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Really bad derealisation

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Smeagul247
Smeagul247

Hello eveyone

I have had a very hard time for about 3 months from derealisation and anxiety that I got from exam stress but I can't help but think I have a problem with my heart. I get strong heart beats, flutters and tightness and occasional chest pain and despite constant reassurance from doctors that it is absolutely fine I still think it isn't in good shape. I am scared to go out for jogs because of my fear and the one time I went the gym to get my mind clear my heart was pounding but im still unsure if thats due to me worrying about it in the back of my mind. My derealisation had got better but then goes really bad which worsens my anxiety. I do have good days but I mainly have bad ones sad, I am also having strange thoughts about reality which is making me feel crazy, am I going crazy?, Im only 17 and I just want to be back to my old self before going through all this sad

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  • ZEN.
    ZEN. Smeagul247

    Posted

    Hi, I have suffered badly with derealization for 3 years since my father died.

    I can best describe it as like being in a dream but awake, its scary but you come to live with the symptoms until it hits you that that is what you have.

    I have a telephone assessment to discuss it with a pro from my local NHS mental health team on Monday.

    I will update after the appt.

    Best wishes

    • Chilligans
      Chilligans ZEN.

      Posted

      Hope everything goes well. That dream state is sooo weird hahah. At it's worse I couldn't tell what made life feel anymore real than my dreams. You aren't alo smile

  • brea607
    brea607 Smeagul247

    Posted

    Hi! i'm 17 too and i suffer from generalized anxiety and hypochondria. the things your experiencing with your heart is a normal thing that a lot of people with anxiety have. They're called heart palpitations and you can have that a lot, very little, or some people not at all, it almost feels like your heart skips a beat or something? i experience them very often and it scared me at first too but i read that getting more anxious actually only intensifies them and makes them more recurrent, but they aren't bad, and excersizing will actually help make your heart stronger if you are scared of ever having something wrong with your heart. Another thing to note, the heart is a very important organ, if something was wrong with it, it would happen very quickly , not over a span of weeks or months, anxiety is the trigger and i think you should for sure do cardio and remind yourself that your helping your heart and if you keep telling yourself that you might forget about it and the symptoms will go away, good luck!

    • Chilligans
      Chilligans brea607

      Posted

      I definitely understand what you're saying. If the only thing you are noticing is little skips of sudden increases in heart beat and there is nothing else, then there is a 99% chance nothing is wrong. That is what I tell myself hahah, it's normal for that to happen to healthy people.

  • MB1985
    MB1985 Smeagul247

    Posted

    Hi guys,

    So I can relate to about 95% of what people have talked about on here.

    I started having anxiety about a 18 months ago after getting a really bad taste in my mouth and brought back my asthma after 20 years without,  and couldnt get it down to anything. I’ve had cameras in every place and a full ultra sound and my body MOT came back all fine.

    I bought my first house about a year ago and its really stressed me out, i’ve had skin issues as well as stomach issues over the lasy year and they come and go. Over the last 5/6 months the whole derealization has come into play, I constantly think why am I hear, I’m alone with my thoughts and just panic for no reason. Until about 3 months ago I hadnt cried since I was in primary school, but I’ve now broken down a few times when i’ve been home alone just wishing to feel myself (Funnily enough it makes me feel slightly better) I booked in at the docs but cancelled simply because I didnt know how to explain how I feel.  The best time I can cope with this is when I’m occupied, i spent 4 hours building outside and nothing phased me, but when my minds not occupied I feel it all building.

    • Chilligans
      Chilligans MB1985

      Posted

      I'm really sorry you've been feeling this way tino. I experience bad anxiety and terrible derealization and I hate it. What you said about being occupied helping is so true though for sure. The thing that sucks is that the more time you give to thinking about it, the more it'll stick around. For the last couple months I've been extremely productive with school, and I felt better than I have in over 2 years. Just recently I've fallen behind, and it's like it's all back. I don't mean to scare you by saying this, I'm just meaning that it is an ongoing battle and that it can get better. Seeing a therapist, considering medication, practicing mindfulness, exercising, diet and more are all things I'd start looking into fur sure, as they have all helped me (still figuring out diet and exercise haha). In the mean time though, keeping busy really is crucial, because it shows you and your mind that you can put those anxious thoughts and feelings aside and be fine, and that can help them to lose their power. I truly understand the fear of what you're feeling, and I am so sorry you've had to deal with it. I really wish you the best of luck. smile

