So I'm officially crazy!!!!

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went to 2 drs this week..the first one told me oh im not having menapause symptoms i have mood disorder. i asked if mood disorder had severe hot flashes anxiety achy bones waking up in a sweat in a panic feeling really bad all day ..ect..she said well ur thyroud is fine im not checking ur hormones cuz its not menapause. ok??? oh im sorry i cant give u a quick fix..ok..51 yrs old. im going through ut. i went to another dr today she said oh yes its me apause but my symptoms arent...all i been reading on this forum. well most..i can relate to but she yes another she said. nope non of that is menapause. yes maybe the anxiety and hot flashes but nothing else. told me to see a shrink and she put me on gabepatin. what???? idk. i really think im crazy or these drs just dont want to help women going through this hell..anyone else having the same isdues with drs or am i just nuts!!???

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    hi Jaynie - Yep, my own female GP that i actually love, refuses to believe that the laundry list of symptoms i have or had, has anything to do with menopause. My dr is constantly insiuating that i am depressed & need anti depressants. Fortunately, i have refused them, because i know that i am not clinically depressed, just post menopausal!!!! i love my dr, but she is about 7 yrs younger than me & i do think a good dose of menopausal symptoms, might make her a better understanding dr! you are not alone, drs dont get it, & we need to empower ourselves with knowledge because we know our bodies - the best RX I have found for combating this nightmare is low impact exercise like, swimming, yoga & some weight lifting. i know its tough when you feellike crap, but some how the endorphins overpower the yucky feelings - i am not saying by any means its a cure all, just elevates you a bit -

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    Its effing nuts! I get more or less the same answer (not that I have any mood disorder) and they refuse to even listen to anything other than night sweats and hot flashes. Any aches, palpitations, nerve issues, anxiety are just dismissed as "they are not menopause related", "we don't treat / help with those symptoms" and of course the clincher "if you have these problems, go to your general doctor". WTAF?

    I'm at my wits end, and don't know what to do, where to get help!

    I wish more doctors get training in menopause issues and took our symptoms more seriously.

    Hang in there...at least we have this forum and can express our frustrations here.

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    Hi jaynie, a lot of these woman have such great advice on this forum, and Geeze we can't seriously all have the same exact symptoms and be around the same age group and all be not going thru the perimenopause change.. These doctors seem to be clueless, one day they will go thru it or their wife or daughter and they will get a big ole wake up call, so unbelievable how they all just right it off as anxiety!!

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    I've found it's hit and miss with doctors. My primary care doctor has no clue. The NP at my gynecologist's office has been helpful, but I think it helps that she's roughly the same age and going through some of the same things. One of my friends who is in her 60s said when she started having horrible hot flashes she went to her male doctor and asked for something to stop them. Long story short, he told her that when he was in med school, they didn't learn about peri or menopause, they were told to ask their moms about it.

    What drives me crazy with all this is not knowing if something is related to peri or something more serious. Pretty sure all my symptoms are peri related since they come and go and haven't killed me yet, but it would be nice to know for certain!

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