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Stop seeking reassurance and start helping your own self

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Many people with anxiety have a natural tendency to not believe others and they are convinced that they have some or the other health condition, they ideally try to seek help here and there but are never satisified, they feel good for some time after they find peoples suffering the same kind of symptoms which they are going through and i know most of you after reading this will take it as neagative and not helpfull. This is the only problem that you guys are facing right now you are not ready to help your own self you are either on the net or asking peoples around and even trying to ask your friends and families are they going through the same situation or not but trust me this will wont help even i was there a day but ultimately i learned that this is not more than anxiety and il have to help my own self i tried to change my thoughts forcefully it didnt helped me initially but with time it did and i stopped taking my life seriously for every symptoms which used to strike whether it be palpitations , hot or cold flushes, lightheadedness, feeling dizzy, nauseating, feeling lethargy, shortness of breath i used to say myself i dont care do what you want to do im ready to die here in this moment and carry on with my work whicb with time helped me to change my thoughts and bring me out of the hell and as i went  on returning back to my  day by day routine my symptoms went on becoming lesser abd lesser and i started gaining back my confidence im my own self and till today im practicing the same things, everyday i used to feel some or the other new symptoms even the road to recovery is  not linear i faced a lot of setbacks still facing but they have lessened in intensity and as well frequency then i used to do mindfullness daily which helped me to keep my thoughts stable and not affecting my emotions much as after getting up from meditation i used to feel quiet good for most of the day and helped me to keep me stable, some setbacks that i faced were even grester in intensities but as i learned to handle them and as i gained the knowledge that its just anxiety and nothin else it started to leave its power and remember one thing our brain creates new neuronal connections for every thought, now as you have build so many negative thought connections that it will take time to come out of it you will have to change your thoughts and make some positive connections so that the old connections can break just remember one thing everyday you are a new being your brain structure changes  everyday it has something new developed in it so dont look out for reassurance help your own self bit difficult i know but not impossible takes time but you will come out the other side as everything takes time to have effect and brain takes a certain amount of time to heel.

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  • dawn41782
    dawn41782 Guest

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    Actually, I found this refreshing. I know my anxiety is all in my mind. I can sit and think and give myself an anxiety attack. It's ridiculous. I'm embarrassed of myself. I use to be spontaneous and crazy. And for the past few months after dealing with 6 years of my husband being a drug addict, I broke. As the attacks happen more frequently the more I gave into them until I couldnt leave my house. My fear is the anxiety attack itself. I am slowly coming out of it but your right I have to be tough on myself and no one can help me but me. So thank you. We have but one like and it would suck to live the rest of it in fear of anxiety and missing the best parts of life.

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      Guest dawn41782

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      Yeah dear just forget whatever incident took place in your life earlier just forget everything and just focus on the presence, if needed im always there as i promised myself that whenever il be out of it il help others to come out.
  • heather52246
    heather52246 Guest

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    everyone's journey is different tho ,some need reassurance and some don't. Some just hearing that their not alone in their fight helps them feel less alone and that their not the only one suffering with it. So although I can totally understand what your saying ,it's easy said than done. When ever I've came on here it's simply because a was new to suffering with Anxiety and it's been frightening and debilitating, it was nice to talk to others who have maby had it longer and found ways to tackle it. Plus a lot of folk with mental illness feel alone cause they isolate themselfs.. sometimes coming in here just for a chat helps them.

    • Guest
      Guest heather52246

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      Yeah dear reasssurance works but for a shorter period but when you focus on your thaughts as if where its going wrong you csn totally change it and come of it i know it takes time for some hours you feel good and again you find yourself there then you think no i cant its not helping me but it is just changing the thaught is all needed.
  • karen77710
    karen77710 Guest

    Posted

    Well said and very interesting. I'm gonna try all of what you have said x

    • Guest
      Guest karen77710

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      Yeah karen you will be out of it however difficult the path is force yourself to be out and you will be there trust me..
  • karen77710
    karen77710 Guest

    Posted

    Thank you. I started with anxiety nearly 18 years ago but after fighting it and been on meds I got over it about 9 years ago but started up again last June and been down hill since. It's health anxiety I suffer with more than anything x

    • Guest
      Guest karen77710

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      I dont know about meds and il wont go on it because i know its only though distortions and changing your thoughts can bring you back to reality.
    • Guest
      Guest

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      And also perform mindfullness yoga and meditation daily this is infact the most usefull tool.
    • karen77710
      karen77710 Guest

      Posted

      Hi Rahul I won't go on any meds, been there done that and didn't like it. I will get through this on my own x

  • Dburt.18
    Dburt.18 Guest

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    I had an anxiety attack, and my left side went numb. Every since (this was around 3 weeks ago.) I have been just laying around the house ( I am on vacation from work until October.) and I feel drained on my left side. Is this normal??? I know I read your post, I know this is anxiety, I just want to be sure that the left side weakness, and dizziness is okay. Thanks you all!
    • Guest
      Guest Dburt.18

      Posted

      Yes dear even sometimes i used to feel that im getting paralysed my half of the face used to go numb.
  • edwina97301
    edwina97301 Guest

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    Agree with a lot of what you said, we have to help ourselves , no one will do it for us, firstly we need reasurance that we are not the only one that feels like this so we are not scared to ask for help. We need reasurance from gp's and therapists / councillors that we can get help and help ourselves. Just hope nobody feels foolish or that they shouldn't have asked advice here. YES our illness makes us feel better for being reasured then we question everything again. The best thing I did during 20yrs of anxiety was asking if anyone else felt like me , when the answer was ' yes ' then I had the motivation to ask for help and help myself

    • Guest
      Guest edwina97301

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      Yes adeina even for me the reassurance part was there initially and when i used to feel that nothing can help me and there was this natural tendency to not trust people or trust them partly but then i realised that its me and just me so its time to make myself strong and i think this is what anxiety was asking me for as if it always wanted me to be a strong guy and in time it has helped me to do so and to be a better and focussed person as well.
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