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Problems with erection

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mirko48235
mirko48235

Hello

Im a 25 years old man and I never had problems with an erection before. I usually could last even for half an hour if i wanted and didn't reach an orgasm. A little while ago I meet a girl that I really like and so I stopped mastrubateing all at once. I stoped beacuse I wanted to be as "ready" as I could when we would have sex with this girl. So when we finally started to have sex, this was normal as before, but after a week, I started to have some problems with an erection. I can last for only for 5-10 minutes and then it drops. Funny thing is, that oral sex still gives me a normal hard erection but when we switch to vaginal sex, the erection drops almost right away.

So my question is: could stop mastrubateing have something to do with my erection while having vaginal sex, or could the reason be psychological ? 

tnx for the answers smile

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  • archemedes
    archemedes mirko48235

    Posted

    I'm just wondering why you would need to materbate if you are in a normal sexual relationship?

    I think that you maybe on a bit of a guilt trip,  which is unneccessary because it is your body too do with  as you wish.

    • mirko48235
      mirko48235 archemedes

      Posted

      I stoped mastrubateing about a week before we got into haveing sex. And i havent since.  

      What do you mean with a guilt trip ?

      Tnx for the answer btw smile

    • archemedes
      archemedes mirko48235

      Posted

      It is possible that you mght have been feeling guilty about masterbating once you had a partner.

      But there other reasons why a chap might be having problems, like just general worry, overtiredness and probably the most important one of the lot, and that is execting too much from themselves.

      Coitus does not have to a mathanon and anyone who thinks that it should has probably been watching to any pornographic films.

      Just relax in your own skin and don't even try to be anything other than you are.

    • archemedes
      archemedes

      Posted

      That should have read 'too many pornographic films'.
    • mirko48235
      mirko48235 archemedes

      Posted

      Well I agree that it shouldnt be a marathon, don't get me wrong smile Im just worried beacuse I lasted longer in the past, and now something has changed, and Im not shure why.

      tnx for the answers smile

    • archemedes
      archemedes mirko48235

      Posted

      We all change Mirko as we get older.

      What youhave been complaining about really is nothing at all and it happens to most, if not all men. 

      There are certain more important things that we should all do, and these are they:

      Live a healthy lifestyle and eat healthy food. Get exercise as often as possible. Be happy and relaxed with your partner, and try to avoid arguments as if your very life depends on it. Lastly, never judge yourself using other peoples standards, and be happy in our own skin.

      End of surmon............

    • archemedes
      archemedes

      Posted

      PS. Yes I can spell SERMON, but with gammy eyes, gammy fingers, a gammy internet connection and a gammy keyboard anything can happen!
    • simonthethird
      simonthethird archemedes

      Posted

      Perhaps we should start a "gammy" thread for all those of us in similar situations ...
    • archemedes
      archemedes

      Posted

      I'm going to do it in the General Chat area.
  • kathee58019
    kathee58019 mirko48235

    Posted

    First of all I'm not really sure why anyone would want to last for half an hour without reaching an orgasm. No woman wants to be pumped until she is raw. If a person can't reach an orgasm sooner than that, then maybe there are other issues. Foreplay starts long before you ever reach the bed, and by that time it shouldn't take long to have an intense romantic encounter.  It does sound however that it could be a mental thing. Is your partner loving and receptive or demanding to no satisfaction? Are you afraid of unwanted pregnancy or STD?

    Do you trust your partner? Is she even capable of reaching an organsm?

    • mirko48235
      mirko48235 kathee58019

      Posted

      Well its more like 30 minutes with breaks in between. And she could reach multiple orgasms in the proces. 

      The problem is that my erection vanishes after 5-10 minutes and sometimes she isn't finnished yet, and I'm a long way from my orgasm.

      I belive she is loving. Except for some scratching my back and arms, while she is haveing an orgasm. That is the only thing. And also we are useing a condom, and I'm not afraid of STD and any other threats.

    • kathee58019
      kathee58019 mirko48235

      Posted

      Well, sorry Mirko, I just can't imagine what it could be. Every thing else you described sounds pretty normal. By the way, it's normal for a man to continue to masterbate while in a sexual relationship. It's a stress reliever.  If things don't improve maybe you should see a urologist.

    • simonthethird
      simonthethird kathee58019

      Posted

      Oh well said Kathee!  Of course we do!  Hopefully in inverse relationship to our activity with partner!
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