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Rectocele repair help!

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chloe41732
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Hi I'm in my early 20s and due to have a posterior repair I have a 9 month old son and knew early on something wasn't right I saw lots of doctors gynaecologists and physios all of them told me I had no prolapse just laxity, even though I knew full well I did the back vaginal wall comes out the opening I have a lot of constipation and difficulty with bm and I tried sex once since my baby and it was so loose because of the stretching the prolapse has caused I was very depressed have spilt from partner as I don't want to be close to him and feel so unattractive. I finally went to see a private gynaecologist as soon as he examined me before even checking internally he could see I had a Rectocele and also a tear from childbirth at the opening that hasn't been stitched that he will also fix he is happy to go ahead with surgery but as it is private I will need to save to pay for it. I 100% want to go through with the surgery and just want to feel normal again. But I am really concerned with everything I have read on here about no lifting and no excercise. I work at a private hospital myself with dying patients who require lifting and long 12 hour shifts always on my feet sometimes on a night. How long would I need off from work, and how would I convince them to let me? Also lifting my son, lifting things around the house etc. I have my parents who are very supportive and will help out a lot but in the future when everything has healed will I have to stop certain excercise and lifting for the rest of my life? I'm so worried about the prolapse coming back as it seems to happen to a lot of people dose anyone have any long term success with this operation? What did you do differently after? Hope someone can help thank you

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  • Jan999
    Jan999 chloe41732

    Posted

    Hello chloe. I'm so sorry to hear what you've been going through since you had your lovely baby. I'm really puzzled as to why it took a private appointment to give you the correct diagnosis. I can only assume the first doctors weren't as clued up as your last one.

    Regarding lifting. You will be able to lift of course but it will be 6 months before you could safely lift an adult but after 12 weeks you'll be ok lifting your little boy as long as you're careful. Surgery like this doesn't mean you'll never lift again. As you're a nurse is there no way your consultant would do your operation on the NHS? We don't get many perks do we and when I initially saw my Urogynaecologist he performed my operation on the NHS but in a lovely private hospital.

    • barbara_92
      barbara_92 Jan999

      Posted

      I have a feeling Chloe might be outside the UK maybe USA.

    • chloe41732
      chloe41732 Jan999

      Posted

      I'm not sure either I think they already make there mind up before I'm actually examined they say your too young too suffer this problem, they said they wouldn't do the surgery on someone of my age and only physio would be given sad it concerns me because although it's rare there must be other young girls going through this and not taken seriously just because of there age, but the gynaecologist I recently saw has a lot of experience in prolapse which is why I chose too see him it will cost me a lot of money but if this can be fixed it will truly give me my life back

      And six months is a long time but definetley worth it to be healed I will be very cautious of not doing too much after surgery I'm hoping they could maybe give me lighter duties when I return. And I'm not actually a nurse and don't work for the NHS I'm a care assistant in a palliative care home.

      Thank you for your reply

    • Jan999
      Jan999 chloe41732

      Posted

      In my eyes you're a very special nurse chloe and I'm sure other ladies would agree. You'll just have to be careful when you return to work. 

      There are more and more young women requiring prolapse repair surgery these days but you are young and you should heal well so I can't see there being any problems as long as you do as you're told after your operation. You have family to support you which is good.

    • chloe41732
      chloe41732 Jan999

      Posted

      Thank you I do love my job but it is very demanding as usually short staffed and as it requires alot of heavy lifting was worried that I may have to give it up for a desk job.

      I think there needs to be more information to people about prolapse after childbirth I didn't even know it could happen. My family have been so supportive through it all so I am very lucky.

    • agi6
      agi6 chloe41732

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      Hi Chloe,I agree with you about lack of info about prolapse after delivery a baby or even during pregnency I have a dipression since then. First baby emergency C-section no issues, exersice kettle and step, then after 18 months got pregnant again, still doing step until 7 months pregnancy. I was fit, happy, because of C section I had a choice how deliver a baby, every doc Ive seen and midwives try to convince me about natural delivery etc. and yes natural I ended up with anterior wall prolapse. If I knew.... pain, discomfort, depression etc.

      I was 37 when I had a second baby, it was 2 years ago, pelvic floor muscle exercise didnt help so I had an operation 18.12.16, after 3 weeks I feel something was wrong, see Gyn and I have posterior wall prolapse 😃 but I feel so much better than before and this bulge dont bother me much. Iam not try to scare you 😄I knew after op it might be happen so another op in the future, because I have no family here I have to wait when my baby grow up.

      After operation about 2 weeks I was lazy and do nothing, pain last about 2 week, no BM issue, just tired. Another weeks just pottering in a house, walking short distance, but slowly, no hovering, no heavy lifting etc. Now its nearly 8 weeks, Iam feel good, walking more, but when I overdo something already notice that and resting.

      Your baby is small so you need more support, but if you carefull and what you told you will be happy young mom I wish you all the best fingers cross 😚

      Kind regards

      Agnes

      Ps

      Ladys in this forum are amazing and very helpfull.

    • suzanne_13447
      suzanne_13447 agi6

      Posted

      Yes agi6 these ladies are amazing! It makes me feel not so alone to know others out there are also looking for answers!
    • bridget99388
      bridget99388 chloe41732

      Posted

      I'm 20 and had no children and I have rectocele sad I too really want the op my life is on hold and I'm very depressed. I need to somehow get it on the nhs as I can no way afford it privately. Please let me know how it goes , I'm so scarred but just want proper answers! I went to a gyno but they just reffered me to physio which I know won't reverse it!
  • suzanne_13447
    suzanne_13447 chloe41732

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    Hi Chloe!

    Well, oh my, I also worked 12-13 hr shifts, started having constipation after hysterectomy due to lack of exercise I guess. I am so sorry to hear about how many areas of your life this issue has touched! It just seems so wrong! O mean we are supposed to be in the best country with all these new procedures and possibilities but truly I believe this area has recieved very little improvement. I had to leave my job which I loved! My husband is frustrated and I am still no further.

    However Stephanie had some really great ideas from my discussion on this thread and I want you to know You are beautiful! It takes a special kind of person to work in your field! Best wishes also Dr Salil Khandwala in Dearborn MI is outstanding! His web site has a great deal of info.

    Try googling him!

    Have a great day

  • barbara_92
    barbara_92 chloe41732

    Posted

    Hi Chloe I would push with your gp for an NHS referral to a specialist. If you have seen someone and they were not very helpful then ask to see someone else. You should not have to pay for your treatment as it is not cosmetic etc.

    Best of luck.

    • suzanne_13447
      suzanne_13447 barbara_92

      Posted

      Agreed! As I said please look at the info provided on Dr Khandwalas web site! Lots of really good info!

      Best wishes dear

    • suzanne_13447
      suzanne_13447 Jan999

      Posted

      No sorry the doctor is here in the usa in Michigan but his web site was very informative
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