That's for sure

What is the difference between HSV1 or HSV2? I thought HSV 1 was oral and HSV 2 was gential..? Even though he's never had a breakout in the 2 1/5 months we've been together? I can get it that quickly??

Of course you can. Most first outbreaks occur within a week of infection. And both types can infect either location, though they each have a general preference (1 prefers the mouth, 2 prefers the genitals, but it's only a preference, not a hard and fast rule). The difference is in outbreak frequency, infectiousness, stigma.

If your doctor didn't tell you the type, I'd call back to find out, and if they didn't type it, insist that they do if you still have lesions to swab again, although they're older now, so the results may be less accurate. Only other option would be to do the IgG blood test at 3+ months.

From what I remember I believe it was HSV2 she did say but I was completely crying on the phone. Omg really?! That quickly!  Wait so can two people have a relationship that both have herpes? I'm assuming yes just is there more risk ? I have so many thoughts running through my head. If he doesn't accept it I don't think I'll ever find another person. 

Like I said I don't even know how to go about telling my current boyfriend this. I've read people being in relationships for years and then all of a sudden had a outbreak? Can you go years before your first initial outbreak?! 

My partner and I of 11 years both have HSV2 and both manage and control our outbreaks. There is only a risk if one person does not keep up with their hygene and lets the outbreaks get out of control. I have heard different stories about when the first outbreak was and how long before they had their first ones. I can personally speak on myself when i had noticed more itching before i actually had a physical outbreak on my skin. everyone is different tho... If your boyfriend is not cool with it then i can honestly tell you maybe he was just not meant to be the one and life goes on... What matters is your health and preventing any spread as well as preventing yourself from catching any future STDs or STI's because of not wearing a condom. We learn from our mistakes.

A mistake that is forever with me. I can honestly say I HATE the person that gave it to me. They weren't honest nothing. Now I have it and need to be careful but that person could be spreading it. I can't help but just feel gross maybe once the outbreak goes away I'll feel better but as of right now I'm disgusting. It already hurts to pee I am afraid to pee afraid to wipe afraid to shower it's so completely sad. 

I honestly hope I find someone like you did. It gives me some hope that someone will accept me again 

It hurts alot and you will feel alot of anger and sadness but keep your head up and know that you are not alone. I hated myself for being such an idiot and allowing myself to be vulnerable in a weak time during my life but now i am stronger and more knowledgeable about the virus. I can sit here and tell you that there is alot of medication you can purchase on the internet and you may even find a few scams about "a cure" but dont buy into that crap to be honest because i feel like its all a market scheme to make money off of people who were not smart enough to use a condom.. When i first had my outbreak i purchased an expensive product that they said was the best in the market to keep outbreaks down for months at a time.. it came in a little glass vile and looked like a light blue liquid inside.. you break the glass bottle like a glowstick and apply the liquid to the outbreak.. and then it would kill the virus.. well to cut my long story short.. it smelled like icy hot and felt like i poured hot acid all over my genitals... then when it dripped down it spread the infection to other parts of my body.. i was upset... so after realizing that "menthol" is the best method to dry out and kill outbreaks... ive found ways to prevent myself from getting these aweful and highly painful outbreaks... obviously females cant just stick stuff like that inside them without it feeling like a cool and burning sensation... but ive read from other females that gold bond with lidocaine works perfect down there... maybe try peeing in the bathtub full of water to help relieve the burn when you urinate...

 

A shower is already painful I can't imagine what sitting in a bathtub will feel like! Something I should try and will. I've learned how much pain tolerance I have because a vagina is a sensitive spot! I want to put like a sponge there and pee on that to avoid it hitting the sores! Obviously I can't do that. 

I'm definitely going to look into that gold bond. The doctor on the phone said I take the 1 pill every 12 hours for three days .... will the sores be gone after that?! 

The medication your doctor gave you will help kill the infection but not kill the virus.. the sores will go away but can come back later if you dont take care of your body...

here are the stages to look out for...

1.. feel an itch or tingle sensation but no skin is broken...

2... red rash or pimple like bumps beginning to emerge from skin...

3.... pimples are exposed and obvious and look like they are about to pop...

4..... After pimples pop they become very contageous sores or ulsers that look like volcanoes on your skin.. they sometimes puss and can spread the virus faster than you can blink.. if you have about 5-10 of these you should be able to self manage them but if you have about 10-20 then you MUST go see a doctor for treatment medication.

5... after the sores/ulser heal they begin to skab over and itch alot... you are tempted to scratch the skabs but are painful in doing so...

6.... after the skabs heal they leave behind scars of where the outbreak once occured..

7... if you dont keep up with your body this whole cycle will repeat itself....

 

So I will have scars after this first outbreak? Would I need the gold bond during the medication? I understand the virus is forever with me. 

I already am very healthy and I guess you could say fit. The only other problem I have is my asthma which makes my immune system very low. Which isn't good so I try my best to keep it up. 

So basically any slight difference I feel down there I can have an outbreak. 

