Stop seeking reassurance and start helping your own self
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Many people with anxiety have a natural tendency to not believe others and they are convinced that they have some or the other health condition, they ideally try to seek help here and there but are never satisified, they feel good for some time after they find peoples suffering the same kind of symptoms which they are going through and i know most of you after reading this will take it as neagative and not helpfull. This is the only problem that you guys are facing right now you are not ready to help your own self you are either on the net or asking peoples around and even trying to ask your friends and families are they going through the same situation or not but trust me this will wont help even i was there a day but ultimately i learned that this is not more than anxiety and il have to help my own self i tried to change my thoughts forcefully it didnt helped me initially but with time it did and i stopped taking my life seriously for every symptoms which used to strike whether it be palpitations , hot or cold flushes, lightheadedness, feeling dizzy, nauseating, feeling lethargy, shortness of breath i used to say myself i dont care do what you want to do im ready to die here in this moment and carry on with my work whicb with time helped me to change my thoughts and bring me out of the hell and as i went on returning back to my day by day routine my symptoms went on becoming lesser abd lesser and i started gaining back my confidence im my own self and till today im practicing the same things, everyday i used to feel some or the other new symptoms even the road to recovery is not linear i faced a lot of setbacks still facing but they have lessened in intensity and as well frequency then i used to do mindfullness daily which helped me to keep my thoughts stable and not affecting my emotions much as after getting up from meditation i used to feel quiet good for most of the day and helped me to keep me stable, some setbacks that i faced were even grester in intensities but as i learned to handle them and as i gained the knowledge that its just anxiety and nothin else it started to leave its power and remember one thing our brain creates new neuronal connections for every thought, now as you have build so many negative thought connections that it will take time to come out of it you will have to change your thoughts and make some positive connections so that the old connections can break just remember one thing everyday you are a new being your brain structure changes everyday it has something new developed in it so dont look out for reassurance help your own self bit difficult i know but not impossible takes time but you will come out the other side as everything takes time to have effect and brain takes a certain amount of time to heel.
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cfiddy79 Guest
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I just want to say that this post kind of upset me. I think most people who suffer with anxiety realize that they will never conquer their fears without figuring out how to manage things internally. But every person is different, and how they cope is different. Some people, myself included, manage anxiety and panic attacks by seeking assurance from others. When I am having a panic attack I try to handle it with my coping strategies, but some times the panic gets beyond my control and I look for comfort from loved ones and others who suffer like me. I think when people seek help here, it is late at night and they feel like they have nowhere else to turn. Or they can't get in to see their doctor right away, so they seek reassurance from other anxiety sufferers. I also have noticed several people on this forum who haven't yet been to a doctor or are just starting to have symptoms of GAD. I think we can offer these folks some hope and ideas on how to handle their panic while guiding them to get help. I understand what you are trying to achieve with this post, and it is true. I just would hate for someone to see this and get disheartened that they can't get help from these kinds of forums.
edwina97301 cfiddy79
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Well said cfiddy, I replied, and agreed with some aspects, that we have to put the work in however hard and help ourselves but as I said I only started to get better by asking for reasurance . That feeling that somebody understands is such a relief. Then hopefully we can relate to people here who can share how they cope, and hopefully work on our anxiety with likeminded people, counciling and professional /medical help, whatever helps for each individual. Advice here on mindfulness, relaxation, self help I find very caring and useful, certain posts may sound a little condisending perhaps, the post in question made it sound so simple, and that it was foolish to ask for reasurance then still question our thoughts. ( isn't that anxiety)? ??
Guest cfiddy79
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You are getting dishearted because as soon as you read the post you thought to yourself ohh reassurance doesnt help and this is all ehat i do to control it means il wnt get better, and sorts of negative thinking started again. At this point you should have asked your own self " ohh is whatever im thinking true no thoughts are just thoughts and these symptoms are just symptoms and it wnt kill me as they are doing from last few weeks or mnths so i can easily be out of this as only my thoughts are distorted and il do it by chsnging my thought processes". Thats it do it everyday everyhour and see the difference in about a week or two.
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hash Guest
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This is so well written and must be used in vocational training...we manufacture most of our illnesses.....my problems were multitude and external..I sacrificed a life in UK to reverse it ...I couldn't sink or drown....further....in my opinion no medications work....I was there when Prozac became the wonder pill..
Reading above is many years of supply of medications
...Please take note....Compliments Rahul!! :-) :-)
Guest hash
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Thanks hash.😘
edwina97301 Guest
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Wow Rahul. You really don't get it, you're telling people what to do rather than sujesting as though you have the cure, coming across a little arrogant, many tools to cracking this
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edwina97301 Guest
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Didn't say that. Said you are telling rather than sujesting, says it all. All we can do is sujest what may help, not tell people what to do. We all have anxiety but we are all different, we can sujjest what may help and what helped us. Would never tell anyone to stop asking for reasurance . Glad you're in recovery from anxiety though. Perhaps as someone else said the title' stop seeking reasurance and start helping yourself' bit abrupt maybe
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edwina97301 Guest
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Thanks for this reply, no need for apology, your post made complete sense, help ourselves once we have support and reasurance, push ourselves everyday to fight anxiety, your post was actually inspiring, always good to hear success stories, just the title ? And people who haven't asked for help on a forum before may have needed reasurance and got mixed message. Think between us we've concluded, 'find reasurance that you are not alone in this , anxiety can be managed with support, and hard work, not easy but great to have people reasure us it can be done. Do agree many people may ask for reasurance then anxiety convinces them it's hopeless. We can only try , . Lots of young people posting needing reasurance , I admire them for taking this step, they are so young and vulnerable yet brave, I could not discuss this at that age for fear of rejection or ridicule. For me it was baby steps then living one day at a time knowing many people suffer from anxiety but they manage it and so can I, sometimes hard work but worth it. Love to everyone who has tried to help on this site??
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edwina97301 Guest
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👌😊helping ourselves whilst trying to help others can't be a bad thing