Newly diagnosed - help

I've has LS for about 6 years now and its pretty well under control. I can eat pretty well whatever I like, the key for me seems to be stress management and regular steroid aplication - a very thin layer of dermovate once weekly as a maintenance dose. I'm back in my jeans, worn a bit looser than before, and Im even riding my horse two or three times a week. Patience - you'll get there! By the way, when I was first diagnosed I had a big split at the six o'clock position and it took about six weeks to heal enough for sex. Depending on how long you;ve had the Ls you might and the degree of damage (if any) you might have to experiment with positions to find what works best.

Not all men are in relationships for sex. You must be a lovely person in his eyes or he wouldn't still be there. Give yourself some tlc. Be kind to yourself and talk to your man. My husband was relieved when we decided not to bother. That was nearly 10 years ago. We have a better relationship without the pressure to perform . Yes we miss that side of our life as it was good but it was only about 3 per cent of our time together (if that) Now though we concentrate on our other interests. I am not advocating you give up just that you talk openly. At least you will know where you stand. Our imagination often blows things out of proportion. I would rather deal with reality. Good luck whatever you do. Horrible position to be in - I know xxx