Seriously depressed about anal fissure
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Seriously am so depressed dealing with this the weight loss , the life change, the pain , the emotions
I'm 8 days post Botox I've had so many panicking attacks my surgeon has had to contact me outside his usual hours
I just feel like I'm forever doomed the Botox has worked abit but going toilet still sucks and then I'm tender and sore after still better than what it was before surgery but I'm struggling because I'm panicking this won't heal and I'm forever doomed I just cry all day because I'm miserable and it's affecting everything can someone please talk to me im feeling really depressed about it and I'm only 23yesr old female
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jenny44200 Riri000
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ginny24605 jenny44200
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Hi Jenny although I'm in the UK my consultant got me to try a gel first which has an anaesthetic in it to keep the muscles relaxed and hopefully reduce pain . It did work for a while but then got worse with a vengeance. So after that I needed the BOTOX injection which I felt like I'd never recover from but I'm on week 6/7 now and starting to actually feel loads better . Have a chat with him and explain your situation . It's only day surgery for BOTOX so you go home the same day but you'll need a couple of weeks or so rest afterwards and don't lift anything x
robert84704 Riri000
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Sucks, bad... hoping for a relieve... feel like dying!
ginny24605 robert84704
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Hi have u had the BOTOX injection yet. I'm now 9 weeks post BOTOX and although now and again a bit of discomfort I feel like a new person x
sarah63598 robert84704
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I feel your pain but I promise you there is light at the end of the tunnel. Try botox it’s massively helped me and given me my life back. Laxatives daily also really help to keep everything soft and not damage the fissure further x good luck
jennifer74184 Riri000
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Hi, Can someone please help 😭. After childbirth with forceps and then constipation from fear of going a loo due to piles I got a fissure. I was given suppositories, ointment and fybogel. This worked for about 3 weeks then after one hard BM I’m back to square one. I no longer have piles but do have a skin tag there but it feels like there is a hard painful lump at the base of the skin tag that’s causing so so so much pain after and during BM then I’m left with bright red blood in stool and blood on tissue.. I’m using Lactulose 30mls daily but i don’t know if it’s not keeping me as soft as it should or maybe everything is such a mess I don’t know if the problem is piles, skin tag pain or fissure?!
ginny24605 jennifer74184
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Hi Jennifer,
I'm sure most of us feel your pain . If child birth on its own isn't enough it's topped when you get after effects like this! Any lactose , fibrogel etc won't work on its own properly without a supporting high fibre diet and in this heat plenty of water /squash. Your insides have clearly taken a battering and although you have a new bundle of joy I can imagine you are quite stressed as you yourself are battling. Have a look at your diet see where you can bring in plenty of fibre for example I can't eat white bread anymore I have to have brown. Plenty of veg , fresh orange juice a couple of times a day is like a bomb. After each bm wash with warm water and pat dry . Keeping everywhere as clean as possible but treated gently will all help. Give these things a go if they make no difference then I would ask to be referred to consultant . Congrats on baby !!!
jennifer74184 ginny24605
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sarah63598 jennifer74184
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Totally feel your pain and having a little one to look after and feeling like this is hell. I take movicol one satchet of an evening and that’s helped loads with constipation. I tried all the creams for months but sadly to no avail :-( I then had the Botox in April but had bad reoccurrences and finally gave it and on Friday 13th July had the lis surgery. I’m currently in pain but really hope that this will finally be the end to this living hell. My advice to you if you are not happy that the creams are working please don’t leave it and go back and talk to your consultant xx I stupidly left mine after having a hemmoroidectomy in January 2015 after my first daughter, and then after the birth of my second daughter in November 2017 well let’s just say that finished me off and I’ve being living in hell since with the ridiculous spasms! Congrats on baby but please look after yourself and don’t suffer in silence and let things go on longer than they need to. How a simple tear can ruin your life I will never fully understand. Wishing you the best of luck xxx
ginny24605 jennifer74184
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I was given the gel and 6 weeks later I saw consultant again and was in for BOTOX 2 weeks after that. I thought my whole life had fallen apart. My youngest was 6 at the time but I have a disabled husband , 4 kids and a business to run and I couldn't even sit at my desk. The healing after BOTOX took about 8 weeks but to be fair it's been worth it !! Xx
ginny24605
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Totally with Sarah on definitely go back if your not healing . I put off going to even see doc for 4mths even with non stop bleeding. Don't leave it !!
jennifer74184 ginny24605
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Thanks Sarah and Ginny, I will have to go back 😭 I’m just unbelievably scared of the recovery, is it really as bad as people say? Also what do the spasms feel like? I know that sounds a strange question but I keep seeing it on here but not sure if I have them? Is it the pain I’m getting after a BM?xx
ginny24605 jennifer74184
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The spasms can happen any time . They are like shockwaves going from around your coxcis across to back of hips I found at worst times. Bm can bring them on easily. The recovery after BOTOX well it's not easy but it's worth it. I've got to go back in September and probably have another lot but at least the pain is very much under control without any painkillers. I react to anaesthetic and I'm allergic to morphine so I was pretty limited afterwards. If you need the BOTOX then have it . However make sure you have these things in place : all shopping done with plenty of fresh orange juice , u can't lift anything afterwards even a kettle u may find pulls in the wrong places.
Nothing at home to do you need total rest for 1/2 weeks minimum.
Boxes of laxido sachets ( best thing ever I found after a week of suffering on just laxative tablets once a day) the laxido you take 2/3 times a day.
Plenty of non fragranced toilet wipes but dabbling only no wiping you'll be sore. Hot water bottles are a must and plenty of tv to watch. If you have all that then get it done !! X
sarah63598 jennifer74184
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The recovery isn’t great not going to lie but everyone is different. I spoke to Ginny a lot during my recovery and I seemed ok at first then went down hill then back up then 5 weeks of painfree then poorly again which is why I had the lis. Surgeon said on Friday mine was too chronic and Botox alone wasn’t going to fix it. My own fault for leaving it so long and suffering, that’s why I say if you catch it early enough and go back then you have every chance of success. Short term pain for a long term gain that’s the way I looked at it.
The spasms are hideous, we are not talking a little burn and sting after bowel movement we are talking a full blown pain that radiates up from you bum hole in to your arse canal like shooting pains that stop you from doing anything, they went into my noonie, down legs into my back it was horrendous and on a daily basis I’d think about suicude as i didn’t want to live like this. I exsisted I didn’t live! I was house bound and unable to drive through the pain. I’d get my babies up, feed, change nappies and then lay on floor and cry in pain, when I could get them to nap I’d jump in the hot bath that was my life, this is why I stress to you please go back and get something further done now If you haven’t got the spasms already. Wishing you all the luck in the World so you can enjoy your baby xxx
jennifer74184 sarah63598
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Thanks Sarah... I just don’t know, I’m using sudocreme and it still hurts when I have a BM but not as much - there’s a bit of blood there first time but if I go again the same day then there isn’t. I’m able to go without having to take pain relief after but not sure if it’s healing or will always be like this 🤷🏻???
sarah63598 jennifer74184
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jennifer74184 sarah63598
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Oh no... that sounds painful, is it a case if antibiotics?x
sarah63598 jennifer74184
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