Should I have a Drink ...its been almost 3 weeks
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Folks ...I've managed to stay off for 3 weeks by throwing all my booze at home barring a single day at a friends place where i finished the bottle (luckily it was only half full ) ...I am having an extended weekend this week with 6 days off ...I am considering getting a bottle for the weekend and moderately having a drink or 2 ...whats the advice folks ...am i asking for trouble knowing my weak will power ...
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karen36196 sandy83111
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No don't do it one drink will lead to more you will think I've done it once I can do it again take it from someone who been there
h1954 sandy83111
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Unless you're using the Sinclair method and are protected by medication from desiring more and more once you've had a drink, you are highly likely to just go back to old drinking ways. Well done for the 3 weeks, don't spoil it, you deserve better.
sandy83111 h1954
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No Sinclair or such aids ...just good ol will power ....But i totally get that i will be at mercy ..so i am thinking maybe just get a little small bottle ...what say Karen & H
TheToad sandy83111
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I think you know the answer to your question! Nobody on this site will encourage you to drink. At least, I hope not! We've all been there...
pistal666 sandy83111
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It totally depends on you. I have no idea what your consumption is, but seeing that you have posted here I guess you have had issues in the past. I would say to you welldone for going three weeks, that is something to be very pleased about, and hitting the bottle again is not really an apt reward for your hard work. What would be the point of having a drink or two? People only drink alcohol because of the numbing effect and loss of inhabitions that come with Dutch courage. Once you lose those inhabitions, you are likely to drink more. So you have to fastforward to next week and ask yourself if it's worth it?
lorilin16 sandy83111
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Yes, your asking for trouble. I'm pretty much at the same time frame as you and I would personally never want to jeopardize my 18 days sober. Don't you feel good about yourself ??? Isn't life better sober? Sobriety is a gift. Why would you want to lose that? For us alcoholics or most of us we can't control the beast inside us, once it's awake it's awake. I suppose it's entirely your choice but for me I would personally rather stick to my path of sobriety that I fought so hard for and worked so hard for. Either way I wish you luck.
Smile47824 sandy83111
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Don't do it. Good job at getting to 3 weeks! Sorry but if you cleared your house of alcohol then there must be a reason for it. I'm sure that you did not do it just for fun.
That is exactly my problem. I can stop drinking for a few days or weeks then I feel like I can just have one day "off" but it NEVER works out like that. When I do drink for just one day I wake up feeling like cr.p. After I get over that awfulness I crave it all over again and then it works it way back into drinking everyday to the point of I was back right where I had began. Waking up everyday hating myself, angry that I had no control, feel horrible.
These last two nights have been hard for me. Day 7 and 8. The cravings are intense and I want to drink because I also feel like I have been " good" exercising, eating well and best of all not drinking but I know I can't. In the back of my head I know it's not ok but I even tried to convince my husband that it would be alright but he didn't buy it either.
Today is day 9.
Keep going make it to 1 month! That is a nice goal and so close too... 🙂
Misssy2 Smile47824
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I know how intense those feelings can be.
Examine what is going on and address THAT.. Hungry, Angry, Lonely or Tired? H.A.L.T and figure it out.
Maybe that will help...anything is worth a try to NOT drink...vs. end up back in the cycle.
Smile47824 Misssy2
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Thanks Misssy. I've noticed that I see alcohol as a reward and I am trying to retrain myself to recognize it as a bad thing. It would be fine if I could have just one drink but I know that will never happen.
Today is going to be really tough. My husband and I are starting back tonight at the dart league and I drive so he can drink. I have a quarter liter of wine near the end of the evening and stop on the way home to pick up another liter. I have to break this habit and can do it but it will be hard.
I tried explaining to my husband that I am stressed about going tonight and I think he took it the wrong way.
Misssy2 Smile47824
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Honestly, I think you should NOT go.
I'm not sure if you are READY to make that stance against alcohol and old habits...You have to be willing to go to any lengths NOT to drink (as do I).
I can go to bars without having the urge because I never really went to bars to drink nor was I involved in any bar activity such as "darts" that involved drinking.
But, I think since you do identify bars with drinking...it IS going to be difficult for you. I also understand you don't want to deprive your husband of his "good time".
I also understand the anger that creeps in when you realize you WANT to play DARTS and that alcohol will be screaming your name.
