PLEASE I NEED ADVICE!

Maybe you should began the conversation with your wife by telling her, "I am relunctant to tell you anything that affects me deeply because you are judgemental, but because I love you and don't want to keep anything from you. I would like to share how I feel.  Can you listen without interrupting and try to understand how I feel?"  Or/and you might want to take her to the doctor with you so he can explain your anxiety to her.  She might be afraid to know. Seeing a therapist helps...the feedback from a professional is good. 

Hello Miguel

I am an older lady in the UK...but having suffered from Anxiety all my life, I post on here occasionally to try and help others.  After reading your post, I would most certainly try to get your wife to understand what you are going through.  After all, she and your baby are a family, and you need each other.  My husband eventually came to therapy classes with me, and he now understands much more about anxiety.  You DO NEED SUPPORT from someone close to you.

You are quite young to have so much responsibility, and you need to share your worries.

As I have pointed out so many times in my posts, you have to NOT give in.  I have raised a family, worked and travelled the world in spite of anxiety, and have just returned from two cruises.  So there is light at the end of the tunnel.  My preferred med is Fluoxetine.  I believe there is a difference between the word "Addiction" and taking what your body/mind needs to help you through difficult times.  Good Luck.

He Miguel,

We are on the same boat, Miguel.  Communications between partners is the best policy, always, whether one is like your wife or not.  Hiding something of this nature from your partner, is always a bad policy.

Keep the communications going between the two of you, and things will be better.  Hide something like this from your wife, will come back up from behind you and bite you in the arse!  Guaranteed!

hey miguel.  i get it.  totally.  but you don't need to share everything, even if you're close and it makes you uncomfortable not to.  some people don't understand other's anxiety.  my wife just tells me to get over it.  not mean.  no way.  it's just that she doesn't suffer anxiety the way i do so she can't relate.  i work with a behavioral psychologist to help me deal with it, and i do take clonazepam when i need to.  i've always suffered anxiety.  my whole life. i realize that it's more in my genes than anything else.  but i still need to deal with it, and i do.  i function at a really high level.  but the anxiety is just a part of who i am.  sometimes the causes of it are real, and sometimes they're not.  sometimes they're real but i totally exaggerate them and it makes me crazy.  i'm trying to find a balance. 

but it think it's normal that others who don't suffer anxiety the way you do, don't understand it.  it's not you.  it's them.  don't beat yourself up about it.  just try to find the best and healthiest way to work through your own anxiety.