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Peri menopause is taking my life away

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Salesmanswidow
Salesmanswidow

So im 45 started with itchy skin achy joints about 18 months ago, mentioned to the nurse during a routine smear she said i was probably starting peri? Went to see the doctor oct 2019 because my migraines were so bad i struggled to function, had an mri was fine had bloods all fine. Since january things have continued to get worse, aching joints, migraines, sore breasts/nipples total exhaustion that floors me for days (i physically struggle to get out of bed) ibs litrally running to the loo 3/4 times in a row, jelly legs, feeling of doom, health anxiety, panic attacts, cold hands, racing heart, the latest bloating & pain very low down maybe bladder area? I actually cant do up my jeans, had an internal exam & bloods for ovarian cancer which where fine. Periods are now 22 days apart sometimes light sometimes heavy? But every day for the last 8 months seems like a bad day i wish to wake feeling well but never do, if i do feel almost normal it wont last all day. please tell me im not alone i actually feel like i am dying can every day really be this bad

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  • hilary72843
    hilary72843 Salesmanswidow

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    I have been feeling very much the same for just over a week now. It's horrendous isn't it. For me it started with feeling weirdly faint and woozy and I got tingles in my hands and feet. I also feel shivery then boiling with hot flashes, clammy hands& feet, tight chested (like I can't breathe deeply), my head is foggy and I can't think straight. Heart palpitations, waking in the night and unable to get back to sleep, a sense of doom and a total loss of appetite.

    I then have a better day and think it has passed only to find I suffer again the next day. It is really getting to me and I am convinced I'm dying.

    I am on HRT but think my hormones have shifted and I am waiting to speak to my GP again. I have started anti-depressants but it's too early to feel the benefit.

    So, you are not alone. It really is miserable.

    • Salesmanswidow
      Salesmanswidow hilary72843

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      Its weirdly comforting knowing we are not alone, i tried hrt in tablet form but stopped after 6 weeks because it made me feel worse. docs now looking into digestive issues testing for h plyori bacteria in tummy now but im pretty sure its all peri. now im getting all day sickness feeling like pregnancy sickness so must be hormone related, just keep telling myself it will pass but its all so exhausting

    • victoria59278
      victoria59278 hilary72843

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      morning its so reasurring hearing others on hear talk bout their horrid symptoms

      last few days been getting a twitch in lower lip soo weird not including all the the others i get daily

      palp

      waking up throught out night with a anxious stomach and doom and gloom feeling

      stomach isdues

      fuzzy lightheaded feeling

      headaches

      neck pain

      tiedness just feel like i am dying

      awful

      i feel ur pain and worry xxx

    • Salesmanswidow
      Salesmanswidow victoria59278

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      im due to start hrt patches waiting till i get my cycle, gp hopes the anxiety/low mood will improve with hrt gosh i hope so, if not i might have to consider them too

    • victoria59278
      victoria59278 Salesmanswidow

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      my cycles are so everwhere , like yest had the cramps and lightheaded feeling weird dizzy eyes and this annoying lip twitching

      went to bed at 7 just to escape ... i was bleeding but like inside

      just spotting like brown for days i notice anxiety worse durring or before

      scary times

      i just wanna feel better xxx

    • Salesmanswidow
      Salesmanswidow victoria59278

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      omg tell me about it, everyday is such a struggle. i still cant my head around how it can make you feel so ill constantly, i felt awful on waking weird adrenaline surges constantly, crawling skin sensations light headed just forced some breakfast down me too x

    • victoria59278
      victoria59278 Salesmanswidow

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      seriously this cant be all hormones surely

      i have had horrible neck pain and cold syptoms

      and this anxiety is the worst thing xxx

    • Salesmanswidow
      Salesmanswidow victoria59278

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      its easier to convince yourself its some awful killer condition than hormones isnt it, i have to keep reminding myself ive had bloods etc which were all fine but the anxiety for me has been dreadful gosh i hope one day it all passes because i litrally feel ill from the moment i wake to the moment i go to bed x

    • victoria59278
      victoria59278 Salesmanswidow

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      i had my bloods not sure if told u

      but i was lacking in vit d and folic acid xxx

      never had these issues bloods always been perfact x

    • victoria59278
      victoria59278 Salesmanswidow

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      same i dread each day now

      i never make plans as hate making excuses

      my sleep is sooo bad too

      waking 1am then 4 am in panic

      life is awful at the more but i take diaz to help me x

    • Salesmanswidow
      Salesmanswidow victoria59278

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      i know sleep is so important isnt it, do you ever try sleep in the day? i try but cant seem too like tired but wired? i had bloods done a few months ago i wonder if i should have them done again, i take quite a high strength vit d but not folic acid. what does that help x

    • victoria59278
      victoria59278 Salesmanswidow

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      i do sleep during day but just cant relax enough

      re vit d

      my level was low 27 and it should be like 75

      at the time dr prescribed me 25000 iu

      to take one every two weeks with folic acid daily 5mg

      but run out of them now

      i brought vit d 1000 iu so take one daily

      folic acid i think is b9 similar to b12

      not sure wat it does lol i think its like iron sort of thing

      i was low in folate so yeah was given folic acid tabs

      i get dizzy alot or like dizzy eyes

      i was meant to re take blood tests ages ago but havent but i should

      xxx

    • victoria59278
      victoria59278

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      dr said i need to eat more leafy greens re the folate x

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