.!

I thought it sounded like you were having regrets about going off on your ex, but maybe not after his latest reaction, lol.

The guy friend I got this from is doing a slow fade on me. Hasn't even apologised! Don't know if he's in denial or what, or maybe he even blames me somehow. Guess I ruined his blissful ignorance! Total a-hole...

It was the doctor himself. Not my regular GYN and was a mess but atleast it's over. And now I don't have any regrets. I wish I would've yelled at him even worse. I feel like he blames me too! The nerve. I was telling the GYN about how he was acting. His response was "Well if you didn't get it from him then where did you get it? The wind?" Everyone knows this man is a joke. I told him after I see his results on paper I want him to leave me alone. I think before I felt like I was stuck with him but that's over. These men I tell ya! Lol & thanks for being here for support. I really appreciate it 😀

Happy to be here for support and glad it helped!

Yes, some men (not all, thankfully!) can be such cowards or worse. My one can only repeat "I don't know what to say" and is now not replying. I was thinking, well, an apology would be a good start! I know I'm responsible for my actions, but I wasn't the one who passed it on. Ugh!

If your guy has nothing to hide, he should be forthcoming with his results. Are you sure he even did the test? At least mine said he was positive...just nothing else since, lol. And I have not even gotten mad at him. Pfft

Anyway, it's good that you finally know, so can properly move on. Still envious how you have the "good" one! Haha

That's why I want to see it on paper. I don't trust him. At first he was apologetic but I think after his doctor said what he said he began to actually believe it was me. Smh! And yes it was such a sigh of relief when he said HSV-1. I was like whew 😅 Even though that's better for me I'm still trying to figure out when and how to explain this to anyone I'm intimate with 😩

Well, *in case* he didn't do the test, then he may not have had that conversation with his doctor either!

As for explaining HSV-1, easy! Just say your ex stupidly gave you oral when he was coming down with a cold sore, so it's the same as on the mouth, just down below, but not very often and far less contagious. I think that's much easier for a future partner to accept.

For casual partners, I don't think it's as important to tell for the above reasons, so long as you avoid outbreaks, use protection and maybe avoid oral (unless you can establish they've had cold sores before!).

Fyi, the leading STD/HSV experts don't typically recommend daily suppressive therapy for genital HSV-1.

Thanks for the info! I think he gave it to me because of how bad the outbreak was. Even after he told me it was HSV-1 he suggested I stay on it so I can lead a "normal" life and not have to worry about anymore outbreaks. So..I don't know. I want to be able to eat chocolate and have an anxiety attack without worries of another one.

Primary genital HSV-1 outbreaks can be worse than HSV-2, I've read, but you will not likely outbreak again, or maybe just once a year. Given the typically low recurrence and minimal shedding, the experts don't recommend daily suppressive therapy, plus you won't know your triggers or how it is for you generally if you are always on the meds from the onset.

Even for HSV-2, they advise folks to see how it goes for 6-12 months first, unless they're in a relationship with a negative partner and want to reduce the transmission risk. I have Type 2, no meds after my initial course, and I am still drinking loads of caffeine without issue, and even had some alcohol and a couple of very late nights out dancing in clubs, lol. I'd eat chocolate, too, if I had a sweet tooth!

I'll try to find a link for you tomorrow.

Yes that's true. I'm scared 😩 And yes please I'd appreciate the link!

Read the first reply by Dr Handsfield, where he mentions suppressive therapy. He's a leading STD/HSV expert and researcher in the US. Also runs ASHA.

http://www.medhelp.org/posts/STDs/HSV-1-Genital-Question-for-Dr-Handsfield/show/1151097

You would not believe what happened yesterday. He asked me to dinner to talk. And he tells me that when he called for them to fax the results or whatever ALL OF A SUDDEN the doctor tells him he has HSV-1 and might have 2. I almost lost it. Needless to say I'm so done with him it's ridiculous.

Thanks for the link! I read it! I understand. You do want to see how your body is handling it. After my period I'll stop and see what happens

Omg, that doesn't even make sense, lol! And he's an older man? I guess older does not equal wiser, more honest or whatever! Sheesh

My guy "friend" finally messaged and says he feels bad for us both, but now has to move on. Wtf? He gave it to me, I'm the only one with symptoms, so screw the "both", plus no proper apology to date and now it's goodbye. What a jerk!! Ugh

Omg seriously? Yeah he's a jerk. Smh. It's not fair that they don't get the symptoms sometimes and if they do it isn't as bad as ours. There is no "we" buddy. I just wonder..are they going to be more careful now or continue to swing their penises from the mountain tops like nothing ever happened?

Yeah, totally unfair, and I bet they don't all change their ways once they know, especially if they're asymptomatic. Easier to pretend you don't have it that way. Heh

That's what I'm going to do and I have Type 2. Since I am single and taking a break from sex, I am going to see how it goes without meds. If my body can handle it, with only few and/or mild recurrences (or none, fingers crossed!), then I will only take meds for outbreaks, planned sex, or a proper relationship with a negative partner.

For planned sex, where you know it's going to happen on X date, daily suppressive therapy should be started no less than 5 days beforehand. Good thing to know and remember!

Omg yes. Very good thanks