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jody57581
jody57581

HI can any one help? My mom has just passed away she was 56 and went into hospital on boxing after having alot of pain in her stomach her history wasnt great she had liver diese as she was a heavy drinker  before. Onlt when she went into hospital it took them four days to take her in for a scan to find out what was causing her all the pain which is when we was told ita not good there is a ruptered organ in her stomach and shes too ill to make it theough an operation so they gunna try to deal with it by giving her antiboiticks in a drip but as the day went on she got worse and worse and we was then told she wasnt going to make it through the night and that after her last drip they wasnt gunna give her anything els and that there was nothing els they could do which was terrible an i felt usless and couldnt get my head round how she got so bad so quickly and why the doctora never got her down for a scan on the first or second day she was there instead of leaving her for four days all of this is playing on my mind all i can think is if they had her down for scan sooner none of this would have happened we never got a striaght answer of any of thw doctors on what had actually happened in her stomach untill today when i went and picked death cert up and it says cause of death pertherated bowel please has anyone got any information or anything at all that might help i would be gratefull thanks for reading! 

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  • tiswas24537
    tiswas24537 jody57581

    Posted

    STD  . below has sent you some good advice take a look they have laid it out simply for you so have a go 
  • frustrated61
    frustrated61 jody57581

    Posted

    Hi Jody ~

    First, let me tell you that I'm sorry for your loss.  Losing your mother or father is pretty hard on the family.  I hope you all keep close and join in on all the good memories you have of your mother...that keeps her alive!

    Second, My mother had a perforated colon when she was in her 50's too.  It took them much too long to dx her.  She was under close watch as your mother was as well.  When there is a break in the colon, you can only imagine all the awful "poop" that gets into the blood system.  My mother was in the hospital for 2 weeks and did make it through all the ups and downs she was experiencing.

    Thirdly and lastly,

    I'd go see a lawyer as quickly as you can.  I do believe there was malpractice on the doctors part and they should be made to deal with the consequences.  It's not easy going through a lawsuit, as I experienced one after an auto accident that left me with a broken back in two  places and a fracture neck.  I could have sued the doctor and the PA as well but we aren't the suing type of people.  I do have some regret with that decision as I'm unable to work or do the things I used to be able to do.  

    My point by talking about myself is, it's worth a try to see if you have a case.  In the US, lawyers don't usually take money unless you have a case and one they feel they can win.  Should you not win, we aren't responsible for any costs accured by the lawyers.  So really, you have nothing to lose if your in the US.  If in the UK, I'm not too sure how your legal system works, but find out, and find out soon.  You only have 3 years to file and it takes weeks after months after years to get all the documentations together and the depositions from doctors and so on.

     Your mother was pretty young and most likely, if she didn't get that perforated problem, she probably would have lived longer.  Is your father still alive?  If so, he is entitled to compensation as well for his pain and suffering losing his wife to incompentence.  You as children, I'm not sure what you'd be entitled to but it's something to check out if the lawyers accept your case.

    I wish you all the luck.  I am sorry, again, for the loss of your mother.  Be brave and strong and remember, fight the good fight with all your might!  

    Warmly,

    Frustrated

    • jody57581
      jody57581 frustrated61

      Posted

      Hi thanks for your help i shall get in contact with someone. Does it matter if the funeral has already happened? Im in the uk and also my mom and dad wernt together when she passed :-)
    • jody57581
      jody57581 derek76

      Posted

      Ok why is this? As she is going to be cremated and its all booked and everyone has arranged to go they all coming from all different places the last thing i want to do is cancel it all it was hard enough for me to arrange all this and to have to do it all over again im not sure i could do it if im honest. 
    • tiswas24537
      tiswas24537 derek76

      Posted

      sorry yes i forgot  i wont mention why because i dont want to upset jody 

      but yes of course sorry fibro brain not working properly yet

    • jody57581
      jody57581 tiswas24537

      Posted

      So i wont Be able to do anything once shes been cremated is this what your both saying? 
    • tiswas24537
      tiswas24537 jody57581

      Posted

      i hate to say this but they might be a need for an autopsy you cant do that if she has been cremented  .
    • jody57581
      jody57581 tiswas24537

      Posted

      What does an autopsy do? Is that to just find out course of death? Cause its not just that its all other stuff like why someone with moms history wasnt taken in for a scan straight away why they just gave up and told us they wernt gunna try anything els things like this maybe i should just forget and try and move on its just all going round in my head and have not slept since all this happened 
    • derek76
      derek76 jody57581

      Posted

      Firstly you need to know the real cause of death before take your next step.
    • tiswas24537
      tiswas24537 jody57581

      Posted

      i really dont know hun an autopsy might reveal that early intervention could have saved her .luckly iv never been in your situation . do what you fee you feel up to hun dont make your selve ill over it.

      your mum would not want that you no that is true .this kind of progress is tough because the medical proffession close ranks so you really need to be tough ,which is what they rely on you not being so soon after a death .and how they get a way with it so many times .discus it with your family see what they think .cry

    • derek76
      derek76 tiswas24537

      Posted

      He could Google PALS ( Patient advice and liaison services )

      at the hospital she was in and they will get answers to his questions and a meeting for him with the doctors concerned. You can E-Mail, Phone or write to them.

      When we were unhappy about our daughters cancer not being discovered until too late we took advice from her MP and had a meeting with the hospital where they told lies. We did not want to sue them just to bring the truth out and make sure that the same did not happen to future patients. We then asked for an NHS inquiry where two independent counsultants take your story and put it to the consultants and then question them. 

  • georgia_19058
    georgia_19058 jody57581

    Posted

    My mother - only two weeks ago underwent emergency surgery at midnight with a team of ten called into the hospital to perform the surgery.  She had a preforated ulcer as it was defined; it was very very risky surgery, but my mother came thru like a champ!... she is 91 years old; at the time of the surgery she was 90!.   Had the surgery not been performed she undoubtedly would have died for the 'sepsis' that leaks from the hole in the bowel.  
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