Struggling to come to terms with genital herpes :(

Hello, I have recently been diagnosed with herpes off my ex boyfriend who didn't know he had it! I feel that I can't talk to anyone about it as they'd judge me, the only person I feel I could talk to about it is him but this obviously isn't an option. I don't know what to do about! I feel an emotional wreck at the moment and I just wondered whether it has had a major impact in anyone's life? As I feel that nobody is going to want to go into a relationship with me as I have herpes! I don't know what to do but I'm really struggling with coming to terms with having it!! Someone please help

Hey Sarah! That is so strange, because actually also have genital herpes. I think I contracted them from a dirty "doctor" if you know what I mean😉. Since that time I've had regular outbreaks. I have sought help but nothing has solved the problem yet. I'm looking for a real doctor this time, so any suggestions help.

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I also felt this way when I got diagnosed. I was in a relationship when I was diagnosed and felt like I had to stay with that person even though I was unhappy just because no one else would have me. This is NOT the case. I met my current partner and was upfront with him about having herpes and what he said even surprised me. He said oh well like 1 in 5 people have it. It would be like judging someone for having the chicken pox virus which also stays in your body for life. So don't worry you'll find someone.

Hi Sarah, I too am struggling to come to grips with having GH. I was just diagnosed 4 days ago and it's been the hardest four days of my life. I haven't been able to leave my house or even go to work. I feel as if my life is coming to an end and I'm petrified of my love life. I have been with my boyfriend for over three years now. We have a beautiful house together and love eachother greatly. I came right out and told him the day I was diagnosed and he didn't even hesitate to say "I'll always love you this won't change anything between us" but I'm having the hardest time believing him. I'm with holding almost all my affection because I believe our sex life is now going to suffer. I don't know how I contracted this, I'm 23 and have only been with two men in my entire life. Both of which were long term relationships. Im having the hardest time of my life right now but just know that you aren't alone ?? I have been reading things that are extremely informative about this infection and the fact that it's nearly a skin condition is a little more comforting but just try to stay strong. So many people suffer from this. It's just hard thinking "why me".

I just found out I got herpes from a girl I mess with. I am very disgusted, Ashamed, heart broken, scared an ect.... I feel like I will never be loved again an nobody would want me. I have a 2 year old daughter an I am scared of even touching her because I'm afraid on giving it to her.

I just got herpes recently from a man i thought i was in love with. Turned out he wasnt worth it at all. I know that he gave it to me and he hasnt spoken to me all day. I feel like my life is over

I just went to an emergency doctors because I was in excruciating pain down there and she suggested it looked like herpes. I'm in total shock and struggling to cope. I have been with the same man for almost 9 years and haven't had so much as a cold sore. He had a small lesion last week but we didn't think anything of it and now it's all adding up I don't even feel the need to have the swab test. Deep down I know how the results will come back. I'm totally broken, feel like my whole life has changed and can't stop crying. To make matters worse I have an ulcer in my mouth (which may or may not be related) and without thinking (as I was symptom free at the time) I put my daughters dummy in my mouth. If she gets anything from me I won't be able to cope.

I have had it for years since I was little I believe I was born with it and hated going to school with a cold sore which I had too and would be embarrassed. Now I go to work with them it sucks but I don't get them as often. I'm in my 20s now just now looking up about it to see if it last a lifetime and if there's anyway to cure it. Sad thing is there's no cure but it does get better over time I use to get them every 3-6 months now I haven't had a cold sore in a year. I was looking it up to see if maybe they go away I'm not sure yet I guess I have to wait and see. By reading this discussion im learning that people have it worst then me like getting it downstairs. I really feel bad for girls cause if you have a kid you have a chance of giving them it, that's how I got it and my 2 sisters got lucky. You learn to deal with it though it's better then having HIV no offense to anybody that does.

Dearest Sarah,

Your life is not over, I assure you. It has only just begun! Take comfort in the fact that you are never alone in this. There are countless hsv support forums and even special dating sites just for people like us! I have type 1, according to tests, and only break out on my vaginal area. I had been married to my husband for 8 months when I had an outbreak. At first we wanted to play the blame game but realized that not only will it not solve anything, but that there is no way to be 100% certain how I got it. It can only be detected while it is active. Therefore, testing can and will be inaccurate between breakouts. Unfortunately for us women, we our more likely to have an outbreak due to the nature of our moist, warm vaginal area, which is the perfect environment for bacteria and/or viruses to thrive. I got lucky in having a supportive husband. We have found ways to be intimate even during outbreaks. There are adhesive bandages at the store which are perfect cover for my sores when they pop up there. When one pops up a little further in, I simply put a little baby powder on it and try to keep it clean and dry. I can still perform oral on my husband when I'm having a breakout, and I also have a pleasure toy he can use on me without touching the affected area. I admit, sometimes breakouts are itchy and painful, but if I pay close attention to it and give it proper care, I can catch it early on and make sure it doesn't pop open and potentially spread. I have told only one close friend so far. And she's my bestie BFF. Don't lose faith. Not everyone will judge you. You have an inconvenient minor medical condition. Life will go on and you will find that the more you love yourself despite your issues, the better the quality of life you will have. I highly recommend a bubble bath each time you have a breakout. If you spoil yourself each time you have a breakout, it no longer becomes something to dread. I've had this condition for 6 months now. I absolutely love being able to have a reason to pamper myself every so often. And I don't think anyone who truly loves you is going to care. You can even encourage them to buy you gifts during breakouts. Get well cards, candies, it's the little things. Or you can buy those for yourself. Just remember, you are a star, shine away!

Ive been with the same person since I was 18, I'm now 22.

Totally fell in love with the guy and no matter what he does I still let him back to me because as stupid as it sounds I love him to bits. What makes things harder is we have three kids together.

I got told a few months back that he had been passing it around as let's just say the last 2+ year have been the worst years of my life with him. Cheating etc.

He told me he was clean but used to text me saying good luck finding someone to love you and want you when I tell everyone what you have blah blah.... I went to the doctors because I was showing symptoms.. but the doctor said it didn't look like herpes and it wasn't something to worry over..

Tonight he came back to my door calling me all the names you could imagine as he found out I've met someone else ( baring in mind he's in a relationship) I thought I didn't have it I got told I didn't have it andone now I can't help but feel disgusting and really guilty for the guy I've been dating ( I did tell him a while back about going to the doctors and as to why and he was understanding) I just feel so bad... and like my ex said who's going to want me now he's made sure that I will never ever be with anyone other than him.

I just feel like my life is at a standstill again I don't know where I go from here

MoSt difficult thing to get past. I got herpes when I was a teenager. Now 26 years old and now starting to date but don't know how to bring it the topic with my significant other. Help?! FYI he has been a friend for all my life and he has no idea of this.