Stress magnifies whatever we are feeling

LOVE AND BEST WISHES TO YOU SUNAINA

Thanks mam

I try to think if 3 Positive things st the end of each day.

How many years were you going through symptoms, I am 4:years post menopause ans still in the thick of symptoms.

i am 3 years post. and i cant believe this.....hearing how stress does make it worse i totally agree and i noticed when im focused on how bad i feel more symptoms pop up even worse. i keep saying how can a person feel this bad everyday??? im going to really try to make the best of the times i do feel a little better....

Hi Claire

I am sure every woman is different. Perimenopause was very difficult for me, and from the age of 46 to 51, I went through a catalogue of symptoms, the worst of which were mood swings, periods arriving at all times, sometimes early, sometimes late. I had heavy bleeding and became anaemic and some days felt I could just put my head down at work. Not helped by the fact that I had started a new job at 49, and a couple of difficult staff to manage. I went to doctor to sort out the anaemia. I also had to start high blood pressure meds as my pressure was often raised probably due to the stress at work. However, during this time I started meditation, 5 mins daily. I also would walk away from toxic people at work and socially. These type of people just drain your energy. I incorporated and still do have me time. Usually in the evening starting with a warm bath, wind down, rub essential oils on the base of my feet, lavender with almond oil is relaxing. Then reading something light, and enjoyable before dropping to sleep - off like a light! Walking, cutting out coffee, finding a hobby, thinking positively and focusing on now is important. You cannot change the past and the future hasn't happened, so think of now and ward off anxiety. Share you're time wisely, and on what is important to you. Best wishes.

Hi chuckj

DOES IT REALLY GET BETTER?

I was si encouraged to read your reply

I had an ten year peri hell and im now two years post im 52

i have to say i was so hoping for relief by now but now i have severe joint pain and stiffness

My health anxiety is telling me i have fibromyalgia like my mum

Did you have severe symptoms post meno?

would love to hear from you im desperate right now x

Hi Michelle

I am very sorry to hear of your suffering through peri and now post menopause. I do empathise, as peri was very difficult for me, too. I certainly feel better post menopause without HRT, but do note that this is not always the case with all women. However, I feel that sometimes menopause is blamed for all manner of ailments when actually some of the symptoms are hereditary, part of the aging process, dietary, lack of activity or related to our mental health.

I feel it is important to check out the individual ailments with your doctor and not just put it down to the menopause. Also look at diet, additional vitamins needed through menopause.

There is no doubt I do get tired, I sometimes need to be alone, I don't always enjoy the things I use to do, I have put on a bit of weight, but at the same time I am wiser, I am learning more about myself physically and mentally. I continue to work full-time which really focuses my mind, I take every opportunity to do training and learn new things. My work, I work in mental health, organised courses in self compassion and body confidence which I took advantage of.

There is sadly no one size fits all response I can give, but by developing your own plan by taking ideas from these forums and checking out health concerns with your doctor, you may be able to start living again. All the very best Michelle. I hope things improve for you. xx

You are right about the part-time job.. I too have one and it's OK. I dread going (several reasons) BUT once I'm there, I'm usually good. My spouse is very stressful and I believe I'm worse because of his stress. It's like my brain is clogged. Best of luck with the move and once your ready, look for a part-time job.. : )

I actually think that by being married to someone like my husband is what has triggered my symptoms among other things. He's not the easiest person in the world to live with and then add on the stress of raising two school-age kids who have unfortunately inherited his bad traits, it's no wonder I'm stressed out.

Sharcerv what do you think was causing your weight loss? I have the same issue. But having many food allergies. Did you gain all your weight back eventually?

i can feel what ur going through. being with someone who has no clue what u are going through is stressful.things that u could have put up with before this hit im not able to deal with anymore petty arguements burn me out..i look at the person in a differnt way now especially when im battling daily just to get through and the person just wants to stay stuck in thier own selfishness..ill send extra prayers to u