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Shakey, wobbly, trembly? Just want to feel like ME again.

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Ruthie49
Ruthie49

Can anyone identify with this?...

In recent weeks I've been waking every morning (and sometimes in the night too) with a trembly feeling inside my stomach and tingling, fullness and slight trembling in both of my arms. I have adrenalin surges too where I wake up suddenly with a start. I also have neck, shoulder and upper back aching. I've read that these 'internal shakes' can be part of peri but I'm having a panic today thinking it's something worse.

When I get up in the morning my body feels like jelly, I get tingly feelings and cold flushes and I've been having anxiety, low mood and panic attacks too. Sometimes I feel spacey and just not part of the world, so on edge.

Has anyone else had any of these symptoms? I'm feeling alone wth it today.

I know I'm in perimenopause because I have other symptoms but these symptoms are so new and strange and the anxiety and low mood have been overwhelming and made me feel like a different person.

Does anyone else feel like they have kind of lost themselves?

Sorry if that sounds weird. I'm just having a challenging day with all this. I get so anxious about more serious causes and that makes it all worse.

I'm taking vits and St John's Wort and the occasional valium when I get really panicky. It's helped quite a bit but I still don't feel 'normal'. I just want to feel like ME again.

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  • anxiousface
    anxiousface Ruthie49

    Posted

    hi Ruthie,Not weird at all. When i read your post i thought i'd wrote it a while back cos its exactly how i was.  I started peri in 2012 (maybe earlier but didnt know it) and like you i would wake shaky, trembly and tingling which would scare me into being anxious which obviously make everything worse.  My arms would tingle with heat and i'd feel they were on fire (very oddrolleyes) basically to cut a long story short i had evrything you have but with extra symptoms as in nausea, no appetite and feeling of off balance and faint.  Suddenly this October everything changed for the better and i improved each day.  I am so much better but can still get the off balance when i'v been standing for a while and i'm still not brave enough to go in big shops etc on my own but what i'm trying to tell you Ruthie is i know its horrendous when your going through it but you will improve. I cherish every day i feel almost normal and like you just want me back and yes we do lose ourselves, theres no doubt about that.  You'll be ok hun, be kind to yourself and make sure you have some you time every day.  sending you a comforting hug
    • Snatchpiece
      Snatchpiece anxiousface

      Posted

      Hiya Anxiosface glad that you are brighter, how was your new member of staff getting on, as last time we spoke you were dreading it!

      Like you I think I started with all of this back in Nov 12 and not really knowing it until 2013 when my anxiety took over my life for a period of two weeks when I couldnt see anyone other than my husband and son, felt nauseous, loss of appetite, shaky, tearful, full of doom & gloom and yes like you am feeling loads better and yes still get the odd day that isn't nice but these times are certainly not as often. Not too sure how long this will continue but I feel hopeful that things will improve. Wishing you and your family a wonderful Christmas and a fantastic 2015! Massive hugs to you my sweetie! Joy xxx

    • anxiousface
      anxiousface Snatchpiece

      Posted

      snatchpiece its so lovely to hear from you and so thrilled to hear your doing well and feeling better like myself, we thought this would never come not so long ago didn't we.The new member of staff only lasted two moths and she moved to our other office so im happy again as it was stresful having her but i must say although she didn't want to do anything except look for clothes & shoes on the computer she was a nice girl.  Like you i went through a time a very long time of being an almost hermit and only saw my husband and son.  Hope this new improved us stays, i cherish everyday.  I return the wish of Wishing you and your family a lovely Christmas and New Year and a giantic tight bear hug back xx  
    • Ruthie49
      Ruthie49 anxiousface

      Posted

      Thanks anxiousface. I've had terrible nausea too, loss of appetite and weight loss, plus vertigo. Have had laods of gastro checks but all clear. Thanks for saying it will improve. I really needed to hear that tonight - have felt so spaced out all day, just going throught hte motions with all the Christmas prep and feeling like I'm floating.

      I'm glad you're feeling a bit better lately. Are you still having periods?

    • anxiousface
      anxiousface Ruthie49

      Posted

      I know the spaced out feeling so well and i did a bit today for a while but not like i used to be 24/7. I used to feel i was walking on marshmallows.  I've had 6 periods this year and didn't have one since Aug and had one the begining og Dec which lasted for 2 weks but was a weird period it was like seethrough  pink stuff , not blood so don't know what that was all about but i feel i have PMT all the time and could come on at any

      time. Try and get through Christmas and don't expect too much of yourself and 2015 will be better, you'll get there but be patient. xx

    • sharcerv52408
      sharcerv52408 Ruthie49

      Posted

      I have experienced loss of appetite and weight loss too. I'm trying to put weight back on. It is coming back slowly. I also struggle with gastric problems too. I will be glad when all this is over.
    • Ruthie49
      Ruthie49 anxiousface

