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Overwhelmed with stress

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regional
regional

Hello Ladies !

My last period was 9 months ago, and I have suffered from hot flushes etc,so have tried vitamin B ,magnesium and I suppose the flushes I can cope with, but the anxiety and brain fog is another matter.

Saw my GP and she prescribed anti depressants but have tried to steer clear of these,but the moment stress hits my life,I totally fall apart !

I am 52 years of age and some would say a successful business woman but I do not recognise the person in the mirror and I am concerned that work will start to see my failings and things will start getting tough for me ?

I cannot remember stuff, get tearful very easily ,  that in my forties I would have seen as a challenge I just want to hand my notice in at work and stay in bed.

I suppose what I am asking is ...am I alone, will this get better ?

Feel better just writing this down but this is so not me.

xxxxxxx

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  • VauxhallGirl
    VauxhallGirl regional

    Posted

    Hi Regional.

    I am 51, and have been peri for a few years, I think. Hard to tell, as I had a Merina coil in, so no periods for 5 years!

    But my brain fog is getting worse - that's the thing that scares me, wondering if its early Altz! I forget names of people, places, things....and that thing that upset me most, names of 80's bands that I loved to listen to back in the day! Sounds silly, but they were my passion - knew loads of statistics about the pop music of my youth, and now it is all sifting away.

    I had a hysterectomy 5 weeks ago, so flushes and sweats are getting me - but hoping I can escape any meds, as everything seems to have a side effect!

    Don't give up. Think that would be the worst thing you can do for your brain. Keep fighting, and try to find other ways to get round the forgetfulness. I have lists for everything now, and reminder alarms on my phone.

    You are definitly not alone, as you can see from the replies here - and I think the symptoms of meno come and go like the tides (but sadly not as quick as the tides!).

    Keep on at your Doc to try and find something that works for you. Lay it on thick with the GP, as I think they become a little desensitised working for the public.

    Let us know how you get on.

    All the best. x

     

    • regional
      regional VauxhallGirl

      Posted

      Thank you for replying and I am going to see my GP this Friday.I will let you know what she says/recommends but I do know that HRT is not the answer for me,well not at the moment ! But never say never. xxx

       

  • sandra01691
    sandra01691 regional

    Posted

    you are most def not alone...it feels like it doesnt it..i totally understand....thats why i joined this page i had to write it down it does help...someone at work may i ad a male said i was slowing down due to my menopause...i could have hit him...like we ask to be like this and yes cried for hours the other day..dont know why!!! i have been given betablockers from doc to help with my anxiety and diazapan ...like youself i really have tried to not take any sedative or anti depress but i had to the other day so upset...im going to try and just take them when i need them....would rather have a glass of wine to be honest...but again you arent alone .x

     

    • Lisaippie
      Lisaippie sandra01691

      Posted

      Yes I feel your pain I have had anxiety disorder since I was 12 but since peri menapause it has been way worse and I can't stay sedated all day at work, so I don't know what else to do, my anxiety is so bad I haven't even driven myself anywhere for 4 months or so
    • sandra01691
      sandra01691 Lisaippie

      Posted

      i know ...im back at work tommorow and im concidering wheter to take my tablets...should be ok with beta blockers but not the diazapan wich to be honest im not taking unless really have to...i find the silliest things a struggle like shopping i get into the supermarket and its like a wave comes over me and i cant breath....i have a little talk to myself before i drive anywere and pray a panic attack doesnt come over me...crazy...the stpmache churning dread i cant handle ....it is helpful to know we are not alone..i thought i was going mad ...still do some times..lol....xx
    • Lisaippie
      Lisaippie sandra01691

      Posted

      I have panic attacks so bad now I don't even attempt to drive anymore it is hard sometimes to get a ride places but I have an amazing understanding man so I hope he doesn't change he started saying 2 years ago I was going through early menapause but I refused to believe him then, although my periods aren't that heavy knock on wood, I have the anxiety and dizziness almost every day Lord when will this all end!!!
    • regional
      regional sandra01691

      Posted

      Thank you just feeling you are not alone is of  great comfort xx
    • michelle50768
      michelle50768 Lisaippie

      Posted

      Hi everyone

      Following this post I just thought I would ask some advice.

      I feel like im going crazy. I have what I can only described as an internal trembling. I have had this on and iff before but the last two days have been constant. Ots making me feel constantly on edge I just wanna cry all the time.

      Been in perimenopause eight years so had all symptoms going.

      I feel like im constantly on the verge of a panic attack.

      Any advice please ladies. Im really struggling todaysad

    • Lisaippie
      Lisaippie michelle50768

      Posted

      I wish I had some advise to give you, as I need some myself, only think that helps me is to stay busy doing something you love helps my not to panic as much, my anxiety is so bad at times, I take medication for it but doesn't really help that much, I haven't been able to drive my car in over 3 months or more due to panic attacks and dizziness hope you get some relief, best of luck to you😊
    • michelle50768
      michelle50768 Lisaippie

      Posted

      Thank you I am trying to keep busy. Im also a carer in the community so work mornings.

      IM on Ad mirtazapine 15mg but sometimes it doesnt help.

      Wishing you the best x

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