Overthinking

Thank you LFCste x

It may well be! Give it a try and see x

Yes staying in the now is a great way to pull your brain back from negative thoughts about the past or future. I spent so many hours regretting my decisions and planning what my next move will be I forgot to enjoy now.

Having good health is the most important thing. Mentally and physically. As long as we have that we are wealthy x

That's great Phil well done to you. I get the occasional thought about being forgotten by people but then I remind myself that I shouldn't have to be on social media to be remembered. It's what I do in life that should be remembered not what I put on Facebook. X

Yeah, I just needed to be alone for a while to get my head together. It feels lonely sometimes but I've cut out certain people of my life, they don't know that yet, and focused on family as although I find it hard to get on with certain family members the other ones I have found out feel same way as I do. If you have a gud family they are important, I guess if you don't then certain friends count instead.

It is hard to get on with family but after everything they are the ones who will always be there for you no matter what X

I have a big sister who feels the same as me regarding keeping other family members at arm's length. I've realised that her and I are quite similar.

In an ideal world everyone in family would get on and be kind to each other with no alterior motive but I have an older bro who is a control freak and arrogant although he's be the last person to admit that - in fact before that he'd turn the focus round to you and make you feel like the fool. It comes as no surprise I don't have much contact with him. In fact he does this to everyone in our family even big sis.

It made me think why and the conclusion is that he got away with all this behaviour when we were young and so his attitude problem wasn't dealt with by mum and dad. I hate to say it but they unwittingly created a monster.

This has affected my self esteem for the whole of my life and even though he is technically family he never acted like he was family.

Sorry for the rant. I know a lot of this can't be fixed due to my mum's poor health and the past can't be changed but I have my allies and I try to live in the now.

Thanks for listening.

Sorry to hear that Phil. It sounds like you and your sister have a great relationship. As for your brother I'm sure he will regret how he has treated you all in the end. I hope your mum gets better soon. Try to focus on yourself and your mum and sister at the moment. I know it's hard. There are some people in our lives that no matter what we do we will never see eye to eye. That's why we need to concentrate on ourselves and a select few people who we trust. X

Thank you .

This sounds like good advice.

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It creates positivity and also isolation in this day of age. Dont have Facebook or that persons number. Good luck contacting them.

Definitely agree with that Woah! I spent a lot of time looking at my exes girlfriends profile on Instagram and I was finding myself feeling really bitter and resentful towards her for no reason! I thought if I can feel like this then surely it's not healthy and social media needs to go! X

I agree with that Tom and I feel that's the reason why we stay on social media. Because we don't want to be forgotten or left out.

But how many times have you gone out and randomly seen someone that you haven't seen for a while?

Since I deleted my social media I've seen a few people that I know and have swapped numbers. These are the people that are supposed to be in your life. Not because they are your friend on the internet but because they have been brought into your life. Whether that be by coincidence or fate who knows. But I believe that you meet people at a certain time in your life for a reason and social media disrupts that natural path. X