Newly diagnosised with HSV2, feeling so many emotions

I will definitely read the information, I am trying to gather anything that I can find on HSV2.

This is just a huge blow to me, just came out of an 18 year marriage, my children are in their 20's. This is just not how my latter years should be.

I have always enjoyed sex, but not now. Since I was diagnosed last week, I still haven't recovered, still very sore, having a hard time urinating and bowel movements.

Not sure if this is a normal break out but it sure is a doozy.

Oh, I hear you! I'm no 20-something and was also starting to reclaim and enjoy my independence and mojo, then BAM!! Not a happy camper at all, plus I've no relationship to speak of, so I think I'm giving up men and sex for a year minimum!!

Once you get over your initial outbreak, you will feel normal down below again. Might not feel like that's possible right now, but it will happen, so at least that's something to look forward to!

Or are you already over your outbreak? When did you have it?

P.S. The info and links I've gathered cover nearly every possible topic I wanted to know about GH and HSV-2, and takes into account multiple sources and HSV expert advice/answers, but in the one location. Might be a good starting point and I hope you find it informative and useful!

I think I am still having the out break. I found another bump down below today. It has been feeling like diaper rash down there, so I have been using A & D ointment for some relief.

Thank you for your kind words and your hard work complying all your info.

Hmmm, well, you are definitely having a first outbreak based on your symptoms. This usually happens 2-20 days after infection, often within the first week, so it would appear it's very likely from your current bf.

However, he could well have had it prior to your relationship, unless you both tested negative for it before, with you only contracting it now. It is very possible and not at all uncommon for a person to be an asymptomatic carrier, take no special precautions as a result, and still not infect their partner for months, even years.

General male to female transmission risk is 10% per year. This assumes no special measures other than avoiding sex during outbreaks (and some carriers get none, as I noted). But he should still test, just so you both know where you stand in relation to this.

He should not brush it off as nothing either. Women get it worse than men generally and it makes you hurt, feel like sh!t and lose interest in sex. The latter should certainly matter to him! Lol

P.S. Many asymptomatic carriers have no idea they are infected. Others get such mild symptoms, they think it's just a regular pimple, yeast or jock itch, etc. Unfortunately, HSV-2 is not a routine STD test. Even some government health agencies and clinics don't recommend it unless you have symptoms!