I know when I was serious about stopping drinking 11 years ago...when something came over me that said enough is enough....I put my sobriety first...above ALL relationships and activities. I even got a divorce because I knew I could not live with that man and be sober.
I'm not sure you are willing to do what it takes...not trying to put you down...beause I'm not sure I AM WILLING to do what it takes...either.
I don't have the same desire I had 11 years ago....it just comes...and I don't think we have it....lori has it you can tell by the way she talks.
The way you are talking....and the way I CAN let myself talk....is indicative of a pending relapse.
Yikes.
tess33005 Smile47824
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Don't go, Smile. Tell your husband you've got a terrible headache and can't possibly go.
He can get a taxi if he's going to drink.
Smile47824 tess33005
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My strong side is where there is a problem there is a solution....just have to have the strength to push through it.
Btw...I already told my husband that if I felt that I could not deal with it that I was calling in sick. I can do it...I KNOW I can
Smile47824 tess33005
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Proud to say that I did not drink last night. I talked to my friend and was happy I did. I also found out durning the evening that a few others in the league also decided to either cut down or stop. That made me feel great.
It was not all easy especially when the waitress passed with 2 quarter liters of wine in front me. It bothered me for a few minutes but then I told myself to think of something else and it passed.
Day 10 is an important day for me since I know that (by reading up on detox) it takes 10 days for the body to rid itself of the toxins. Now for the next stepping stone...2 weeks....then 1 month. ☺☺☺
tess33005 Smile47824
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h1954 Smile47824
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Smile47824 tess33005
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Thank you
Smile47824 tess33005
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Thank you Tess
Smile47824
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Sorry Tess for the double thanks. I thought I was responding to h1954 😂😂😂
tess33005 Smile47824
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Ha ha I'm always doing that...................well done again. xxxx
helen20833 Smile47824
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Wonderful! You found the courage when you needed it. See, you are stronger than you think!
Hang in there
Smile47824 helen20833
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Thanks Helen. Trial and error I guess.
And deciding to post on this forum has helped me too. I do not feel so alone anymore and to see how people struggle just like me puts things more into perspective
helen20833 Smile47824
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Every day you go without a drink is not just a victory for you! It fills the hearts of others with hope. They think, if she/he can do it.....?
To feel alone in any struggle is horrendous. Everyone here is cheering you on
Hugs and encouragement all the way
Helen xxx
gwen45436 helen20833
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helen - that is exactly what I have felt like for years and years of trying to get my drinking under control - alone and a horrendous struggle. No-one I know, not hubs, nor mates seem to have my problem and I hate that and thought I was a lost cause. But the "cheering you on" on here has made a massive difference to me.
Smile, well done to you, it does put things into perspective and is a great help to all of us. Keep at it
x
tess33005 gwen45436
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love Tess xxxxx
Smile47824 gwen45436
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Thanks Gwen
helen20833 gwen45436
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Oh honey, I might not drink personally but even I know alcoholism is an illness. No better, no worse than any illness.
I once watched a documentary, quite fascinating, which explained how inexplicable it was how one first ever drink can make an individual alcohol dependant and another person impervious to it.
it's horribly sad. I like to think that whilst I have no personal experience that I have enough inelligence to understanding that being alcohol dependant is not due to a person's weakness of will or lack of moral fibre
It's not your fault. It is never anybody's fault. The fact that you struggle daily to overcome this is a credit to you, to all those who struggle to overcome dependancy is applaudable
Yes, we cheer you on. I cheer you on. I feel sad that you struggle each day but I cannot praise you enough that you try and carry on trying
Every hour you make it, every day you make it, is something we can all share joy in. Everyone feels happy in such achievements
From my heart I wish you well!
Hugs and more hugs
Helen
tess33005 helen20833
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You will enjoy it and learn more about Alcohol Use Disorder. Paul is a nurse who works with people who have AUD. Highly recommended.
Love Tess xxxxxxx
helen20833 tess33005
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Oh, thank you, Tess!
Yes, I'll love that. The more we learn, the better we understand. Ignorance is no excuse
Hugs Helen
gwen45436 tess33005
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G.x
tess33005 gwen45436
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Yes, Gwen, it is. I wasn't sure if we could mention websites on the open forum. That's why I wrote 'tube you' to Helen, lol.
It really is worth watching.
Enjoy!
Love Tess xxxxxxx
gwen45436 tess33005
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Gwen x
Smile47824 gwen45436
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