Really wish people understood!
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I am getting absolutely sick and tired of the people around me (particularly my partner) to understanding my fibro. When I'm withdrawn because of the pain he lambasts me constantly because he thinks I'm being like this because of him. I have told him time and again that stress makes the pain worse and when he is getting on at me or shouting at me. To be honest all the stress of a relationship is making the fight all the more harder.
What is everyone elses family like with them and does anyone else just feel like running away and just trying to cope on there own.
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tiswas24537 marc14933
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if one more person says
we all get tired
you need to pull your self together
you just need to do a bit of excirse
we all have bad days
you just need an early night
i will not be held responable for my actions .
i think it sums up how most of us feel.
Flowerlady tiswas24537
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Flowerlady marc14933
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wendidly643 marc14933
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Carinaeta marc14933
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Marc, sorry to hear it's all getting too much, support for an illness that is invisible is always hard to get. Your partner sounds like he needs a bit of a reality check, would he be shouting at you if you were sat in a wheelchair, I doubt it. How can your reaction to your illness be because of him? It sounds like he either needs to be the centre of attention or can't cope because your illness is taking the focus off him. It may not be selfishness, it may just be that he isn't coping well with the adjustments in your relationship due to your illness and this is his way of dealing with it. I would try to sit down and have a long honest chat about what you are feeling and how the illness affects you and where you hope your relationship is going and how it will fit in with all this. If you dont think you can do this without an argument, both write it all down first seperately and then compare notes in a relaxed setting. Once you have done this you will hopefully feel either a lot better or at least you'll have a better idea of where the problems lie and whether they can be solved . Either way i wish you the best of luck xxx
teresa05446 marc14933
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Teresa
marc14933 teresa05446
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christine26761 marc14933
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marc14933 christine26761
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I mentioned a rhumatologist to my gp but he said there are none in my area so that's not an option.
christine26761 marc14933
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chrissie72261 marc14933
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jenifer59179 marc14933
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Yes many of us I imagine feel exactly the same as you and have partners who respond/behave in the same way as yours. I've suffered fibro pain since I was pregnant with my second child in 1986 so I think my husband thinks "oh she has coped with it all that time so it can't be too bad", which infuriates and saddens me as if someone I've spent 30 years of my life with doesn't 'get it' then what chance do we have?
Jen x
tiswas24537 jenifer59179
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really helpful .
i never get a meal cooked for me . or the house cleaned properly for me dosent matter how bad i am if i dont do it it dosent get done ,some times it goes for weeks driving me mad and no one will lift a finger .
sha1271 marc14933
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I finally started feeling better and decided to join a gym. So far the work oyts have been making me feel good. I dont push myself , my friend doesnt quite get that and says "oh you will be fine" but I stop when I think Its too much. I really need to work out because my stress and anxiety is getting bad and I want to lose weight.
I hope your partner will start to understand and I hope you feel better soon.
christine26761 sha1271
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