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surviving menopause without hrt. anyone out there:(

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michelle50768
michelle50768

Please help I'm desperate! !!!

Ive been in perimenopause eight years and I dont feel like iI can cope anymore. Im already in a low dose AD. I dont want to go on hrt but I don't feel I can carry on without it. Please if there are any ladies out there that have survived perimenopause or menopause severe symptoms without hrt please please let me knowsad

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  • cazjaz16
    cazjaz16 michelle50768

    Posted

    I'm post menopause by 3.5 years without HRT I'm still alive lol but it's be certainly a ongoing struggle I'm now changing my antidepressants still on a low dose but my anxiety gets the better of me at times sad
    • cazjaz16
      cazjaz16

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      I've suffered every single symptom mentioned is this blog but I get by with saying it's just the menopause and it's a normal reaction to what's happening to us ladies. I try and keep positive daily and get away for a weekend break now and again for a recharge. Hope you feel better soon Hun x
  • toffeecushion
    toffeecushion michelle50768

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    Sorry you are feeling so bad, what's wrong?

    You will get through this, but I know how hard it is.  You are not alone, stay strong, it will get better.

    • michelle50768
      michelle50768 toffeecushion

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      I hope so. Ive had every symptom there is to have but its been going on so long im drained of it all. Still getting periods but irregular. My husband and kids dint wanna be around me and I dont blame them im just so miserable. I suppose I just wanna know that it does get better eventually just a bit of hope. I cant interact with anyone got no concentration anxiety breathlessness fatigue stomach issues the list just goes on.

      I dont mean to be so negative but really struggling right now

  • jo92050
    jo92050 michelle50768

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    Hi Michelle,

    I am nearly 4 months post meno, last period was 16 months ago.  I was in peri for about 8 years then 2 years ago all hell broke loose in my body.  I have been through the nightmare of the last 2 years without HRT or any meds, as everything I tried to take made me sicker and some symptoms would get worse. I gave in about 3 months ago and went on a AD, on it for 2 months and made the anxiety and depression so much worse, been of it for about 1 month now.  I am now trying Vitamin D and my tummy seems to be handling it ok and I do feel better.  So yes it seems I have survived, I have had every symptom there is, still not out of the woods yet but a heck of a lot better than I have been over the last 2 years...Take care...Jo

    • michelle50768
      michelle50768 jo92050

      Posted

      Thank you so much. I guess the last two years have been the worst x
    • Fairy28
      Fairy28 michelle50768

      Posted

      Hi Michelle, I sympathise - I'm in surgical meno and I won't pretend it's been absoloute hell. I have had every single one of the 66 symptoms but two years in now I can honestly say I think things are settling down a bit now. I still have bad anxiety GP put me on Sertraline but it made me much much worse. It is really really hard but you do and will get through it all. I don't take HRT either for various reasons , my consultant told me the first two years seem to be the worst, BUT we are all different so can't time scale these things. I truly hope you feel better soon big hugs xx
    • cazjaz16
      cazjaz16 Fairy28

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      Oh no I'm now going to start sertiline is it not good Hun ?
    • michelle50768
      michelle50768 Fairy28

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      Thank you it sure is hell. Ive got gerd as well which makes me breathless which sets off anxiety. Aarrgghh its never ending. If you dint mind me asking why do you not want hrt?

      Its now back in the news as being safe. Confused lol.

      Would you believe ive brought up five children run a home been married 27 years and work as a carer but now can barely function enough to get through the day much less socialise lol.

