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Perimenopause/Menopause: Am I the Only Defective One?

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sakura26
sakura26

So this is the 4th time I've met a woman like this. I have a couple of older friends and even my mother who said "oh I didn't even notice I went through menopause, I had no symptoms, hot flashes etc." and didn't go through it until my 50s. Then today I met this beautiful, tall, thin older woman (about 60) who was telling me (in a health food store department) oh yes it's normal even during peri (which I am in already at 47) to get thicker around your middle, larger breasts etc. And I thought, "oh so you read that somewhere?" looking at her super thin supermodel frame and flat stomach. So then I asked her, "what was your experience"? And she was like oh well I was lucky, no real weight gain, hot flashes etc. and I'm not on HRT and feel great 6 years after menopause. And all I can think is WTF? Why is my body so defective? I guess I've never looked like a supermodel but I was think and ate very healthy for years. Been sugar-free and gluten-free and paleo since I was 18!!! And I'm only in peri and feel like hell. Anxiety, pain, vaginal ph issues, sudden weight gain that's really hard to get off, giant fibroid. I guess it really boils down to luck and genes. I know I'm not alone thanks to these boards. But it really does make me feel defective sometimes or unlucky and all the healthy things I do are pointless if my genes fail me. I dunno. Thanks for listening ladies.

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  • sakura26
    sakura26

    Posted

    Hugs to all you ladies!!! Thanks for your responses. You are the only things keeping me sane. 😃

  • lydia2311
    lydia2311 sakura26

    Posted

    you arent alone. Some of my older friends didnt have problems, but many more did. you arent defective - hormones are powerful things.

  • 2chr2015
    2chr2015 sakura26

    Posted

    i agree with the other ladies about our food, medicines, and environment that makes all these crazy symptoms. i do the best i can with organic and clean eating etc. it is very hard to do sometimes in our fast paced world. its not like it was in the 50s.

  • lelawreck
    lelawreck sakura26

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    I do feel like WTF most times, as I know what you are saying here. Bigger boobs!?!, like really mine became so small and lost all fatty tissue and are just two pairs of shaggy skin hanging there like no tomorrow! I have done several online searches herein to understand why some women breeze through peri and others don't, but have not gotten the answers I am looking for. Interesting fact though that i red up is that Asian Women do not experience bad symptoms of peri. This is due to the fact that they use a lot of soy, which apparently acts like a natural hormone. Whether it comes down to passing of bad genes or just simply our lifestyle that we lead has not been proven either, as I too led a fairly healthy lifestyle and are for sure also one of the women whom experience all of the 66 dreadful symptoms of peri if not more, lol. The ones that I find to be the hardest is anxiety, depression and mood swings.

    All I can say is, Sakura, thank you to this forum, as it became my lifesaver. Hang in there and keep on reading and posting.

    • sakura26
      sakura26 lelawreck

      Posted

      Thanks! I heard about the soy too, but then I stopped eating soy because I heard it was bad for you. 😦 SO confusing.

    • 2chr2015
      2chr2015 sakura26

      Posted

      yes me too. i did the same thing!! ugh its almost as bad as all of the conflicting lists on alkaline vs acid foods.

    • sakura26
      sakura26 2chr2015

      Posted

      Omg yes!!! I also am not sure I believe the whole alkaline craze lately as I tried alkaline water and it gave me bad stomach upset and heartburn. Which makes me think I'm already alkaline lol.

  • AJacynM
    AJacynM sakura26

    Posted

    I too feel totally defective... and very dispirited with HRT... you're not alone. 😦

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