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traceyf46
traceyf46

Hi everyone

Truly having a terrible time having lost both my dog and my dad in the last few months. Doctor said i was depressed in December and suggested mindfulness meditation, yeah right.

I have only had 3 periods in a year, the last one in November. Im 46 and only have one ovary.

Perimenopause has only just occurred to me, i am at rock bottom.

I am very low, pushing everyone away, lost interest and confidence at work.

I have no interest in how i look or clothes. No interest in sex or socialising.

I have limp hair, peeling nails, bloated stomach and constant pain in right side below ribs, constant aches and pains, i get hot flashes and hot feeling in gums, always feeling like i have something seriously wrong. My eye bags and lack if sleep make me feel and look so old.

Dont know whether to go back to gp or try some alternativs

I don't have any friends to talk to, i would appreciate some advice, thanks tracey

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  • danne
    danne traceyf46

    Posted

    Hi I have been through the same.  I have been peri for about 2/3 years now (age 54 now) and also lost my father recently. Have the peeling flakey breaking nails, thinning hair which is dry, itchy skin and pai ndown left side.  Bloating vey badly and IBS! Nightmare, but now been period free for amfeqw months so hoping trhings might be on the up!   I get very tearful and feelings of despair sometimes and insomnia, dozing off with stressfu dreams waking me.  Who would be a woman!!!!!
    • susan21149
      susan21149 danne

      Posted

      Hi Danne

      Tell me about it I feel like things are starting to quiet down a bit with my symptoms but there are times I have anxieties and there are times I have trouble sleeping and I do get moody and cry a lot. 

  • liz1234
    liz1234 traceyf46

    Posted

    Tracey, I am so sorry for your loss. Depression is a terrible thing, you feel like you are in a dark tunnel with no way out. I had terrible anxiety a couple of years ago, it got so bad that I could not function, I was off work, crying, feeling totally dependant on my family and friends. I went to my GP and was put on Sertraline which helped. I didn't like the thought of being on an anti depressant but at the time I felt desperate. It helped me through that difficult period, I am now off those tablets and trying to manage. Go back to your GP, try yoga and meditation to help you sleep. I went on youtube and would listen to a meditative journey to help me relax and get some sleep.

    I was lucky to have my husband, sister and friends around me to really, encourage me to eat, shower and go out. It was a dark time, and I sympathise with you.

    Do you enjoy listening to music of any kind? I found I could force myself to go for a walk, listen to my music. I would say to myself, you will go out for a walk for half an hour, mostly crying along the way! Exercise does help your mood.

    I'm sending you a hug and a huge smile cause I know you will come through this x

    • susan21149
      susan21149 liz1234

      Posted

      Hi Liz I'm the same way I have dealt with anxietis and depression myself. My boyfriend helps me a lot. I see a therapist and I just got a dog added to my two cokatiels and three parakeets. 

      It hard when you are dealing with depression and anxieties we have to find a balane between life and help ourselves the best we can

  • dorothy96834
    dorothy96834 traceyf46

    Posted

    Oh Tracey, you are not alone and I know you have enough in you to get through this. I lost my dad, my superman, March 2015 and just October this year my dog had to have an eye removal. It cost me thousands and I can't even pay for my own tests. My 21 year old daughter was diagnosed with epilepsy first semester of college and has been hospitalized with her head being stapled numerous times. I worry constantly, I'm menopausal or whatever they call it and I at my lowest, which I've never been. I can go on and on with all the other craziness in my life but I won't. I think what we need to do it to find the time and opportunity to help others. I'm a paralegal and I tend to do that all the time and it's draining but when I help someone who appreciates it, it really helps. The key is to keep busy. Don't get stagnant. And stop worrying so much about your hair, etc. heal you soul and so something for you because you deserve that!! Peace to you my friend. I'm trying to heal myself so let's try to do this together. You are not alone.

  • dorothy96834
    dorothy96834 traceyf46

    Posted

    Also, regarding the loss of your dog. I don't know if you are ready for another dog but volunteering will definitely not hurt. Maybe you can foster a dog to see how it works out. Fostering a dog is not a permanent thing but can become one if you want. It could be a blessing. Peace to you my friend. I totally understand. My dog is my best fried. His time is limited and it scares me.

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