Orgasm After Prolapse Surgery
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I've had surgery for a posterior and anterior repair with perineoplasty on the 6th Feb (almost 3 weeks ago) and was told not to have sex until 6 weeks. I never really considered that no sex would mean no orgasms at all so I never asked about it, I was just thinking I wouldn't want intercourse anyway until then or after anyway so it's not an issue. Now my husband is adament that I shouldn't do anything at all for 6 weeks that may lead to an orgasm as it could pull the internal stitches. I've searched the internet for answers but there doesn't seem to be any. I've found some old forum threads and only one which states her surgeon said no orgasm until 6 weeks, other than that nothing so does anyone know if it is safe or not?
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Guest rachel_52861
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Orgasms do make the pelvic floor muscles, the vagina, and the cervix contract temporarily for 5-60 seconds. This is the area where the surgery took place so I was a little worried about having an orgasm after my prolapse surgery too. When I went to my post op appointment at 2 weeks I was concerned about the amount of swelling I had and that swelling creating increased tension on my sutures. She said swelling brings increased blood flow and helps with the healing. I didn’t ask about Orgasm, but that brings increased blood flow also. So 2 weeks post op I externally stimulated (no penetration at all) ALONE (guys are too temped) and I was able to successfully have a orgasm. It felt great, and I had no additional bleeding, pain, or any other negative side effect after. I’m almost 4 weeks post op and I’ve been able to do this 4 times now. The orgasm is actually stronger than prior to the surgery, I’m assuming because everything is back where it should be.
NOW MY QUESTION: I am soooooooo nervous about having sex, but at the same time I’m dying because I haven’t had it. Anyone able to shed some light? Painful, awkward, any bleeding, full penetration the first time, any help at all is appreciated. TIA ??
ginger57255 Guest
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I'm at 3 weeks post op. I was ready for the O after 2 weeks all seems fine with mine. When I asked my Dr. she said there are plenty of other ways to have sex besides intercourse but no intercourse until check up and she give us the go. When giving my husband, of 35 yrs. , the surgery details after surgery she told him no intercourse he told her he'd see if he could get me to go along with that. I will refrain from intercourse but its hard. I did read the piece about how men with prostate issues/cancer making sure they can still have a active sex life is a big part of their recovery. Very little on line about making sure women can still have a good sex life after surgery.It doesnt seem to be high on the list of concerns when it comes to prolapse issues with women, like thats not important to us. Hope all is going well with you.
allisgroovy rachel_52861
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Hi Rachel, I had an anterior and posterior prolapse repair just 8 DAYS ago and feeling totally fabulous about it - how it feels down there and the huge difference it's made to doing a poo (sorry about that but if you have a rectocele and are worried about having the operation - just go for it). I didn't realise quite how bad things were down there until the op was done and am hugely thrilled now - I feel brand new.
I was told to start pelvic floor exercises straight away which I did after about three days. Doing these exercises were quite uncomfortable at first but are fine now - in fact for the first time ever tonight I found the exercises quite arousing, to the extent that I have just had an orgasm! I don't have a partner and didn't penetrate at all and didn't use any artificial means to achieve orgasm. Aren't I the lucky one!
For for some reason I started to feel really sexy about five years ago. I'm telling you young ladies this in case you think when you get old that's the end of your sex life - I was 74 the week before my operation.
I think I should add that my experience may well not be everybody's and to trust your own body as no-one knows you like you do yourself.
allisgroovy
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A PS: I will only post again if tonight's experience proves to be a mistake. If you don't hear from me then all is well.
gila84306 rachel_52861
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I had my surgery (prolapses and hysterectomy) two and a half weeks ago. I waited till my two week follow up to ask about orgasm. My doctor said yes and it could help! He did seem surprised at the question, so I guess not many patients ask. My experience is that it took a number of times to start to feel strong and similar to before the surgery, but no pain or any other bad result. As Jan999 said - a sense of well being and blood flow. I'll add that I have not experienced a reduced libido from this surgery. In fact, if I had known earlier that it was ok, I wouldn't have waited 😃
I'm thankful for this forum. I find it a bit troubling that a woman's orgasm isn't discussed anywhere else where I've read about guidelines for recovery from this surgery.
bryan90782 rachel_52861
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After my wife's surgery, we followed all guidelines regarding sexual intercourse and waited at least 8 weeks. During our first attempt, she experienced pain and discomfort. Now, a year later, the pain has not subsided. This surgery fixed her medical problems, but our sex life is non-existent. I no longer attempt sex with her as it is way too uncomfortable to be rejected, and I do not want to see her in pain while I'm enjoying myself.
This surgery has ruined our sex life, and it makes us both very unhappy!
newlife2308 rachel_52861
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Hi, I'm 2 weeks post op prolapse repair (bladder, uterus, rectum, and vaginal narrowing). As women, our sexuality is a huge component of our lives. In pre op, my concern was any sexual dysfunction.
Has anyone experienced difficulties self-lubricating after surgery? I worry because I don't have my moisture, which never was an issue prior to. Could a nerve have been damaged during such an invasive surgery or is it too early to "get things back going?" I'm so worried and sad. (My sutures are still intact, too.)