Right now my doctor said to wash with a mild soap like dove for sensitive skin. Which I do,  was the outside of my lips and right on top because the only thing I can use on the sores is a cotton round with witch hazel. My doctor said to dab the outer and inner labia with the cotton rounds three times a day but I do it 4 times because I feel like since it's so painful to wash this kinda helps in the long run. It has made my swelling go down tremendously and the pain a tad bit less

Yes they will create scar tissue on the surface of your skin where the infection was. The gold bond will help relieve the pain and speed up your skin healing itself.

I also have asthma and as long as you take vitamins and eat healthy while keeping your stress levels down then i think you should be ok.. Remember your first outbreak is always your worst so it gets better from here.. I workout daily to keep my mind off of stress so if you are active i think that is another good thing..

If you feel like a stinging or cooling/burning tingling sentation that you never felt before then its possible you could experience an outbreak soon. Everytime you have an outbreak you dont have to see the doctor as long as you can manage and control it. You will save alot of time and money too, just stay clean and keep dry.

My doctor told me to use the same type of soap but it made me breakout more.. so i use that dry soap called "zest" and it drys the skin too much so i use healing ointment after the shower to relief the dry skin and it also helps to heal the skin also..

When i feel a tingle i quickly put mint toothpaste on the spot that itches and as soon as i notice a bump emerging it also begins to dissappear. The bumps are under the skin so the toothpaste burns it soo bad deep beneath the skin that it dries it out and kills it. this method works on regular facial pimples also.. that is how i leaned about this method... i was curious to see if it would work on my genitals and sure enough i use it ever since... some or most people may disagree with me about that but it worked for me...

now im not telling you to do this because i admit it does burn like a mofo at first..

stick with what your doctor said about cleaning it and just keep doing research about new and home made ways to treat and prevent future outbreaks.

 

Wait so like actual toothpaste?! Omg I'd be nervous because like right now my sores are in my inner labia. Might try to gold bond first! 

Well four years ago I was medically induced into a coma because of my asthma my lungs collapsed and I wasn't getting air. Since then I've been building my immune system and I'm doing a pretty good job I think I have gotten sick three times in four years. 

It doesn't help I'm stressing right now because I am on my way to my boyfriends house to break the news some how. I still can't say I have herpes without crying like right now I hope this gets easier and less painful. I'm such a clean person like I don't mind getting dirty but I'm not a germ freak. 

This forum is all I have right now to talk to too which makes me feel sad because I'm honesty afraid of rejection on how people are going to take it when I need to tell them. 

Yea actual used for your teeth toothpaste is what ive been using but i dont recommend for vaginas.

Dont feel like its your fault because if you have only had one sexual partner then odds are its because your boyfriend might have gotten it from someone else but if he blames you then maybe he is not the one for you. People who understand you are going to help you but people who fault and blame you are not who you want to surround yourself with anyways.. When God closes one door. He opens another.

Keep your head up.

Unfortunately he is not my only partner in my life. I hope he accepts it but who knows at this point 

Oh. I. See... well, next time just be smart about wearing a condom and I dont think he is going to be happy if you cheated on him. I know i was not happy about that but the HSV2 I eventually forgave and moved on but am still reminded when i get another outbreak. Its hard but you will get over the hard part soon. The messed up part is that who ever infected you was irresponsible about spreading the virus. That is exactly how i caught it because i never slept around so i surely understand your situation. Im sure after he learns to cope with it he will come back around because you both have it and it is easier to grow with an infected partner rather than living in fear of having to explain yourself to a new partner. But then again you dont wanna be forced into a relationship if youre not happy in other areas either...

Your completely right. He is actually unaware if he even has it or not. He wants to get tested and now he's like I'll feel bad if I do have it because I gave it to you. Like I told him I only hate myself for it. I can't hate anyone else because in the end that person may not know they have it. I told him I could've had it and gave it to you. All I know is he's accepting me for me still and both want to work on it to stay healthy together and avoid another outbreak for me. Now I'm somewhat more happy that he's accepting. 

Two people with the same type can have a relationship without risk, especially after each person has produced full antibodies to the virus in question (after 4 months of infection). Some people don't get a first outbreak until much later, but like I said, most (vast majority) people get it within a week of infection. There was a study on this.

There are too many posts in this thread to follow, but if you recently had sex with someone else other than your current bf, as maybe seems to be the case, then it's no guarantee you got this from your bf after all. Just wanted to add that. You may also wish to double check that you heard right about it being HSV2.

Yeah unfortunately we are unaware if I got it from him but even if I did I wouldn't be mad he was unaware yes it sucks but what can you do but move on and take care of yourself. Well isn't HSV1 is oral? I have gential herpes and I'm pretty damn sure she said my HSV2 came back positive. 

But he wants to get tested because now he's curious if he has it. He even said it would be easier if he just had it for both of us. 

I'm just very very happy he's okay with this situation and still wants to be with me.  I couldn't help but cry when I told him I couldn't even look at him. Next thing I know is he got up hugged me and gave me a kiss and said it is what it is we will work it out