      My husband is off to Antigua to a friends wedding soon but because of my unpredictable flooding periods im not goingsad

      But thanks to you lovely ladies and all your replies x

    • Fairy28
      Fairy28 cazjaz16

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      Hi Caz, oh no hun honestly please don't worry - it's just that Sertraline wasn't right for me that's all. It's like with all meds , some suit people fine and others don't, we are all different and react in different ways. I know a few people that take it and have brilliant results and feel so much better, that why I wanted to try it ! Give it a try and I'm sure you will be absoloutly fine, I really didn't mean to put you off. I'm going to try something different soon and not sure what GP will try next, a lot of it is finding the right one that suits us best. Good luck you'll be fine, Hope you soon feel better x
    • Fairy28
      Fairy28 michelle50768

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      Hi Michelle - such a shame you can't go on holiday with your hubby, that's so unfair for you isn't it. I know what you're saying ive been the same, can't function - dizzy, fatigued, washed out, achy, the list goes on doesn't it. I had a hysterectomy over twenty years ago but one ovary remained until two years ago, I had an oophorectomy so straight into surgical meno ! They told me because I was 51 at the time I would be going through it anyway so basically ride it out, also I get very bad migraines so for me they didn't think it would be good. My god nobody warned me how vicious it would be, at times I thought I was dying - but as I say it's not quite as bad , but I think now on reflection I shouldn't have had to suffer as much as I did and wish I had insisted on something to help me. X
    • cazjaz16
      cazjaz16 Fairy28

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      I've been on paroxatine for years it seriously helped me thru the worse but it's addictive and I don't want to up the dose as it took me along time to drop the dose but it is a amazing AD especially for anxiety as well so I decided to try and swop I did try sertiline before years ago and it wasn't to effective hence why I went onto paroxatine which was my life saver. So I'll give it ago then and see how it goes fingers crossed X
    • Fairy28
      Fairy28 cazjaz16

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      Did you have any bad side effects from Paroxatine ? Its the anxiety that lingers on with me, I'm not too bad when I'm at home, I can just about deal with it as I can lie down as and when I feel weird or when my bad thoughts take over - but I can't take going too far away from home or unfamiliar places, if I'm in a busy shop or a place I can't escape from then panic takes over and lose balance, thumping heart, sweats, tingly face and limbs etc and wherever I am I have to get on the floor, it's embarrassing and horrible - panic attack I guess. Trouble is not knowing when it will happen as fine one minute then all of a sudden. . .  .awful. So definatly yes try Sertraline as it could change your life for the better, I truly hope it works for you, good luck xx
    • cazjaz16
      cazjaz16 Fairy28

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      This was me to a T and I really changed on paroxatine my agrophobia improved immensely with the anxiety attacks I really thought I was a complete different person but as I said I've been on it years and suppose your body gets used to the dosage and you need to increase it which I don't want to increase again as it is addictive but I'm sure if your doctor will prescribe it for you at a very low dose it will help you as your symptoms are so severe. My doctor has always give me a low dose diazepam also as we all know that getting onto a antidepressant can increase your symptoms until they kick it in xx does that make sense Hun
    • cazjaz16
      cazjaz16

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      I can't leave the house alone and never felt that confident to do it but I can go with hubby and friends out and about which to me is a fabulous relief I just get hot flashes now and again which make me sick but have had bad problems sleeping and having a awful feeling right thru my body also I have a lot of family problems as I'm a full time live in carer for my mum my son has been poorly with ocd and my husband collapsed and choked and had to be resussed thank god we was at the hospital otherwise he would never have made it so think this is why me and my son are having anxiety problems sad
    • Fairy28
      Fairy28 cazjaz16

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      Thank you for that and yes I will definatley ask about it when I go next time - honestly though I do think the worst is over but there's always something that kicks you in the teeth as if to say ' hey I havnt finished with you yet !' In the very early days I wasn't sleeping , complete and utter constant fatigue, crushing spaced out feelings , not being able to even walk in a straight line, mind blowing brain fog, horrible - most of that gone so it's the last thing to sort out - I'm so done with feeling rubbish, I wish you well and hope you feel much better soon, these missing hormones cause so much havoc ! Take care xx
    • Fairy28
      Fairy28 cazjaz16

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      Oh my gosh you poor girl you have a lot on your plate right now, again I know where you're coming from, my husband had a heart attack a month ago, he's going into hospital on Monday for surgery so I'm right there with you ! Xx
    • cazjaz16
      cazjaz16 Fairy28

