Should I have a Drink ...its been almost 3 weeks

Wow. Missy you are sooo good ...Clairvoyant I'd say ....I managed to stop exactly 4 days last time eight months ago ....but then after I kept drinking having small sabaticals of a day or 2 .....

About stopping easily ...it wasn't too much of an issue ..first 2 days were a bit tough then it was all downhill ....

My relationship with alcohol is very messy ...the problem is i cant seem to satisfy myself with a couple of drinks ...I have to get sloshed or atleast nice and high .....I drink only in the evenings but everyday right after work ....I come home take a bottle of Mineral water 1.5 L and empty it and fill it neat with vodka to quarter of the bottle and fill the rest with water ...then i drink from it whenever my wife's in the shower ...or she's cooking in the kitchen etc ...ofcourse she knows i am drinking ....until i finish the bottle ...

I can definetly push past the urge i know but i want to conquer this like i did 3 years ago when i went on a weight loss spree ...i would drink only on weekends and would religiously follow my regime and diet ...

I just want to see if i can do that again really 

That was a very honest reply...that is what sobriety is all about "honesty"...and it seems that you are not "ready" to admit that alcohol has a hand up on you.....and that is OK...but a very slippery slope for your health and mental well being.

If you just want to see if you can maintain your regime and diet..than I think THAT is what you are going to try...no matter what anyone says.

I know for me...the case is...if I've made up my mind...there is no advice in the world that will change me.  I DO like you search for all the different opinions and that ONE thing that MAY change my mind.

But. like me...it seems you are going to have to figure this out on your own.  I hope nothing terrible happens to you if you drink....I really hope you CAN stick to a regime.  

And...just possibly you should call someone about the Sinclair method...so you have those pills for back up to curb cravings or lessen your drinking should you fall off the cliff again.

there goes the "beast" trying to convince you that you can drink.

The only option I see that you have..if you want to continue drinking is to use the Sinclair method...that way you have a protection against the alcohol taking over your "soul" again.

F@ck it, just get smashed, see if you can do it, then just try and see if you can do it again next week, if you can keep doing it, you'll have it under control!! Where is the logic that you have sussed it when you tell yourself that its ok to drink on a 6 day bender, as long as you go a few days without at the end of it? You already had your mind set when you wrote the original post. I think you made a mistake when putting a thought down In writting, there is no way you can escape that, you may as well have put it in stone. So have these six days, I don't think you want abstinance at the moment. Hopefully you come out the other end of this a little wiser, I wish you the best of luck sandy and hope you come back and let us know how you got on.

Hi sandy, at the moment, I am having a small red wine nightcap, so 7 units a week.  I am in my third week now and apart from no sleep I am doing well (Zombie fashion).  But going out to the pub would be difficult for me, looking around and watching everyone drinking.  Then I would probably get narky because peeps were getting tipsy and being silly whereas normally I would join in.  But being sober makes me want to tell them to grow up and behave - stupid I know. 

So for me,  like Tess says, cry off with a banging head or just be honest and say I have come this far, I aint going to ruin it now.

Let us know.

G.

Hey guys ...I did have 3-4 drinks yesterday followed by a quick dinner to dampen the urge to drink more ....It went well ..didn't get over sloshed ...woke up fine today morning without a hangover ...went for a morning jog and now am at work to tie up some loose ends ....All's well so far but the challenge lies in not repeating this everyday ...hope i can abstain till maybe next week to have a cheat day again 

Oh My Days!

That was NOT what I was hoping you'd say.

BUT, as I said, we're all rooting for you (lol wrote 'rotting for you' first)

Sandy, I know it's hard. My husband has AUD. He's been sober for a couple of weeks now, for the first time since we've been married (except when he did a rehab for eight months, then came home with a carrier bag containing eight cans of lager.)

You have to think what you're doing, darling. I'm not blaming you but your plan to have what you call a 'cheat day' is not a good plan.

Either you stop or you don't. AUD helps you make the wrong choices.

Let's see what others have to say. I repeat, I am not blaming you or dissing you. I believe that everyone on this site would like to help you.

Lots of love from Tess xx

Hi Sandy, You have really puzzled me. One one hand I'm kinda thinking welldone for not getting sloshed, but then I'm thinking the step from an Alcoholic to a Binge Drinker is not really a move to celebrate. Indeed, you have given it the right name, "A cheat day", but people usually only cheat to their own advantage, maybe if you changed it to a "Really letting myself down again Day", it may not look so attractive. There are people on here that really care and want you to beat this, you can tell they are genuine and have been/are in the same boat as you. Including me (Even if I am a bit mean sometimes), We all want to help you, help you, but I think we are all just a little uncertain to what your ultimate goal is? Al x

I'm sorry to read this. Even though I live thousands of miles away, I am interested in your progress. Been there, we all have. But I got there in the end. 

Sandy,

I've been working on getting free from wine for a few years now and I have tested many different ways. I agree with what pistal said in just f..k it and do it because you had already made up your mind. Nothing we say will have stopped you anyways. A cheat day (in my experience) is a cop-out and keeps you hanging on for the next round. The drinking days even if you fix a day will get closer and closer until you are rightback to where you started. I'm not joking about what I said in my first post to you...i am sure that you did not throw out the alcohol just for fun...you had enough and you made a point to regain control. You can not do that if you know that you are going to plan cheat days.

I hope what I have said somehow touches your pride and makes you strong enough to let it ALL go.

We all care about you and want the best for you.

Smile ?

Hi all,

I have removed the argumentative/insulting/off topic comments. I don't care who said what or who is "right or wrong". If there is a misunderstanding it can be resolved without descending into what happened here. I have said it countless times but remember you can use the PM service if there is confusion rather than take a discussion off topic by keeping the "debate" going with multiple replies which ends up in insults and bickering. Also a reminder - personal attacks and insults are in breach of the T&Cs and can lead to accounts being deactivated. If anyone has any questions do not reply here but send me a PM, link below if needed.

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Regards,

Alan

Thank You

Thank you, Alan.

YW

HI Sandy. Tricky ground you are on and a cheat day does not seem logical to me...it will not work in the long run I think..That is how I feel about your situation....Robin