Struggling to come to terms with genital herpes :(

I was with a guy for over a year when I found out I had herpes. we lived together, was even engaged. during the time we were together I got checked regularly but nothing ever showed up. when I found out, he had already stopped returning calls & got engaged to someone else. while we were together he always threw hints & made jokes about having herpes but never told me. now he denies ever having it & talks about me to all of his friends & family. how is that possible?. he even put my child at risk, sharing stuff with him. now im single, my confidence is horrible, and im depressed & embarrassed more than I have ever been. stress has only caused me to have more out breaks. I feel like my life is over. and I don't have any one to talk to. the only thing that keeps me going is my child. for the first month I didn't even want to do research on herpes because I couldn't without crying. what do you do to keep yourself happy & positive?

I was diagnose with hsv1 but I have other things going on in my pubic hair. is this normal?

It would solve a lot of anxiety, pain and sadness if there was a dating site only for people with Genital Herpes!

I struggled when I found out and still do from time to time! What you need to keep telling yourself is that so many ppl have it so many ppl don't know and only a few will get diagnosed! It's a skin condition of a future partner can't take the TINY risk is he/she the kind of person you want to be with? Ask your self that!!! If you have it there are plenty measures that can be taken to prevent passing it on to a partner!! I don't agree with limiting yourself to dating others with herpes!!!

Get looking on the HVA website it's brilliant and will answer all questions and put your mind at ease!!!

Remember it's a minor skin infection, no one makes an issue of coldsores!!

Sarah xxx

Bless you Sarah24, Its great you can think like this, but not everyone is as mentally strong as you. I was very depressed and wanted to self harm after finding out I had GH 6 years ago. And the thought that there is a slight chance I could pass this on to someone, when using protection, scares me so much.

So I think, Dating Sites for people with GH would be great!! xx

The chance of passing it on If is in protection is pretty slim if you don't have an outbreak! Have you done research? Shedding goes down after 6 months after 2 yrs it's not worth looking for! Taking supression also lowers

The risk! There are dating sites out there!!

Xx

Help ...... just found out that I have hsv2 yesterday . I hate myself n I'm really depressed n stressed . I've been w.my bf for 3 years n inever cheated . I have to tell him it it from my previous bf of 5yrs . I'm just scared he will leave n think I cheated . BT I never cheated n never had symptoms or outbreaks .

What if itell him n he leave me n tell everyone . I'm soooo scared

would anyone read my story if I posted it?

Do your research! Herpes virus association is the best place to look and will hopefully make you feel abit better about the situation! Xx

Hi mega49191, I believe you, I've never had GH symptoms. The counsellor said I could have had it for years and not known, as I have a strong immune system. See if your boyfriend would talk to a counsellor with you at your local G.U.M clinic. As for telling everyone, I don't think he would, as everyone would think he could possibly have it, as he's been with you for 3 years. Hope you sort things out xx

Hi MVThames I'm sure there would be a lot of people on here who would listen to your story and give you advice. xx

Thank you . And I feel that it may have CME from past bf . BT my bf now could have gave it to me too and never knew he had it .

I recently found out I have hsv 1 which caused a genital outbreak that I am currently getting over. I would like to know the difference between hsv 1 and 2.. The doctor daisy fiancé more than likely gave it to me but he will be tested to.. We haven't used protected sex since we been together.. What should I do differently I want to have kids with him and have a normal sex life he says we still aren't using condoms or anything but I want to know will I be just as likely as a normal person to concieve a child will I be ablto have a baby as easily I hardly know anything about any of this and it does scare me my fiancé said he'd staying by my side even if he doesn't have it. But before I got with him I never had anythin no cold sores and his family gets them all the time but I haven't seen him with one.. I'm scared at times not knowing everything and knowing I'll always have this but what should I know I want a family and still try to have children and a normal sex life.. I have so many unanswered questions.. If they said I have hsv 1 does that mean I got it sexually transmitted or just by interacting with someone with cold sores or something. Should I eat differently what should I know?

The doctor also told me I had one of the worst first outbreaks she had seen I been off work for over a week could barely walk my fiancé took care of me the sores were so painful I screamed when I peed but my fiancé did research and found that soaking in epson salt helps alot so instead of peeing in the toilet my fiancé ran me a warm bath with espon salt and I would sit down and it took most of the pain away gross I know peeing like that but I was up for anything to help me ease the pain when peeing and it helped so much another thing that helped was two vitamins l-lysine and zinc one is immune system and one is skin and tissue repair and they all helped so much and today was the first day in almost a week that I have peed in the toilet instead of the bath but I could tolerate using the bathroom and wasn't near as scared soaking in the epsom salt bath

At the beginning of Sept 2013 i was diagnosed with HSV 1, mortified wasnt the word as i was 10 weeks pregnant, all the docs were concerned as i had only just contracted HSV for the first time (so my blood work showed) an it heightened my risk of loosing the baby we had tried so hard for. I wont lie i had a fruitful youth but always got checked, my partner on the other hand had only had 2 serious partners an a 1 night stand, i asked the docs if id caught it off him, he said unless id been with anybody else it had surley come from him but when explaining this my partner cut me off an said "well ive not got it" an i felt bad then like i was accusing him of putting our babies life at risk (i dont believe he cheated just that hes never suffered any symptoms) but he was adamant he was going to stand by me and said he didnt care if he caught it as he couldnt imagine a life without me, sweet.

So i was landed with the guilt, and it was hard, and i still dont know how he truely feels about the HSV 1, im too scared to bring it up again, i dont want to rock the boat while the going good. IM now nearly 30 weeks pregnant and all is good with my baby, i was put on surpressant medication from 24 weeks as the HSV1 can cause problems if i have an outbreak during labour. to the best of my knowledge ive only ever suffered the first out break and have been settled since, so everything is looking good