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      thank you and yourself good luck st the doctors let us know how you get on xx I couldn't take HRT because my dad had a massive stroke at my age of 53 and never recovered I also have high blood pressure as well sad Hope all goes well for your husband Hun mine is diabetic and has real bad hypos which scare me to death so I think we have other issues we just deal with and think they don't effect us but deep down I guess they do 😢 Xx
    • Fairy28
      Fairy28 cazjaz16

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      You're absoloutly right so many things going on around us and I don't know about you or any other ladies here but we have to still be the 'strong one' , the one who has to try and hold everything together and be calm for everyone else - then it takes a massive toll on us. We still have to be mothers, listeners, carers, cooks, housekeepers and everything else - plus some of us still have to go to work aswell ! Actually we are unbelievable as women, we go through hell and still somehow cope , I really don't know how we do it I really don't. ! Sometimes I would love to just stay in bed all day under the covers and cry feeling sorry for myself , but still we carry on - what wonderful creatures we are I think we deserve a huge medal don't you ! Good luck with everything hun and yes keep in touch xx😃
    • cazjaz16
      cazjaz16 Fairy28

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      Absolutely I still have a young son of 14 as well and he suffers anxiety as well disabled mother diabetic husband 3 rescue dogs if I gave up dunno what would happen so we just carry on I don't talk about my feelings much at all either just keep the house and family ticking over and 24/7 hour carer for my very disabled mum we all live in one house x
    • Fairy28
      Fairy28 cazjaz16

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      Good grief you are amazing you really are. . . .be kind to yourself hun, do you ever get any time to yourself to have a little treat ? Do you do all the dog walking aswell ? Been there too, we had dogs including rescue ones for over 20 years, I had three all at once and it was me who did all the walking, clearing up after them, feeding etc - all the muddy feet in the rain and then they come in the house and shake all the mud all up the walls, and guess who cleared it all up ! Right there with you hun xx
    • cazjaz16
      cazjaz16 Fairy28

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      No I can't walk them by myself as can't leave the house but have 1/4 acre and they run and play in the garden there little dogs Yorkie crosses and a chihuahua and when we can hubby takes me out with them but we have just bought a caravan at Hopton Norfolk Suffolk borders so try and go every six weeks for a weekend and my oldest son comes and stays with my mum we only got caravan in August and now the time has come to close it up for winter so will deffo miss my little breaks as we take the dogs and do 3/4 long walks aday and I am to recharge away from home .
    • cazjaz16
      cazjaz16

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      I hate going to the doctors which I rarely do as now wants to change my meds and have therapy but I just feel I can do this myself does that make sense? Now I'm in 2 mines about changing my meds and don't want to go talk about stuff either 😭. I think us woman just carry on no matter what I always think there are much worse people suffering than I do so plod on. I have times where I feel I can't carry on being me but then after awhile I'll be okay again bloody hormones lol
    • Fairy28
      Fairy28 cazjaz16

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      That's nice for you then at least you have nice breaks to look forward too, Suffolk is lovely, my youngest daughter used to live there. At least with smaller breeds you don't have to go for miles and miles, I had collies and even four walks a day was never enough, they wore me out - looking back now though I was DEFINATLEY fitter and slimmer when I had dogs, maybe I should get another ! When I mention it to hubby it's a great big NO, he can remember all the vets bills ! Don't know why though, it was always me that paid them ! . . . Am here if you ever need a chat x
    • cazjaz16
      cazjaz16 Fairy28

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      Thank you my love same here for you anytime xx
    • jackie95472
      jackie95472 michelle50768

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      Michelle, I got an ablation for the flooding.  I HAVE horrible gerd!!  Horrible.  I take an medication for that.  I'm on HRT because I wasn't sleeping.  I'm taking a medication for that as well, not sleeping.  Moods were awful and fatigue.  Antidepressant.  Sorry I need help and I don't need to suffer more that I have at the beginning of all this.  GET HELP!
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