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Im having rectocele and cystocele repair in about 6 weeks. My consultant is sending me for a scan to check my ovaries he said he may have to do a vaginal hysterectomy which i dont really think i want or need. The first doctor i saw said my womb was fairly stable and in place. Got a grade 3 rectocele and grade 2 cystocele. I been so depressed by how my vagina looks and feels since my last child kinda feel broken and its not nice. Has anybody had sucessful surgery im terrified of being worse after or unable to have sex heard some scary storiessad

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    Hi Gemma, I am 6 weeks postop after grade 2 cystocele. I haven't had intercourse yet. I was told to abstain for 6 weeks but have had a bladder infection for the past 3 weeks so don't want to until that is cleared up. However, I have had an internal examination and all I can say is that felt just the way it always did. My gynae told me there should not be any effect on sex and in fact I'm sure a post on here from someone that said they found sex better after the op because everything was just firmer and in the right place I guess. Re the hysterectomy - I had that too because I had an ovarian cyst, I also had several fibroids but didn't know that until after op. I'm 64 so the standard procedure with ovarian cysts in someone my age is removal to reduce the risk of ovarian cancer. If you are premenopausal and have ovarian cysts you don't have the same risk because there's always the possibility the cysts will disappear with a period. Make sure you have all the info before you agree to a procedure you don't want. You can always get a second opinion too - I did and my second pick for a gynae was fantastic. Good luck. 
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      Thanks for your reply carolannfud i'm 42 had my last child 3 years ago. I dont know what to expect from the surgery read lots of bad outcomes which kinda scares me. I hate the way my lady bits feel since my last child its affecting me mentally. Strange thing its i only leak urine when my bladder isnt really full. I seem to hold on to urine better when my bladder is realyl full weird. I suspest if they decide on a hysterectomy they will hopefully leave my ovaries intact so i dont go in the menopause. will update on here after my op thanks again for replying to me biggrin.
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    My mother had this surgery 4 years ago and has not been the same since. She's had chronic pain and she's also seen Dr many occasions.  She can no longer sweep, walk long distance or stand for long period of time. It's sad and heart breaking how they find nothing wrong with her. But yet, her pain is there and she's learn to live with it. 
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    Hi gemma

    I have just had prolapse repair surgery 4 and  a half weeks  ago.  Like any surgery there is always a risk! Just be sure your specialist is the best!!  Are they going to suture or use mesh?  Mesh can  have alot of complications. I had tfs tape which is much less invasive and has far fewer complications associated with it. Sufficient time for recovery is the most important. I am still resting as much as possible. My job is a sitting one...but I can't sit comfortably for more than 2 hours yet! Its taking longer than I expected but I dont have kids at home  and I work from home so I can rest when I need to. Everything is working better though and i dont feel like my insides are going to fall out when i go to the toot!! Why does your doc want to do a hysterectomy?  Part of my problem stems from having a hysterectomy  years ago and cutting one of the major supports for the pelvic sling.  Just make sure you understand everything fully before you go in!

    I know how you feel...

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      not sure why milly he said i may or may not need hysterectomy. I thought it was best to leave womb in as the top of the vagina can prolapse with out it ? Maybe its incase i have a womb problem they are unaware of. So going for a scan. Im 42 and still having peroids regular. I've read about the mesh i dont want that procedure. Will keep you posted thanks for replying smile
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      The Tissue Fixation System (TFS)  was deregistered by the Australian Government TGA - Therapuetic Goods Administration  (similar to the FDA) in November 2014.   It is made in Australia according to the manufacturers website.

      Government Cancellation Notice

      https://www.tga.gov.au/medical-devices-and-ivds-cancellations-artg

      Advertising Determination

      http://www.tgacrp.com.au/uploaded/complaints/panelDetermination/CRP%202014-04-003%20Tissue%20Fixation%20System%20.pdf

      Medical Journal Article 

      Complications associated with tissue anchor migration after vaginal surgery using the tissue fixation system – a case series

      http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1479-828X.2011.01383.x/abstract

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    Hi Gemma  I am 3 weeks post op . I had a vaginal hysterectomy, posterior repair & perineal repair. My ovaries have been left behind as I still had periods even though I am perimenapausal , I am on HRT. At 58 I didn't need my uterus any more & I had a grade 2 prolapse in any case so it needed to go. For me it wan't  a difficult decision. As regards sex it's too early yet but I am optimistic. If you read all the blogs, I have found personally they describe a journey most of us will progress through. The difference between now & 3 weeks ago when I first went on line and was so worried is amazing. A second opinion wouldn't hurt but you haven't had the results of the scan yet. Read all the blogs I think you may find the answers there.Good luck

    Sue

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      Thankyou sue i will have a read through them its made me realise i'm not alone and it seems quite a common problem its a sensitive subject and not talked about enough. Up until i first saw my gp in august i thought i was imagining it was driving me crazy, was crying and read some horrid stuff on a forum where men joined it saying nasty things like thier wifes have be ruined sexually after giving birth and it upset me so much. Anyhow thank god i plucked up the courage to seek help. The lady gynaegologist  i seen was so lovely and understanding. My consultant is a man and specializes in prolapse problems. Keep you all posted.
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    My mother is 56. Her surgery like I said was 4 years ago. Even though because of her previous pain prior to her surgery she no longer was able to be sexy ally active. I can tell you that after her surgery, it got worse. She was never again able to be sexy ally active with my father. 

    It doesn't mean it's going to happen to you. But I advice you to get all your questions answered and research done. Ask to speak to patients that your Dr. Has perform this procedure on. Best of blessings to you. God will guide you. 

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      So sorry for your mum..I feel very sad for her ......just terrible to be in constant pain..I agree with what you suggested to gemma..talk to patients that have had surgery with your doctor if you possibly can. There are also some wonderful outcomes from this kind of surgery. Has she considered seeing someone again....or is she too frightened?
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    She's frightened. She's afraid of going through something that may not have a positive outcome. it's sad to see her adjust her life to her pain. 

    This is why i say.. ASK, RESEARCH, INVESTIGATE, DONT BE EMBARRASSED TO ASK WHAT MAKES YOU UNCOMFORTABLE.  Maybe if we would've asked more my mother could've had other options as far as choosing maybe a different Doctor.  

    God bless  

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