Scared of these strange confusing feelings
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I am a 16 year old male and for the past month I've been experiencing very odd, worrying mental feelings. When I wake up in the morning I have a pounding heart and I feel like I am going crazy, that I'll never be happy or normal again and that nothing I will do will make me happy like it used to, and this brings me to tears because my mind just races. When I get out of bed and move this feeling usually goes away, but I have a residual strange feeling for the rest of the day. It feels as though my mind is foggy, like I can't look forward to things, like I can't recollect past memories or feelings I had, and this makes me feel depressed like I'll never feel simple and happy again. I try to look forward to things that I can do but I always worry that I won't feel the same when I'm doing it. That's another major part, things and people around me, when I stop and think about it, feel different. Almost like I can't feel their company and life. Same goes for places, I feel as though they're just not the same, lacking something that I don't know. Sometimes I'll be doing something and then all of a sudden I'll have this weird realization of confusion, like "it doesn't feel like I just did that" or it feels like a lot of time passed when it was only a short time. I then get very worried that I am losing my mind and that I will be this dull way for the rest of my life. Everyday I look back to the previous day and I feel like everything was even different then, and now things feel unfamiliar and less comforting. At night when I am tired I usually feel almost normal, which leads me to believe it's just anxiety. But I get very worried about developing a permanent derealization disorder or something because I feel so strange and different. If anybody understands what I am talking about can you please inform me of what can cause this, or if it is normal? it makes me very worried. I feel lost and scared
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Has the Zoloft helped the derealization at all?
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The first was to approach the philosophical problem itself. Basically, my biggest fear was that everything could be an illusion (aka nothing’s real or that it’s all made up of my brain). But what’s an illusion? It’s something that appears real, but has no real substance/meaning behind it. Let’s assume for a minute that this idea is true, that indeed everything is really just an illusion created by my brain. If you go by this philosophy, there’s nowhere left to go after establishing that it’s true -- if everything’s an illusion, then you can’t truly know anything, there can’t be wrong or right; in other words, nothing else follows. The most logical conclusion? This philosophy (that everything could be imaginary) has no real substance/meaning (as it doesn’t really get you anywhere), and is in of itself not real (although it appears that way) -- thus, the illusion isn’t life, but the philosophy itself.
The above is really only a temporary solution, though (at least in my case). Just bear with me and see if the following describes you. Even after I seemingly find a solution, my brain will keep turning over stones to try and find some hole to poke in the theory, or keep going so I can be 100% sure. A lot of these times, these thoughts will pop in out of nowhere, and when they do, the anxiety comes roaring back. These thoughts have been about all kinds of things: being gay, not choosing the right career (and thus being unhappy for the rest of my life), getting cancer, being impotent, none of my friends liking me. And I always knew these thoughts were irrational, or at the very least unproductive, but my brain would always doubt it with a “what if”. Like I knew I wasn’t gay, but what if I overlooked something and really was? How could I be sure? This would lead me to spend tons of time online researching these issues (whatever they were) or journaling to try and get to the bottom of them, or just turning them over again and again, but enough would never be enough. I’d even start working out a lot as a way to cope and just escape from the thinking for a little. But nothing would ever be enough -- I’d feel the need to keep researching and doing things to try and resolve whatever problem I had latched onto (be it how to lower cancer risks, or make sure I wasn’t gay, or finding philosophical loopholes to prove that reality is, in fact, real).
Now let’s say I latched onto the thought where I was going to get AIDS on my hands, and instead of researching ways to boost immunity I started washing my hands all the time to avoid getting AIDS, even if I knew the thought wasn’t rational (this is hypothetical BTW; I don’t do this). Starts to look like a disorder that’s a bit more familiar, right? It turns out that what I described (in the paragraph above -- not the hand washing) looks a lot like something called pure OCD, where you have obsessive thoughts, but no really outward compulsion. Instead, they’re more mental (such as doing tons of research or constantly ruminating), but the sufferer still doesn’t really have any control over it. Derealization is even a symptom of anxiety (which OCD can definitely bring on). And it makes sense to me, too; my dad has an anxious/compulsive personality, as does his mom.
So I don’t know if this is at all enlightening to anyone, but I just wanted to put out there what I found. Maybe it'll help someone.
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