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kathe19972
kathe19972

Has anyone felt like you are numb to any feelings around you while you are in perimenopause and don't want to do anything like you have to really push yourself to work or clean and even then you don't want to?  Has anyone taken birthcontrol my doctor seems to think it will help me, but I am afraid of gaining weight and having opposite mood swings.  If anyone can offer any insight please.

Thanks,

K

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  • jamie50513
    jamie50513 kathe19972

    Posted

    I feel that way often. I have so many things to do and I just have no motivation to do it. I have to force myself to get the things done that I really have to do. It almost feels crippling.
    • kathe19972
      kathe19972 jamie50513

      Posted

      ok so how do we get ourselves motivated to want to feel like if we do things it will be gratifying?  I just moved and was excited to decorate now lost all motivation for it and my house really needs it.  I am up for any suggesitons!!!!
    • Guest
      Guest jamie50513

      Posted

      Crippling is a great word to describe it, Jamie.
    • Snowbell1975
      Snowbell1975 kathe19972

      Posted

      I'm hoping the Rhodiola Roseanne will get me some pep and motivation like the others I read about. Gotta hang on to some hope here
    • jamie50513
      jamie50513 kathe19972

      Posted

      I wish I had some suggestions for you. When I have an hour of feeling ok or a day where the symptoms don't have me stuck in bed, I get a few things done. You just have to pace yourself and push through. I'm sure some of the other ladies may have suggestions on what to take to help with low mood that causes the feelings of no motivation.
    • jamie50513
      jamie50513 Guest

      Posted

      Crippled is how I've been feeling for the last few months.
    • Guest
      Guest jamie50513

      Posted

      Same here.  It is horrible and debilitating in many ways.  I'm glad we can be here for each other.
    • Guest
      Guest jamie50513

      Posted

      Jamie, yes, that is good advice... when I feel better, I do get things done... you have to grab that time while you have it.  I wish I had more of it, but some is better than none.
    • jamie50513
      jamie50513 Guest

      Posted

      Tell me about it. I take advantage when of those moments when I can. Yesterday I had really bad gas and could barely eat. Today I am nauseous. My cycle is due this week. If it's coming, I wish it would hurry up so this nauseous feeling would subside. Then I can somethings done.
    • CCinCal
      CCinCal jamie50513

      Posted

      Good advice. I felt ok waking up this morning but decided to get a few more hours of rest. And getting up the second time around I feel awful now. It's true, when you have a good hour have to get things done or else this peri is so unpredictable don't know how I'll feel in an hour.
    • Guest
      Guest CCinCal

      Posted

      So true, it all changes so quickly.
    • kathe19972
      kathe19972 CCinCal

      Posted

      How do you stop overeating when you are going through this.  I am going crazy looking at the scale and it keeps going up
    • CCinCal
      CCinCal kathe19972

      Posted

      For me it's peanut butter and jelly on crackers. But It goes back and forth with me. I get really hungry and other times no appetite.
    • unico31026
      unico31026 kathe19972

      Posted

      I am having the opposite! I keep losing weight( although I could stand to lose a few pounds) but I'm losing them too quick ( 12 lbs in one month) because I don't have an appetite! I'm starving and will want something so bad until I get it or cook it and as soon as I see or smell it my appetite for it is gone.I'm literally forcing myself to eat once a day ! A hot dog here a piece of ham there and I don't know what to do.
    • Snowbell1975
      Snowbell1975 unico31026

      Posted

      Unico, I had the same issue, then it would lift. Now im in a partbof my cycle where im eating well and have gained 4 lbs back. But I notice at the time my cycle starts, the loss of appetite and nausea comes back.This has never happened to me before. Ive purchased some weight gain shakes to have on hand when this happens. They are packed with protein and calories. Ive always been naturally skinny then in my 30's, I packed on weight and now that I have hit 41, peri symptoms are hitting me like a brick. Hugs to you. I pray this passes soon.
    • jamie50513
      jamie50513 Snowbell1975

      Posted

      That sounds like me. I lost a lot of weight quickly and it scared me so bad. I was always small and petite but in my thirties I gained a whole lot of weight. I was eating all the time. But now that these hard symtpoms have started, I have bouts of nausea and gas and I have no appetite. I have to force myself to eat. Then when that lifts I can eat again. I needed to lose so weight badly because I was huge, bloated, and gassy all the time, but I didn't want to lose it like this. But oh well. I get the nausea and bad gas in spurts. So I just deal with it as it comes.
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