rough night

Hi Kim

i'm so sorry!! i had a horrible night also..everytime i lay down to go to sleep i got so dizzy and i couldn't sleep.. I got up and felt better i went like you to a full panic attack!! and took a xanax as well..i'm seating here on the  couch for the past 4 hours tired for not sleeping and feeling so misarable!! this is a nightmare!!

i'm in NY city with my husband he left early in the morning to his meetings and i'm here scared that something will happen to me all alone!!! i was planning to go enjoy a walk and i'm seating here trying to calm myself!!! i'm getting my period sometime this week and every month beforit comes i'm getting this s dizziness and nausea and stomach ache. You are not alone, i'm writing this message and tears coming down my face from all the furstration and crazyness in my life in the past 3-4 years now!!! 

I did gone to the dr and she said she cant put me on anything because still getting my period regular every month...

kim, I really sympathise with you going through all this.  I have been there and it takes every fibre of your being to fight it and the feelings that it is more than it is.  Menopause is horrible, there is no getting around that fact.  But I had this exact same experience several times and thought I would not survive, not just the physical overall feelings of illness, but the horrible mental torture it causes.  Because lots of us have been through this horrible stage, (I think it is the stage where you've been in peri a while and then hit 'the wall' of menopause, the bad symptoms which all come flooding together) we can understand the desperation that comes with it, but it subsides, it really does.  Still lingers, but the bad bit does subside.  I would suggest that you sleep with your back propped up against a bunch of pillows and remain that way, not on your side, or not flat.  I found this really helped me sleep and you get used to it.  I used to wake, like you, with a feeling of numbness in my arm but discovered that I was lying on my arm, or that the tension I had before going to bed was causing me not to relax fully and I was flexing my muscles also.  The anxiety does not become so bad, if you still wake up but are in an upright position, I found this worked.   As for all the other stuff, it just takes its course and I feel for you, I've been there, but now a year and four months since it all kicked off, I am able to sleep without wakening, lying in a normal position and although it does happen from time to time, the anxiety at night, I am in a better frame of mind to deal with it.  I hope this helps you a bit.

Hi Kim, im so sorry that you had a rough night. I used to have horrible dreams as well. My little girl brought her dream catcher in my room and hung it by my side of the bed My sweet girl! I would get so frazzled before bed time so I started drinking warm milk....it helps me relax. I can sleep better now. Like metamorphed said it does get better, believe it. Try and nap as much as you can and try not to think to much about your bad dreams. They will go away. Take care and keep posting we will help you through this.

Hi Kim and also Maria, you are going through a stage which happens to

most of us who suffer. It is absolutely horrifying. I used to have to get up

and watch tv for a while to get my mind calm again. My husband would get

up and comfort me and I would say don't go to work I need you here and

although he did once or twice obviously he couldn't do it all the time so I

had to learn to deal with it.

When you do that it starts to subside and it will stop happening. Another

symptom will probably come along then and take your mind off it!

That is the harsh reality of it but you will learn to deal with things and of

course you have us to help you through.

Hope this stage ends for you soon and you get no further symptoms.

All the best to you both??