Please help me, my life's a misery
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I'm male, 17 years old and I'm in my last year of studying in my local sixth form. This is the first post I've done but I really need help because my life is a misery. I've had strange bowel movements for 5-6 years now but in the last couple years it's got significantly worse. It started when I was doing my GCSE exams when I as 15 and I one exam I had the sudden urge to use the toilet. As you can imagine this was quite stressful for me because I knew what was coming but I couldn't do anything to stop it. I eventually got to the toilet but I couldn't continue with my exam due to the severity of my diarrhea. This continued throughout my exams and I started to develop a severe anxiety problem. I had to do the remainder of my exams in a seperate room and sitting in a room for 2 hours with no distractions to take your mind off needing the toilet was very very difficult. Since then I've had my ups and downs. I've been to the doctors and was prescribed loperamide (which I take 3-4 each day) and saw a specialist but they thought it was the anxiety triggering it. I knew for a fact it wasn't but I couldn't challenge his judgement. I was sort of cast aside by the NHS after that. I had to give up playing rugby and my place in an academy rugby team which was awful for me but I couldn't even go to training because of my combination of diarrhea and anxiety. I also ran out of an airport when I was due to go on holiday because I couldn't face the flight. There are a long list of things I have missed out on which make me feel awful.
These days I struggle going to school. Even my 40 minute bus journey is difficult to do without needing to go. I miss lessons frequently which has had a big impact on my education and grades. I'm supposed to be going to university next year but I'm scared I won't be able to cope with my IBS (although I haven't been diagnosed). I just don't know where to turn too next.
I struggle going out the house in all honesty, I've had to quit my job after a series of shifts where I just couldn't stay. I pass loose stools at least 4-5 times per day but I get the urge to go much more frequently than that. My anxiety isn't as bad as it was but my stomach is just the same. It's ruining my life and I feel so down and low. It's very embarrassing for me and only a few people know the true nature of my problem. I just need advice and help on how to overcome and manage this problem because I honestly don't know how long I can put up with this for.
Thanks in advance.
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Honora932 dan81454
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brooke88 Honora932
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dan81454 brooke88
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john21973 dan81454
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Sorry to hear about your situation, being an older gent I know how these things can snowball. I've had IBS for 30 years now and it's always started by either too much stress, coffee, alcohol or fatty foods.
In your case I'm ruling out coffee and alcohol. I know it sounds daft but there are good reaxation CD's out there that will help you relax but the best is excercise. The bowel works best when we move and not just sit on our backside.
Can I also suggest that you take some bio yogurt in the morning, I also take a product called Bio-cult when things get bad. I know people say these things are a croc but when you have very loose movements you need to replace the good bacteria in your bowels.
If you don't have blood in your poo and you have been checked for celiac just chill and eat well, no crap mate. We all worry these days just eat well excercise every day and take some time to relax and think of good things.
If you are still unsure just talk to your GP.
josh06233 dan81454
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Destiny7 dan81454
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jellybean87 dan81454
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I have ibs too as well as coeliac disease and occasional anxiety (which never helps the ibs and one can easily feed the other).
My ibs has been debilitating at times and I've never found anything that prevents it. I appear to have different triggers.
I have found that it can be controlled but the control methods vary for each flare up.
The main thing I wanted to help you with is that I found this difficult at uni too. However, it helps to disclose this information to your course lead or welfare worker and take along some evidence (like a doctor's note). I was allowed to sit exams in smaller rooms close to toilets and had support when I needed to miss lectures (provided I informed them and didn't just do a no show).
I have now graduated and guess I am fortunate to work for a large company but again I disclosed this information to their occupational health team who try to accommodate my needs. I have a key to one of the disabled toilets if I feel I need privacy and they can alter my working hours or swap my shifts so I don't miss any work (and pay for that matter).
It is embarrassing but once I got over disclosing the information to the relevant people I have been given support and felt better for it. And it's surprising how many other students / employees suffer from similar issues.
Keep your chin up. And good luck
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Emmszie dan81454
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hi dan
i know its probably been a while since you posted this, but i hope this will help . i suffered 30 years of severe IBS , until i finally started a gluten and dairy free diet . also ( this may sound silly ) but if you dont already have one at home, get a foldable footstool for your bathroom . we are supossed to crouch to poop, our bodys arent meant for toilet poops. so by using the foot stool, it emptys your bowels better, and eleviates the cramping etc . for the anxiety, has the dr prescribed amitryptaline ( think i spelt that wrong lol but sounds as its spelt . and yes ive been told over and over its all in my head, but i will say that the more we think about it the worse the symptoms . take in a deep breath, hold for 5 seconds and slowly let the air out, do this 5 times any time you start to feel anxious . its nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about, thousands of people suffer with this dibilitating syndrome . i named it irritable bitc! syndrome lol so try to eliminate gluten and dairy to see if that helps . sourdough bread is fantastic for ibs . good luck, my prayers are with you .