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Struggling to come to terms with genital herpes :(

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Sarah24
Sarah24

I was diagnosed with herpes in April this yr and have had one recurrence since! I'm single and caught it from a guy I had a one night stand with ( stupid I know ) I'm really struggling to come to terms with having this! I feel embarrassed to talk to anyone about it so coming on here was an option! Maybe talking to ppl who also have this virus might help me deal with this!! At this moment I feel like my life is on hold and no one will want to have a relationship with me since I have it!!! Help!?!?!

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  • lou2
    lou2

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    Just found out I have herpes...I'm absolutely disgusted with myself, but I know it serves me right for getting so stupidly drunk and having unprotected sex. I hate myself so much and feel so disgusting. I never want to have sex again. I'm so angry.. I don't care about the statistics because I hate the fact if I ever get into a relationship again I'm gonna have to explain myself and no matter what anyone else says I will be judged by anyone who hasn't got it. I actually want to hurt myself so much right now. I can't speak to anyone about it. Now I'm gonna have this dirty little secret and I can't stand it.
    • ehopemelody
      ehopemelody larissababy

      Posted

      You. Go. Girl. Reading this made me feel SO MUCH better. You're completely right. Thank you for being the strength some of us need.
    • didin
      didin larissababy

      Posted

      Wow, reading this gives me hope that I will feel better. I was diagnosed with herpes type 1 yesterday and I'm feeling so depressed. My husband left me and I fell like I'm always going to be alone.

      I have faith that I will overcome my depression and learn to live with it.

    • Dadu
      Dadu larissababy

      Posted

      I wish I could actually feel relaxed by what you're writing here.

      I've been diagnosed three days ago. Got it from my fiancé, who didn't know he has it.

      Feels like the end of the world

      Cannot stop crying and both him and my best friend, which I told to, just don't have any idea what am I going through, thinking me crying about it is an over reaction and I just feel so miserable.

      It's disgusting and painful and I can't even sit. Have been lying about the reason I'm not seeing anyone or leaving the house. I just really can't believe I actually have it

      I've been always protected with other guys

      So now getting it from him makes me feel anger towards him even though I know he would do anything to undo it

      But he can't

      And I feel so sad and angry and powerless

    • didin
      didin raquel17765

      Posted

      When I told him the symptoms he basically stop talking to me without knowing the results.

      We are having problems and I'm pretty sure once I tell him that I have hsv 1 he is definitely going to leave me 😔

      I don't even know how to tell him

    • Ashley7798
      Ashley7798 larissababy

      Posted

      I was jus diagnosed last week & this is the best response that i have read period. Thank u😌
    • Toodone
      Toodone Dadu

      Posted

      Look on the bright side...at least you have a fiancé with whom you can share this. Think of all of us single people trying to figure out if we will ever have a relationship because generally speaking, people are not very open, understanding or receptive to you telling them; oh yea, by the way, I have genital herpes. Can you say "hell naw".

      I don't want to minimize your anguish, I get it, but if you love him, hold on to that. He didn't expose you intentionally. I just wanted you to see the flip side and know that you are already in a better place than most of us and besides, none of your emotions will change your reality. Trust me

      GOOD LUCK SWEETIE!!

    • Toodone
      Toodone Ashrose123

      Posted

      Thank you Ashrose for the optimism. Im glad you know you need to hold on to your man. 😜
    • lindsey73842
      lindsey73842 didin

      Posted

      Omg your husband left you because of herpes? Could he not be a carrier? He's obviously not worth jack sh*t. I've just been diagnosed after 30 years married. Wtf! He's being sympathetic but adamant he hasn't slept around. I don't know how to move forward yet but I will find a way.
    • chloe62698
      chloe62698 lou2

      Posted

      Hey Lou. I'm going through the same situation right now. I just found out, and would love to talk with you.

    • lina3636
      lina3636 larissababy

      Posted

      wow i really admire your positivity and the outlook you have. Very pleasant and you are so right. very uplifting point of view God bless 
    • clover_95821
      clover_95821 lou2

      Posted

      I know where you are coming from. My dad is disappointed in me. He hates me.
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