Struggling with diagnoses.

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I am 27 I got diagnosed with ASD a couple of months ago I have kind of come to terms with the diagnosis but I hate who I am I hate how I act and how I behave ... I understand this is prob to do with the ASD but I hate it and this wish I could be okay with who I am and how I act.

I work full time but I am almost always pretending how I am at work I do find work stressful I pretend I am okay when deep down I am hurting so bad.

I pretend I am okay for so long that often I break down and then feel terrible afterwards much worse then how I felt before.

I was at work today and I had a breakdown things got to much and everything got top of me.

I spoke to my manager and he said he is going to speak to HR on Monday and try and see what they suggest as my manager doesn't really have experience with ASD or borderline personality disorder which I have been diagnosed with in the past I sort of think ASD and BPD are quite similar in themselfs.

My manager suggested I learn self help techniques so I am happier at work it isn't really that easy.

I'm concerned that after my manager has spoken to hr that I will not longer be able to work there as I didn't disclose the BPD when I got offered the job am I going to loose my job because of this ?

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    I sincerely hope that your firm are sympathetic to your condition.

    I am not a medically qualified person but have you ever had your Vitamin B12 and Folate levels checked as there is a link between B12 Deficiency and ASD

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    Hopefully your boss will be helpful. Maybe if there is a next time, you could only disclose that you have an disability and what your needs would be, instead of givign them the actual diagnosis.  Or is it maniditory in order to get help?  

    I feel it iwll be ok, even if you lose the job.  You will find other work.  Your health is the most important thing.

    Let us know as things progress OK?  Hang in there!

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      I don't know if it's mandatory to disclose the diagnosis itself but I feel that is sometimes the best thing to do as that way that know exactly what is wrong with you if they know about the condition.

      My boss is going to speak to someone from HR next week and see what they say I hope I am able to keep working there as I don't really want to find a job somewhere else

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      Naming diseases adds stigma. all they need to know (unless it is the law of the land to name it) is how it effects you, and how your needs would be best met.  There is a LOT of stigma.  Be careful with your heart. i have been hurt badly by stigma and would hate to see any others have it. it is very painful to be shunned after you disclose your diagnosis. i wish I never had.  but it is up to you. You are a differnt person and I wish you the best.
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       i hope they let you keep your job without any trouble. it would be the humane thing to do.
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    Self-help is not a solution! You need a specialist who will help you to manage the signs of ASD. And remember you are not sick.You are just special. With the help of psychocorrection and psychotherapy you will be able to return to a normal happy life!
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