      Posted

      Thanks so much for that anxiousface. Yes! Marshmallows! That's how I feel today, whoozy in my head, then I worry about terrible brain diseases that might be causing this unsteadiness and I feel my stomach lurch and the panic sets in again. It's exhausting. I'm taking my daughter to the cinema to see Paddington in a minute and not sure how I will do it. I'm walking there. I've just taken a valium as I could feel my heart racing. My periods have been odd since the beginning of this year - shorter cycles or/and spotting in between. I'm 49 and a half and hoping this will not go on too much longer. I'm not taking any HRT. I would consider it if I thought it would help but I still don't understand what happens when you finally have to stop taking the HRT? Presumably allthe symptoms come back? I hope your Christmas Eve is going okay. Hugs x
    • Ruthie49
      Ruthie49 sharcerv52408

      Posted

      Yes, me too. I lost half a stone in a week recently and still haven't put it back on. I have to force myself to eat sometimes as the nausea, anxiety  and indigestion is putting me off food. Hope you are having a good day and as happy a Christmas as possible xx
    • anxiousface
      anxiousface Ruthie49

      Posted

      Oh Ruthie yes i remember in 2012 thinking i had some terrible brain disease and worried myself silly researching every symptom on the internet day in day out but then i must of found this forum and read about other ladies having the exact same symptoms and its now nearly 2015 so i would be nearly dead by now if i'd had what i thought i had so Ruthie dont do what i did and make yourself worse  with worry its just our hormones going crazy and obviously effects some of us with dizziness/ balnce etc but when they settle down you'll begin to feel better and start to cope better and not let them take over.  My periods hve been odd for 2yrs but this year less periods and more spotting.  Good for you going to the cinema I still get to anxious to go in closed dark room so not got there on that one yet.  I'm 52 just and i'm not going to take HRT as from what i've read once you stop then all these horrid symptoms start so i want to get it over with at this age not when im old and can't cope as well.  I've been to collect my Turkey etc and had to stand for 20mins waiting for it eek got home and it was the wrong one so had to go back eekeek.  I'm all finished now and just having some me time and a cup of camamile tea.  I dont know how i'm going to fit in my dress tomorrow as i'v got such bad PMT and i'm so bloated i feel like i've eaten the whole turkey already.  Hope you went on ok at the cinema today, try and keep yourself busy then your not continually thinking how your feeling i raed quite a bit when i've not go a headach but i do work full time so that keeps me busy in the day although i do struggle at work when i'm not feeling well.  take care hun i'll be thinking about you and all my other peri friends on here xx
    • Ruthie49
      Ruthie49 anxiousface

      Posted

      Hi anxious face, well I made it to the cinema and back without a panic attack biggrin. It was packed too and we had to sit near to the front. It sounds so strange talking about going to the cinema like it was some kind of mountain to climb when a few months ago I was taking my daughter on planes and city sightseeing etc. These hormones are powerful.

      I would have hated waiting for the turkey too! I can't do queues well at the moment, and then to have to go back! Poor you. Well done for doing it though. I don't know how you manage a full time job. I've had to cut my hours and work from home more but sometimes I have to attend meetings and training sessions and I've had to cancel quite a few lately due to all this - the physical symptoms as well as the anxiety.

      What you say about doing it without HRT makes sense as it seems to just be delaying the inevitable otherwise. I hope I can do it.

      Good luck with all the festivities, will be thinking of you, thanks again for the support biggrin xx

  • Mazza44
    Mazza44 Ruthie49

    Posted

    Oh ruthie I feel I've just been reading about me 😔 it's awful. I've been in a&e so many times convinced I was dying. I'm actually a nurse myself so imagine my embarrassment when it was colleagues and being told I was having panic attacks.  They wake me up during the night too.  I used to be so outgoing now I feel I cope better staying in, it's not me.  I've been taking omega fish oils which seems to have settled the palpitations down and I also take feroglobin b12 and menopace, I don't want to jinx myself but I may actually be starting to feel better, good luck x
    • Ruthie49
      Ruthie49 Mazza44

      Posted

      Hi Mazza, good to know it's not just me (in the nicest possible way). How long has this been going on for you?
  • Mazza44
    Mazza44 Ruthie49

    Posted

    Ps.... I too get the ice cold feeling running thro my body, app this is fight or flight ie panic/anxiety 
    • anxiousface
      anxiousface Mazza44

      Posted

      Hello mazza, You make me fel better about these cold feelings as i thought these very strange as you don't read much about cold flashes but you say its anxiety.  I go so cold right through to my bones and my lips go blue its can last for ages and i have to stand over a radiator to thaw out.  I'm so gald t hear your feeling better i hope it continues for you.  All the best for Christmas hun, just enjoy it  xx
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