  • sharon78529
    sharon78529 Smeagul247

    Posted

    Hi. I know exactly how you feel - it's the worst feeling ever - it's ruining my life 

  • sharon78529
    sharon78529 Smeagul247

    Posted

    Me too - any suggestions how to cope ?
    • MB1985
      MB1985 sharon78529

      Posted

      I’ve started to feel a little better over the last couple of months, mentally anyway.

      A couple of things that help.

      1. Understanding people have the same issue as you.

      2. Tell someone, I told my girlfriend and showed her a wiki page on how I was feeling and it took a weight off.

      3. One reason I think for me it that I was stuck in a routine work/home/tv/clean and that dosnt help. So keep active, plan days out, go see friends anything to alter your way of life.

      4. Keep you mind occupied, exercise (long walks help) and eat healthy

      5. DEFINITELY avoid stress

      I haven’t started CBT yet but may do if it starts up again.

    • sharon78529
      sharon78529 MB1985

      Posted

      Thanks for replying - it helps a lot knowing I'm not 

      the only person who has this dreadful condition - it's hard to explain to people who have never suffered with it - is it def brought on through anxiety ??? If you stop being anxious will this feeling subside 

       

    • Chilligans
      Chilligans sharon78529

      Posted

      I have found that time and keeping occupied make a world of difference. The time part is of course the hard part, but each day you get through will tell you that you can live through the feelings. While this process occurs, keep yourself involved in things that matter to you. Just as giving it time, keeping occupied tells your mind that the feelings of DP aren't important. I know they FEEL important and they always will FEEL "dangerous", but just never forget that because it feels that way it doesn't make it so. I highly suggest CBT therapy -- that will do more than advice here will. Good luck!

    • MB1985
      MB1985 sharon78529

      Posted

      I think its just a type of anxiety really. For me I think its come on because of stress (bought my first house with a million and one problems), I’m a little bit OCD at times and I have crappy flare ups of skin allergies that I find hard to cope with.

      Mix that in with a repetitive life style and its difficult to look at the positives.

      I try to keep busy, the missis gets a bit worried at times but she understands I like to keep my mind occupied.

        

      Start with small changes, do a gym class every other day, take up a running club i’d say yoga but I think sitting in silence can make it worse, you’ll be amazed how small changes can effect your mindset.

      Kick sugar out and eat healthy (even if its just getting your 5 a day and drink loads of water) 

      Once a week just talk to a friend or family member that you know will listen.

      Even just laughing about it can make you feel better, my girlfriend asked if it was like the way that people always over think at night in bed “whats passed the stars” “why are we alone on a circular rock”. We agreed that it was like an extreme version of that!

    • MB1985
      MB1985

      Posted

      Also try CBD oil, i’ve been on it a week and I think its reducing my stress levels. I still get stressed but its tends to be short.

      Just google it, a fair few good sites sell it.

    • Chilligans
      Chilligans sharon78529

      Posted

      Glad to help smile I also agree with MB1985. There are a million and one ways to help DP, and you never know what'll help most. Your brain most likely is just trying to shield you from "danger" that isn't there, it just is malfunctioning a bit (or a lot Lol). I don't know your situation, but in my opinion therapy is crucial. From there you and your therapist can find the stepping stones to help you. DP, as with all things related to anxiety, is stuff to beat because we often feed into it when we think we're doing the opposite, and that's where another source (therapist) can really help you get things straight. I've made changes and taken medications, but therapy has been the one all for helping.

    • sharon78529
      sharon78529 MB1985

      Posted

      Hi - yes I will try those things mine started really bad last year when I lost my younger sister - it was so traumatic and it's coming up to her anniversary soon - really appreciate everyone replying- thank you

    • sharon78529
      sharon78529 MB1985

      Posted

      I've heard cbd oil is good for anxiety but I'm taking citroplam - not sure if u can take them together. Thanks for replying x

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