The 12 pack is almost done and I am calling in to work to not show

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Not to mention things are super messed up with my son's mom and us. We were supposed to get married. I broke a promise to not drink. I HATE THIS. I've detoxed before. It's fine, I have messed up problems besides this. I am scared. I hate myself and I want to die. Please. Don't yell at me.

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    Withdrawal on the downswing and the worse is over. Strange dreams kept me up today, but I managed to get some more sleep. I am fearful of the nightmares that will come in the next few days.

    I wasn't expecting any religious stuff here. I meant at whatever professional help I will seek. It has been suggested that I get on those drugs that make you vomit if you have a drink. Does anyone have any experience with those?

    Some good news. We did a another test this morning, yes she is pregnant. I am thinking this is a blessing in disguise. We are happy and a little bittersweet about it. Hows that for timing? Break up with your fiance and find out your pregnant on Friday the 13th, with Valentines Day the next day on the 14th! We were able to laugh about that this morning. We have a 3 year old already and it's always been about him first. It sounds kind of trashy I know, but we've never let our crap get in the way of the kid. And now kids.

    Again, if anyone has any experience with the drugs that limit the pleasant effects of alcohol or straight up make you vomit, I'd like to know more. I have a fundemental problem with the 1st of the twelve steps. Only I am in control of my body and only I have the ability to get bettter.

    Thanks for listening.

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      Hi hon

      Antabuse probably saved my life. I took it 13 years ago and haven't had a drink since. You would be very very ill if you drank on this. It had no side effects and took away that constant shall I shant I obsessing, I knew I couldn't have a drink and that was that. It probably saved my marriage too as my husband saw me take my pill in the morning so I didn't get the has she had a drink evil eye when he got in from work. He also didn't follow me everywhere I went to check I didn't have a drink (I can't blame him for doing this but it did make me nuts!!) if you need me private message or just a chat as I know how hard it is.

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      Thanks for the info. I know that drug has been around for a long time. I am skeptical of its efficacy though. The numbers don't lie. However it worked for you! So great!

      I'm going to meet with my Dr. next week for a full health checkup and speak with her about some of these drugs. There are only 3 that are FDA approved I believe and they all work differently. I will also be getting a referral for a therapist. I am not going to go to some group meeting where I have to say "I have no control, God does." God isn't making me buy beer. God isn't making me type these words. My brain is. I have control over my fate. If I didn't I would have driven both my son and I into oncomming traffic in the middle of a blackout.

      From what I gather, Antabuse makes you very sick if you drink. The other makes it so you basically don't feel the euphoria from drinking. Alcohol doesn't do anything to you, so what's the point? The 3rd approved drug changes the way the brain works in general, similar to an antidepressant. But I am not real clear on that one. It is somethign like 300mg's 3 times a day! Ugh.

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      I don't know much about the other two. I do no that I didn't get much euphoria from drinking in the end, I didn't even enjoy it I was just drinking to keep the withdrawals and anxiety at bay (7 o clock in the morning, glass of wine or three, not good) In fact in the end.it turned against me and made me anxious. Every morning it was my first thought and with Antabuse I just knew I couldn't full stop. I think with alcohol it can be harder than drugs because obviously it's obviously all around you Let me know how you get on and what you go for..x
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      I believe that getting sober is extremely hard.  I get sober for a few months and then get into a relationship and I am drunk about 2 weeks into it.  Relationships defocus me from staying sober.  I am very codependent which means that my self worth is based on what others think of me.  Started going to alonon and it really helps.  I learned that I was not a victim but a volenteer for abuse.  Abuse is familar since I was raised in violent home.  Being treated nicely turns me off cause it's uncomfortable and I think those people are weak.  I need to realize that i have a faulty belief system and change my belief that are autoprogramed in me almost unconsiously.  Notice that family and familar are similar.  Sounds lik your girlfriend is repeating the same relationship she had with her father through you.  Which is going to repeat for her over and over with you or after you she will typically find another alcoholic unles she works on herself and heals the childhood wounds.  She actually believes all men are bad and will find men to subconsiouly to prove she is right.  The ego is very powerful.  Even setting you up to fail.  So she will always be in control.  Just my experience.

       

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      Oh my God, you nailed her deal exactly! THANK YOU!

      I always knew this I just couldn't articulate it as well as you did.

      I will keep this in mind when in therapy and keeping sober. 4 days now! We are nearing a record folks! PLUS I have my Dr. appointment tomorrow. They didn't want to take me until a few weeks for a health screening and I also mentioned alcohol cessation. I said that's unnacceptable. They said they only take people right away if they are sick, with a cold etc.

      So I responded with "I AM sick! I can't stop drinking!" So they took me for tomorrow, but with no physical and health screening. 

      If I am not given these drugs and blown off I am walking out with "OK thanks for nothin, to the internet for drugs!"

       

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      Glad to hear you have a doctors appointment, look forward to hearing how you go on, I hope it goes well.

      And WELL DONE on 4 days!!!  That's amazing, you must have enormous will power.

      Keep it up,

      Pat.

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